Could you...

United States
February 25, 2008 12:09pm CST
forgive your spouse or girl/boyfriend if they cheated on you? And do you believe once a cheater always a cheater?
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• United States
25 Feb 08
I could certainly forgive my husband if he cheated on me. The tough part would be forgetting it. It would be tough to trust him again. I don't believe that once a cheater always a cheater. I do think that as humans, we can make a mistake, even the mistake of infidelity and not repeat. I do, however, think it would put a mark on the relationship that would cause distrust and it would be difficult to move past the indiscretion.
@honeylore23 (1086)
• United States
25 Feb 08
Hello queenofarms, I think I would forgive him if ever he cheated on me, but the effect of forgetting and trusting again after the cheating issue would depend on the impact of it to my life. In as much as I can, I always understand how people behave and why do they behave like that, and bf's are part of that. I know that all the mistakes we have has always reasons. So I would give him a time to explain and to change for the better if he would asked to. But if he do it over and over again, well, I can still forgive him, but I don't think I should ever want to still go on with the relationship. It is easy to forgive but the pain that is brought with it is hard to deal with. I don't think cheater would always be a cheater. That would be a misjudgment and somewhat unfair to the part of people who once cheat. It would mean they are not capable of changing. All people are subject to change and learn with mistakes. The will to change has something to do with cheating issue. If you once cheat and you don't want it to happen again, you will less likely do it again if you have will to change and if you are really sorry and you mean what you said.
• United States
25 Feb 08
Hello honeylore23, Thanks for your response. I feel exactly the same way. Everyone deserves a second chance.
@angemac23 (2006)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
I would never fogive someone if they cheated on me. Cheating puts both parties at risk for STD's and dangerous infections and no one has the right to put my health and life in danger. Not to mention it jeopardizes the trust in the relationship and makes the other person feel worthless and used....there is never an excuse to cheat someone wants to cheat than that means they do not care about their partner and they should break up with them before moving on to someone else.
• United States
25 Feb 08
I agree...It had happened to me and was just wondering how everyone felt about this subject....Thanks for your response.
@winterose (39915)
• Canada
26 Feb 08
it would all depend on how long he had been doing it, if it was going on for years no, once a one night stand, then maybe, I would have to know the story and judge from there.
@subha12 (18472)
• India
26 Feb 08
I think no. I just can forgive someone who has cheated on me. I am not so graet taht i will forget all and again start afresh. I feel also once a cheater always a cheater.
@ellie333 (21030)
26 Feb 08
Would forgive but not forget and leave them because if they have done it once they are capable of doing again. There must have been problems in the relationship for them to do this so would discuss to find out what and why? But if they cheated they would have not respected me enough by putting my health and wellbeing first. I have always been loyal in relationships and would expect the same from a partner. Ellie :D
@roniroxas (10577)
• Philippines
25 Feb 08
i am separated from my husband 7-8 years now. i and my children left him. i forgave him once, twice, thrice or more. you expect your partner to be honest and loyal... i cant say once a cheater always a cheater sometimes cheaters needs a doze of their own medicine so they know how bitter it is.
• United States
25 Feb 08
once a cheater always a cheater. i learned this by experiencing it myself. i once cheated and thought i would never do it again, yet i did do it again. so if i can never forgive myself, i would never forgive my boyfriend if he cheated on me.
@redrover (597)
• United States
25 Feb 08
Once a cheater always a cheater sums it up.