Thank You Letters?

February 27, 2008 9:44am CST
Does anyone else still write out thank you letters to relatives after receiving Christmas and birthday presents? I'm in the process of writing some out now. I know that my elderly relatives really appreciate them, especially those that are a bit lonely. I always write them by hand because I think it shows more effort and also because they've been prone to sending me writing stationary and I feel a bit rude if I type something out instead of using it! It's a nice feeling to pop a hand-written letter in the post. Does anyone else still do this? Do you receive thank you letters and do you appreciate them when you do get them?
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• Singapore
28 Feb 08
How nice! Presents! I love presents too.:P If I receive presents, I will say thank you on the spot. If they are from abroad, I think the least I can do is a sms or email to express my thanks. If the present is expensive, a call or a hand-written note would be in order.:)
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1 Mar 08
It's just good to let people know you appreciate them and what they've done for you isn't it?
@klaudyou (501)
27 Feb 08
I did until a while ago, unfortunately...But I really appreciate when someone still writes like this. When you write a letter by hand, you put a little more of YOU in the message, you give it a personal touch. Standardization (like typing) makes us colder, impersonal and sometimes shows apathy. A love letter, for instance, is always "softer", "warmer" than even pronouncing the words, not to mention if you type a message. Words are not only meant to convey messages, pure information or knowledge, but they are also meant to convey feelings, and there is a big part of paraverbal indices even in writing: the writing style is one of them...someone, if you remember could tell your personality from your writing style, and that is not a blind guess - there are some causes for the effects. The theory could continue, but one thing is certain...hand-writing is more valuable for people who know how to "read"!
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28 Feb 08
I love your sentimentality. You've really articulated it so well. Thank you.
@raydene (9875)
• United States
27 Feb 08
I do not send many things through the snail mail..I am too environmentally aware to clutter the world with needless paperwork that someone will not care about. I do have a few elderly friends that I send cards to because they mean alot to them. Most people today do not value cards the way they used to.Myself I hate getting cards..they are beautiful so you hate to toss them but what do you do with them? answer is I cut the front from the back and put them in a bad and donate them to the local headstart to use for crafts..I just hate waste! xoxoxoxo xoxoxoxoxo
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28 Feb 08
I don't send them that often I suppose, but I hadn't thought about it in an environmental sense. It's such a shame that we have to be careful on important things to balance out all the utter garbage companies shove through your mail slot on a daily basis. :( It's so lovely what you do with the cards you get. I don't know of any craft centres or the like around here that I can donate too. I keep all keepsakes like that in memory shoe boxes or cut out the pictures to glue in my journal scrapbooks. xxxx
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
I do love writing letters. Nothing beats letters that are personally written (I mean writing using pen and paper). I never fail to write thank you letters for people who have done something good to or for me. This include people who have sent me cards or have given me gifts. This also include people who have done me favors.
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27 Feb 08
I like using nice stationary and a fountain pen because I think it makes my writing look better.
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
27 Feb 08
i write them out religiously. i feel like they are tacky and unneccesary, but they can and do make a big difference...if i recieve one I always think, aww...that's sweet, they didn't have to do that, they just wasted good money on a dumb stamp, lol... The elderly especially like them. We did my friend a favor by getting her washer & dryer out of her mother's house - did us a favor too because even though they were used, they wree about 15 years newer & nicer than the ones I had. I wrote a nice thank you to the mother & she is still talking about it handwritten notes always go farther than typed notes...sometimes i will put my email address at the bottom of them...
27 Feb 08
I wouldn't say that they are tacky. I'm always touched when I receive a nice, handwritten letter or card. It's such a rare occurrence. It's a good idea to put your e-mail address at the bottom. I might start doing that for people I know that actually use the Internet.
@Sillychick (3282)
• United States
27 Feb 08
I do still write letters by hand. Typing the seems so formal, and I don't like that. As for thank you notes, I generally only send them to people who are out of town. I have relatives and friends who sent gifts through the mail, and since they weren't here to see us open them, I feel a personal note is in order. But for my parents, who are here and see us open the gifts, we thank them in person and feel a written note is not necessary. The only exception to that is if a person really went above and beyond the call of duty. Like my sister who helped me a great deal with my son's birthday party. Even though I see her all the time and thanked her in person, I felt it was appropriate to express my gratitude in writing for her help.
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27 Feb 08
I feel the exact same way. And there is definitely something more personal about writing it by hand too.
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
I am not fond of writing thank you letters. But I do make it a point that if I was given something, i said thank you right away. I always makes it verbal than written.
27 Feb 08
You still believe in good manners though because you make a point of thanking people. That's good.
@cortjo73 (6503)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I still write Thank You letters to everyone who gifts me. My brother and sister don't. My mom tells me all the time that my Aunt tells her how nice it is that I write thank you letters while my bro and sis don't. I just feel like it is the right thing to do. And, from what I understand, it is greatly appreciated! My mom is very proud of me for it and really gets annoyed with my bro and sis for not doing it. I appreciate a nice hand written thank you from someone! It makes me feel appreciated and then I feel good about myself. Why not do that for someone else when they took the time to find you a nice gift?
28 Feb 08
When I hear through the family grapevine that my great-uncle has been going on about the letter I sent him, it really makes me feel good. I don't think my sister bothers any more, which is sad. I think it's a good habit to get children into when they're young. That's how I started.
@cortjo73 (6503)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Same here! I don't do it to get praise though. I do it because, whatever the person did to deserve a Thank You letter, made me smile and I want to return the favor by making them smile while knowing their thoughtful act meant a lot to me.
• United States
28 Feb 08
Well, I always intend to...however time gets away from me and the cards I made to use for CHRISTMAS thank you cards are still sitting on my desk. But, I WILL send them out- better late than never. My grandma uses email- and I talk to her quite a bit via email, but she still loves getting the cards/handwritten note. I am training my younger kids (boys age 7) to write them- they did their own for their birthdays...well, they made the cards, signed "thank you" and their name then dictated to me what to write for them. My mom received a thank you note several months ago from a high school grad...I tell you what- it was the nicest, most genuine, appreciative and personal note I have ever read. And I have to admit *I* even got the warm fuzzies and it wasn't even to me! My mom felt so good because of that simple note. Phaedra- good for you for keeping this dying art going. I am positive your relatives will certainly appreciate it. Thank you for the motivation to keep it up myself, too!
28 Feb 08
It's the thought that counts! You're right, better late than never! My older relatives, like my Gran, don't know how to programme the video player, let alone use a computer! It's lovely that you're encouraging your kids to do that. :)
@chrislotz (8207)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
Maybe it is wrong of me, but no I don't send out thank you notes. I say thank you at the time I recieve the gift but maybe that isn't enough. I don't receive any thank you notes either, so I haven't really thought to do it. I know when I got married many many years ago I sent out thank you notes to all the women that gave me shower gifts, and I sent out thank you notes to all the people that came to my wedding, but I have never thought to do it since. I might just try it sometime, when I get a gift, say for Christmas.