I May Push Your Buttons But I Didn't Install Them

United States
February 26, 2008 12:59pm CST
Doesn't that make you think? If I asked you to name one of the biggest things that gets under your skin I could bet that many of you would already be typing your answer in your head before you even finish reading this discussion. Now if I asked you Why, why is that a major pet peeve of yours you would have to think a little about it, wouldn't you? I have people tell me all the time that I lack tact. I'm too blunt. My response is always, tact is for people who lack the wit for sarcasm. If someone can't take a joke or some constructive criticism especially when they ask for my opinion then I have no apologies for not sugar coating my answers. If you want me to lie to you to give you an ego boost to brighten your day to make you feel better, tell me. That is what you'll get. If you don't make that disclaimer upfront, chances are I am going to offend you. Why are you offended if I am giving you exactly what you asked for, my opinion! What is YOUR issue that makes you take offense to the words I say or the manner in which I am saying/typing them? How many of you have buttons installed and are constantly getting them pushed here when you read comments people leave or discussions people write? But the more important question is, Where did those buttons come from?
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@skinnychick (6907)
• United States
27 Feb 08
There are some people that push my buttons but they atupiditsre just stupid and their stupidity is annoying-LOL. But you personally of course don't offend me..as a matter of fact I look forward to what you have to say because chances are I'm thinking it!:)
• United States
2 Mar 08
I very rarely choose my words carefully and it is the people who appreciate me for that, that I have come to cherish on this site. I can't stand when someone comments me ranting about something they "thought" I was saying when so many other people saw I was saying something completely different.
• United States
3 Mar 08
If I'm talking about stupid people, I probably shouldn't do stuff like this word- atupiditsre- what the hell is that? LOL My lap top cursor is screwing and I think I posted this from there. Anyway, gotta love it when people don't get what you say. It makes their life much easier when they can twist whatever you said around to fit their own purposes...Ughhhhh.
• United States
3 Mar 08
omg- the cursor is not screwing- i meant screwy!
@bellaofchaos (11549)
• United States
27 Feb 08
My other half pushes my buttons by leaving everything up to me or committing to something and offering me to do it.. Or him saying that I'm going to to this and not tell me he committed me to it or asked it I could .. LOL!! So yep that pushes my button. But I'm laid back and just think that it takes less stress and aggravation to just do it than to argue about it. So who pushed your button love.
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• United States
2 Mar 08
Your other half has been pushing my buttons for dang near 15 years. How you have managed to stay sane I will never understand. But like you at least with him I too just deal with it now and let it go because arguing about it is senseless.
• United States
3 Mar 08
I don't know I just start thinking of how I start the selective hearing witht he kids and start that with him and then I just I don't know it has become an art form though. LOL!!!Also if I kill him for the stuff that he commits me to then it's quick and painless for him I like to think of making him suffer later on down the road for something he has done.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
2 Mar 08
Would you believe me if I said that I feel that I'm not assertive enough? Really, I don't lack confidence, I just let other people have their way even when it doesn't suit me. I am very eager to please and I hate upsetting people. Even when I promise poetry and know that it can wait a day or two I worry that I will be thought the less of by them. I know where it comes from. My family are all achievers and I was expected to be one too. And I am. But that's another story. But it can be hard trying for 110% all the time. It took me the longest, I was the least successful. But I am happy with myself now and that's what matters.
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• United States
2 Mar 08
I take pretty much everything people say they are going to do with a grain of salt. Not that I think they are incapable of doing it or whatever I just don't hold my breath waiting around for it to be done. But when it does get done I am appreciative of the effort the person put forth. As for you not being assertive enough I used to be just like that too until I realized that people took that as an invitation to take advantage of me. I'm glad to see you worked so hard for where you are now and I'm glad you are happy. As long as you are happy with yourself then screw everyone else who isn't.
