Will you help an old lady cross the road?

Singapore
February 28, 2008 9:45am CST
I was walking to my destination and part of the route involved crossing a busy road. There weren't any traffic lights nearby so pedestrians often just dash across. I stopped at my side of the road and an old lady was already waiting there. What would you do if you were me? Pull her hair (JUST KIDDING)? Ignore her? Or...? I turned to her and asked if she was crossing the road. She nodded her head and no, I did NOT hold her hand or anything of that sort. :P What I did was to guide her across the road with my "body language". Also, I stood on the side of the oncoming vehicles so that I can "protect" her and stop the traffic if need be. Will you do the same as me? Will you help an old lady cross the road? Any "crossing" stories to share? =)
26 people like this
86 responses
• United States
28 Feb 08
My Mom raised us kids to respect elderly folks so if I saw a elderly lady standing to cross I would help her across. A persons hand doesn't need to be held to help them to cross the street. As you said body language can help very much. I have not had this happen to me but one thing I would think is when a person driving a car sees a elderly person they should stop and let the person cross. This is what I do. When I see a elderly person wanting to cross the street I do stop. I let the person get across and then continue on my way. It takes every bit of a few seconds and to me that is showing respect to the elderly person.
7 people like this
• Singapore
28 Feb 08
Nicely said. I think where possible, one should show extra courtesy to the elderly - unless perhaps he/she obviously doesn't deserve it.
5 people like this
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Ahhhh I am so proud of you dear - now days it is hard to find a true gentleman he's not a wizard he's a Knight in Shining Armor :) I would have offered to help but never would have thought of being on the side of the oncoming traffic to protect her - you have taught me yet another thing :) As for crossing stories the only one I can think of right now is a few months ago our town put in the new crossing signs that show the time left before it goes from walk to don't walk. My darling child, the 16 year old, and a friend spent a half hour racing the clock so to speak going back and forth across the same street until he was late getting to an appointment he had :(
• Singapore
28 Feb 08
I would rather be a wizard than a knight any day lol. I rather wield some fire than brandish some sword haha.^^ And of course I was hoping it didn't come to that - I would either have to stop the cars like a madman with my body or push the lady to safety which might risk hurting her. :P Going back and forth across the same street? Is this some new game kids nowadays devised?
5 people like this
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Well Wizard why not just wave that magic wand and wisk her to saftey ???? duh I still don't know about the crossing the road deal - 16 ADHD with a friend who idolizes him who knows they still laugh about it though. Something to do with this new timer that counts down the seconds to when it will change. They would wait till they only had so many seconds to get across and then run like crazy to make it to the other side before it changed to 'DON"T WALK'
4 people like this
• Singapore
29 Feb 08
(In the tone of an old man speaking to a little girl)Because Faith, I don't have any magic wand in real life!:P I think they are seeking the thrill.:PP
4 people like this
@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
28 Feb 08
I would be glad to do, I think gallantry is a dying art and me being a chivalrous wolf will only be too glad to do my good deed of the day and help an old lady cross the road, I just hope that when I get old there will be people willing to do it for me! I think you get paid back for doing these acts of goodness. I spent a couple of hours helping a neighbour out who's 88 in her garden and I refused payment, I enjoy helping others, it gives me a good sense of satisfaction.
• Singapore
28 Feb 08
Oh yes wolfie, you are among the last of gentlemen. :P Payback? Good karma returns? I hope so too! PS.: I heard you are cooking something delectable for yanjiaren. I can't wait to drool and grab my share of the goodies! =)
5 people like this
@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
28 Feb 08
Yes I am very excited about it! Very privelidged to be cooking up a banquet and as you know I'll be putting 110% into it.
4 people like this
• Singapore
28 Feb 08
One day, you must tell me all about how you manage to hook up with yan...
2 people like this
@ESKARENA1 (18304)
28 Feb 08
I certainly have done this and will continue to do so. However, i have met with resistance on at least one occasion where the old lady concerned refused to move, insisting that she was waiting for a bus. However, with a little physical encouragement she soon saw the err of her ways and walked out in to the road. Now I dont know if she lost the will to live at this point but she started to try to go back to the side of the road at this point. I encouraged her some more. She was more than happy when i released my grip on her arm after depositing her safely at the other side. However, as ladies of a certain age are want to do, she was not at all greatful, calling me something that sounded like billy sugger. Cant imagine why she called me billy, must be her eye sight anyway, helping old people to cross the road will be my new mission, until members of her majesties constabulary step in to prevent me anyway blessed be
6 people like this
• Singapore
28 Feb 08
That's why I did ask her if she was crossing the road. And I do know that the elderly have dignity too. I try to imagine myself as old and come to the conclusion that I would not want abject pity. That's why unless the need is awfully obvious, I just try to be subtle in my assistance.:) Another thing worth noting is that the elderly are not an alien breed of people. They are the same people as us - just 1 or 2 generations removed. Just as there are "black sheep" in our generation, those black sheep don't go away when they get old. Some may mellow but the elderly continue to be a mix of personalities - good and bad alike.
