My husband is selfish

Australia
February 27, 2008 9:28am CST
I just dont get him somethimes. I dont know is it me that has a problem or is it him. Say there is a pack of mini chocolates and there is 1 left I ask my husband and son if they want it before I have it and if they do I cut it equally between us. My husband will never do that and in fact if I tell him I want some he will forget and eat the whole thing. Today was the final straw. My son sat down to eat and as the food was hot I told him to go put his pj's on. In that time my husband went and eat my sons food thinking he was finished. Then I had an angree 4 year old that I had to cook again for. He always asumes that no one wants it and I always asume that someone will want it. Is it so hard to ask?
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@SViswan (12095)
• India
27 Feb 08
lol...that's an eternal question - he always assumes no one wants it and I always assume that someone wants it. We have the same problem at my place...and now I've given up on my husband. If there is any chance that he would gobble it up before asking, I tell him that it is meant for everyone (repeatedly) and still I find that things kept for someone else is finished...and when I point it out he says 'How was I to know'! He just assumes he's the only one in the house who needs to eat. He'd rather I make more than we need than have me tell him that it is meant for someone.
• Australia
27 Feb 08
Are you sure they are not related ask your father in law if he visited Yugoslavia in 1974 lol. when we got married it is a tradition to bring sweets for the bride and groom so we got lots of boxes of chocolates. My husband would just open a box eat the chocolates and put the box back. As friends and family came to congratulate us I would take a box to serve them and there would be no chocolates left so I would have to find one box that actually had something in it.
@SViswan (12095)
• India
27 Feb 08
lol....but my husband's the other extreme with guests. He doesn't eat ANYTHING when we have guests. It's only the family he doesn't care about. But does sound like some sort of connection between them...sure your FIL never visited India?:P
• Australia
27 Feb 08
he dosnt ate them when we had people over he ate the chocolates before :)) As for my fil you never know I know he went to italy and germany not sure about india
@Ldyjarhead (10161)
• United States
27 Feb 08
Can't say I've ever known anyone like that, but it would sure irritate me if they did. I don't like to take the last of anything, and will usually offer it to everyone else first.
• Australia
27 Feb 08
he dosnt do it on purpose but simply does not think. He grew up with younger brother and sister (3 kids in less than 3 years my mother in law had) so he was always fighting over things my sister in law got her way because she was the only girl, and my brother in law got it his way because he is the baby in the family. Then he lived with room mates again it was first in best serve thing so it is hard for him to re learn things.
@Ldyjarhead (10161)
• United States
27 Feb 08
So its a matter of 'grab it now or you'll go hungry'? Interesting. I once dated a guy that ate realllly slooooooowwwww, would even read a book sometimes while eating at the dinner table. I'm a fast eater, so it drove me crazy! He always said it was because it was just he and one sister at home, so they didn't have to fight over food.
• Australia
27 Feb 08
you just made a great point he eats fast as well and I eat slow by the time I finish he is hungry again :)))) they were not poor but his family did have to go without a lot as only my father in law worked and money was an issue. on the other hand I have only 1 sister and she got married when I was 13 and we had always had a lot.
@razcal2267 (15577)
• United States
28 Feb 08
You have a big child on your hands like my sister does. She has 3 sons but always says she has 4 boys and the biggest one is the most trouble. Her husband does things like that with the food all the time. The 6 year old taught him a lesson though. The last time his father tried to take his plate of food because he assumes he was finished my nephew caught his father doing is out of the corner of his eye, walked over and coughed over the plate (he had a very bad cold at the time) and then sneezed. Of course my brother-in-law started to push the plate away as he didn't want it anymore but my nephew the wonderful sharing child that he is looked up at his father as he was handing the plate back to him and said "its ok daddy you can it my food, I don't want it now that it is full of snot."
• Australia
29 Feb 08
hahahahah that is so funny. My son would actually be pleased if someone took his plate (asuming that he ate few bites because he is not a big fan of food) but when it comes to junk food he would kill someone. He is only allowed 1 thing a day 1 snack size chocolate or 1 small chips (the snack size) or 3-4 sweets. But most days he has none of those because we only give them to him when he asks and if he dosnt thean we dont remind him.
@bimmer999 (1160)
• Philippines
28 Feb 08
wow i sometimes do that to my wife...and she always says im selfish..guilty here hehehe
• Australia
29 Feb 08
Shame on you lol I often send my husband to the shops to get a replecment
@slavezero (835)
• Philippines
28 Feb 08
Well your description for your husband seems to fit so well. I myself wonder how he manage to do that. Here in my house, it is always the sake of my family that is important to me. I would gladly give up my part for something I know they like. I believe it is better if you will talk to him regarding that. It is not right that he is acting that way esp in front of his son. No offense meant, but your husband seems to have a problem in his behavior. Its better to talk to him.
• Australia
29 Feb 08
I have talked to him lots of times he sais that he dosnt think when he does that. He sais that most of the things he eats have been there for ages and if someone wants it that person could have eaten it before he has a point there but it is still anoying.
@foxyfire33 (10017)
• United States
27 Feb 08
My s/o is selfish to but not in that way...it's my step son that I have that problem with. On Valentine's Day s/o had gotten me a box of noodles (yes, I know that seems strange but they are the main ingredient in my favorite lunch dish so it really was a sweet gesture so I could have my favorite food on Valentine's Day). Anyway...before I had a chance to cook them, stepson decided he was going to. I stood right there in the kitchen and said "those are MINE, for lunch tomorrow" I was given a blank look and he cooked them anyway...well there was more arguing from me before he cooked them but he still ignored it all. My shampoo, razors and laundry detergent are constantly getting used by him and his girlfriend. He's eaten the last of food intended for the little boys...once when we only had one vehicle, he even took off in mine for the entire night AFTER I told him I needed it and was getting ready to leave! Ugh! So I feel for you on the selfish men part! At least for me there is an end in sight since he will be 18 soon and eventually will leave home LOL!
• Australia
27 Feb 08
oh dear me and in your case its so bad because you are dealing with that whole step thing which must be frustrating. I am teaching my husband every day and man he can be an idiot somethimes :)