@madasp (563)
• United States
27 Feb 08
Definetly people who think they know everything when they obviously don't.The ones who will push thier opinion on you as if its 100% the only correct answer when in fact its only thier opinion or what they think is the only answer.The ones who believe they know what the "right" answer is when they don't know all the facts and have never experienced the situation or topic being discussed. And before anyone starts wondering, I'm not talking about anyone specific here LOL. I'm talking about people in general. I work with a woman who I swear would argue with me over what my kids names are and she would believe she was right. Those are the types of people I'm talking about. If people have an opinion I'm more than happy to hear what it is regardless of wether I agree or not, but how hard is it to say: "In my opinion" or "what I think" instead of stating it as if were absolute fact. In answer to your other question I don't believe I've ever read one of your responses that would have offended me. Your responses are all well written and honest and I can respect that regardless of wether or not I agree. I can also take a joke and see sarcasm as humor so feel free to respond to my discussions in any way you choose LOL.
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• United States
2 Mar 08
Good! Very very good! And I actually started a discussion about the very people you mention that push your buttons. Everyone is an expert on everything these days and they are always right in your face telling you EXACTLY how wrong you are and how right they are when they have zero experience to back up their overly inflated egos. I've found myself offending more and more people the longer I am here so I appreciate the fact that you get the sarcasm and the humor where it is intended. I wish there was a course people could take to teach them how to do that.
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@starangel (414)
• United States
27 Feb 08
I'm very blunt and very sarcastic. I like to joke around, and i'm very opinionated. However, when i speak my mind, i'm not in a witchy mood or anything. I'm just having a conversation. I don't care for when people get offended by my opinions. Either it's because I disagreed w/ them, or I hurt their feelings because they took my sarcasm personal. I also can't stand when people twist my words to make me look like i'm an awful person. I believe in giving people honest answers, but I also believe in being polite about it. Or at least having some sort of tact. lol. if people still want to argue or play the 'victim' i won't put up w/ it. I let them know it, too. Having an opinion is fine. For example, if someone asks how they look w/ a certain shirt and it's not for them i tell them that it doesn't really fit them. i won't say something like "it makes you look fat and ------- retarded". There's a clear difference between being open and honest versus just being a witch. anyway. i'm not offended by you. I hardly know you. But, I think we have something in common because for a minute i thought you were me talking. lol.
• United States
2 Mar 08
People like us are few and far between. If my friend asks me if she looks fat in something and it isn't for her I tell her that she shouldn't wear it. Not that it makes her look fat. But then I point out to her that it isn't clothes that make us look fat, it is fat that makes us look fat...that is usually where I'm told I have no tact. lol
26 Feb 08
wow you are obviously talking about a partcular thing that really did happen cos that was a bit of a rant; obviously people critising your honest pushes your buttons. I must confess the thing that pushes my buttons is people critising my laugh. That is not something I ask for an opinion on nor is it something that I can change about myself so i really do hate it when people say something about it. It aint really a loud or irritating one. It is just downright giggly but I really get hurt when people say something cruel about it. I think though I must say even although honesty is always the best policy when it comes to giving opinions just remember that you should always remember that people have feelings and it is not nice to hurt them blatantly.
• United States
2 Mar 08
People only get my opinion when they ask for it. If I knew you and your laugh sounded like a cross between a hyena and a warthog I would just ignore it. Now if you were to come to me and say, what do you think about my laugh, I would tell you. And while it isn't right to blatantly hurt someones feelings, the person should be prepared to get their feelings hurt by the truth if that is what they find so offensive.
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
27 Feb 08
The only one that pushes my real buttons is my husband!! I dont let the people here at mylot really bother me. Once in a while i'll complain about This type of person or that type of person, but really.. How could i expect less from a site so big. Really we have it fairly good here.. I am glad that you are blunt, and to the point, Sometimes we need someone to tell us how things are. I expect nothing but the truth from people when i ask questions in my discussions.. However. i AM very careful what i ask! The buttons that i have installed, I couldnt tell you why they are installed!! your are right about that!! I really dont know.. maybe i should think about it some. It really is only a few buttons..