5 people like this
@ESKARENA1 (18304)
29 Feb 08
all joking aside, and I certainly was joking, i can not agree with you more than i do. Those we consider elderly (and i still think its a state of mind rather than chronilogical) contribute just as much to the rich diversity of life as they ever did. Black sheep remain black sheep, sunny people tend to remain so blessed be
4 people like this
• Singapore
29 Feb 08
Haha. *wink*
2 people like this
@mimatexas (1840)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Yes, I would help the old lady cross the street. They need our help, so why not give it.
• Singapore
28 Feb 08
Indeed, it always feels good when we can be of service to others. Way to go! =)
4 people like this
@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
28 Feb 08
I have discussed this issue when I was in high school. In my opinion, we should try to help those who need help if we can, especially after receiving that much education. I think if you give others your hand, you not only help them but set up a good example to those who are watching you.
6 people like this
• Singapore
28 Feb 08
It brings to mind... "Do not ask what society can give to you but what you can give to society." =)
4 people like this
@Grandmaof2 (7604)
• Canada
28 Feb 08
No I have never been in a situation like this, but thank you for being a good person. If we all did these kind things for others the world would be a much better place. You're good stuff!!!
6 people like this
• Singapore
28 Feb 08
Hehe Grandmaof, it takes one "good stuff" to know another "good stuff". =)
4 people like this
@xParanoiax (7005)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Sure! While I haven't any stories to tell (I've never lived anywhere that was insanely busy, and even though more and more people are beginning to walk places because of the soaring gas prices among other things, I've never been in a situation in which to develope any stories about such things). I have opened doors for the elderly before though, I've helped them carry groceries, and these are strangers...people I don't know. But I help them when the situation comes across.
5 people like this
• Singapore
28 Feb 08
Yup, I think it is the essence of things that is more important. You don't need a busy road to prove you are a gentleman or lady. Opening doors for the elderly... helping with groceries... I think this is evident of your heart of gold already. =)
3 people like this
@Hatley (162120)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Mar 08
talking about hearts of gold I am an elderly lady and Imet a cab driver with a heart of gold. I had two huge sacks of groceries and that dear person not only took them from me but carried them to the front door of my apartment and when I went to hand him the fare He just shook his head and said have a nice day Mama and walked out of my patio. I was absolutely in a state of shock. what a nice man.
@mansha (6301)
• India
28 Feb 08
I have often helped old people , blind people cross the road. I never gave it a second thought till I read your question. Its a natural instinct with me just that I hold the person's hand while helping them cross the road or guding them on uneven pavements.
5 people like this
• Singapore
29 Feb 08
Natural instinct, eh? Good to hear that! :)
3 people like this
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I have always been very fond of elderly people,they are so knowledgable and interesting to talk to.As a child i would talk to every elderly person that i saw,they are so interesting and know so much..I would help an elderly person just as i would my own mom.They have been through a lifetime of ups and downs and it is about time they have it easy...We should always look out for our seniors..
5 people like this
• Singapore
29 Feb 08
Oh yes, wealth of experience.:)
3 people like this
@JoyfulOne (6243)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Sure, I'd help, but only if I asked her first if she indeed wanted my help. The times I've done it I've extended my arm and they either put their hand on my forearm (like leading a person to the dance floor) or they just grabbed my hand and held it. I figure whichever way makes them more comfortable and more safe from the traffic. You're still a real gentleman, lordwarwizard, to offer your help when so many would have just ignored her and gone on their merry own little way.
5 people like this
• Singapore
28 Feb 08
Indeed, I think we should not take for granted that they need help AND want our help. Just a weeny wizzy, me... *blush*
3 people like this
@mssnow (9496)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Yes, i would help an elderly person or a disabled person if they need it. One time I ha to help a man who was blind across a busy intersection. I had three little boys and I told them to stay put. I was worried about them all the time i crossed but they were very good and just stayed where they were. I got the man across and hurried back to my boys. My boys always listened to me that was why I could leave them put. They were old enough to know not to cross a busy road. But I was glad the man got across ok.
4 people like this
• Singapore
29 Feb 08
Might you not have brought the 4 of them across together? If I have kids, I would feel comfortable leaving them alone... bad guys everywhere... :P
4 people like this
@mssnow (9496)
• United States
29 Feb 08
I felt it was more dangerous to take them as we were crossing in the middle of the street and there was no traffic light for a long ways.
3 people like this
• Singapore
29 Feb 08
Fair enough.. Mummy knows best.:)
2 people like this
@AmbiePam (46400)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I wouldn't have taken her hand or anything like that either. I don't want to insult an older person by making them seem feeble. But I have done what you describe here, and might I say, you describe it very well. So get your polite little behind back at mylot more often. : )
4 people like this
• Singapore
29 Feb 08
Yup yup, same here. I wouldn't want to risk insulting someone when I was trying to be nice in the first place.:)
3 people like this
@nannacroc (4049)
28 Feb 08
Yes I would an I have on a number of occassions. Some people have asked me to guide them and others just need someone to be there and let them know it's safe. We all need help at times so if we are able to help others we should.
4 people like this
• Singapore
29 Feb 08
It is rare for people here to initiate the asking for help - well, as least for scenarios like this.
3 people like this
@Bev1986 (1428)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I applaud you for your actions! And yes, I would do the same. We live in a very small town that has several spots that are considered "cross walks" where the cars are supposed to stop for people walking across. Of course, that doesn't always happen.... But if I see someone younger, or older wanting to cross when I am crossing, I always sort of make sure they are okay. And, when I'm driving, I ALWAYS make sure I stop completely and wave them across.
• Singapore
29 Feb 08
Neat! We need more people like you!! :)
3 people like this
@dfinster (3538)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Well, first off I should warn you that if you'd pull her hair you might get a huge surprise and end up with a wig in your hand.LOL! I think tha's great that there are people like you that do that stuff it seems like those people are few and far betwee. And yes 100% I would help an elderly person across the street.
4 people like this
• Singapore
29 Feb 08
HAHAHA. A WIG, eh? That's a good one! ^^ I have this spread the kindness program planned... when I am rich to kickstart it.
3 people like this
@chrislotz (8207)
• Canada
14 Mar 08
I have been raised and I have raised my children, to always respect their elders and so I wouldn't hesitate to help someone cross the road, whether it being an older person or a handicapped person, a child or anybody else that may need help or ask for help. I think that everyone would do the same, or am I just being naive about it? I can't imagine that anyone would pass by a person and not help them if needed. I don't have any particular story to tell of helping someone, but I know I have and will always do so. I have helped older women push their grocery carts to their cars and helped them to unload them into their cars. I will help anyone in need, if it is possible for me to do.
3 people like this
• Singapore
14 Mar 08
It is so comforting to know there are nice people like you around.
2 people like this
@fec139 (804)
• United States
13 Mar 08
Bless you! Since I became disabled, I really appreciate when people help. I am in a wheelchair and sometimes i go to a store and can't reach something on the shelf. I could sit there all day before someone helps. Oh, and I forgot to mention that I can't speak, so I have to write on my slate and hold it up. People don't like to look at elderly and disabled people, so most people walk right by and ignore me.
• Singapore
14 Mar 08
Gosh... I am so sorry to hear that. I hope that most people around you will help you. I confess I seldom look at people in "unusual" circumstances too - but the reason is not that I am scared of helping. Rather, I am scared of offending. You see, I am someone who prefers to avoid giving people the wrong impression - I thought it is being considerate not to "stare"...
2 people like this
@yashaggr (40)
• India
4 Mar 08
my mother,father school and elders all have taught us to help people in need,\ but in the lexicon of daily life in india it is imposible.to getyour belongings how can you talk obout others. i repent that i am not able to help others but it is as if ive got no cxhoice in the matter its eighther you or them
3 people like this
• Singapore
4 Mar 08
Well well...
2 people like this
@cortney09 (1348)
• United States
2 Mar 08
I would absolutely help an elderly person who was crossing the street. There are so many people nowadays who all but ignore elderly people and there is no sense in it. I have not come across that situation itself though. Not to long ago though my husband and I were at a doctors office and a elderly women had just walked into the first set of automatic doors after they had opened, but as soon as she did that she fell. My husband held her umbrella (which she was using as a walking stick, might have been why she fell) while I helped her up and asked her if she was alright. My husband was not able to help lift her up because of a recent surgery. The bad thing about this situation is that there was a bench right near the doors and there were two people sitting on it that were a good size bigger than me (I barely reach five feet tall and am about 115lbs)and these women just sat there and stared as the women fell and while I helped her up. They did not even try to help. There were other people around that could have helped, but didn't. I would never hesitate to help someone who needed help like that.
3 people like this
• Singapore
3 Mar 08
You are a helpful couple. Good of you to set an example.:)
2 people like this