Why is it that white people adopt african american kids?

United States
February 29, 2008 9:29am CST
Personally I think that the majority of US citizens are racists and all the talk about Obama being "black" even though he has a white mother just proves that fact to me! I've read articles saying that the amount of white people wanting to adopt african american babies has risen in the US and in Canada. A black child growing up in a white family and obviously in a white neighborhood isn't going to have a chance as far as I'm concerned. Why do parents want to do this to kids? There are so many white babies needing to be adopted why not take one of them? I'm sure there are affluent blacks who would love to adopt a baby from their own background. Why do you think this is? Any ideas?
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@bcote212 (1113)
• United States
29 Feb 08
ctrymiziklvr, I respect your opinion, but ma'am I have to completly disagree with your views. I am a white guy who lives in Baltimore MD. This area is about 75% black, and 20% or so white. The fact that the African American race outnumbers the others in my area means that there are more black children for adoption. I dont understand how it is the year 2008 and race is still an issue. Its time that we as Americans learn to celebrate diversity. We are all beautiful and the color of our skin has nothing to do with that.
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@raychill (6530)
• United States
29 Feb 08
I live in Baltimore also. It's actually more 60/30 than what you said...but still close enough.
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• United States
29 Feb 08
My daughter is married to a beutiful black man and I love him and his family dearly. My problem is that whites who adopt a black child in a middle to low class community are not giving that child a very good start in life are they?
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
1 Mar 08
Any child living in or adopted into a low class community is not given a great running start. It does not matter if they are black or white or Hispanic or Asian.
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• United States
29 Feb 08
I will agree that calling Obama black is not entirely correct, technically he is biracial. As far as being racist, i will also agree that alot of america is still racist, you sound as if you might be yourself. Why people choose to adopt which child shouldnt be an issue. The fact that they are willing to offer a child a loving and comfortable home is what matters. I also dont agree with you that a black child cant survive in a white neighborhood that is just wrong. Lots of biracial children have survived just fine living in white neighborhoods as have black children. Being narrow minded certainly will not help the situation on either side of the issue.
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• United States
29 Feb 08
I was never a racist or prejudiced person. My Dad worked for African Americans all his life and we were part of their families. I've had nothing but the highest respect for them but I live in a community where I have seen black kids put in horrible situations because they were adopted by white parents. The only white neighborhood a black child would survive in would be an affluent one and that's not the norm around here.
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@Shawchert (1040)
• United States
1 Mar 08
I agree with Melissa what you are saying there are no multi racial communities in the us? or just that they are all wierd? Because my community isn't split by races and i know quite a few mexicans, caucasians, black, inbetween, and we all treat each other as we should, with respect... i mean of coarse there are people who don't like this person or that person... i have fights with my neighbors. But there are lots of communities like this.... it's not a rare thing... now unless you are talking about some priss high end white place well i just wanna burn those places down and i'm white myself.
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@raychill (6530)
• United States
29 Feb 08
Wow. Um. That's all I can say to this. Is Wow. That's a pretty big statement to describe "The Majority" of Americans. A/ Not all black people are African American. Someone who is Multi-racial is multi-racial and can refer to themselves as black or white or multi-racial. Here's something I find interesting since you said Americans are "Racist" for calling Obama "Black"... "He went on to earn his law degree from Harvard in 1991, where he became the first African-American president of the Harvard Law Review. Soon after, he returned to Chicago to practice as a civil rights lawyer and teach constitutional law. Finally, his advocacy work led him to run for the Illinois State Senate, where he served for eight years. In 2004, he became the third African American since Reconstruction to be elected to the U.S. Senate. " That is copied DIRECTLY from http://www.barackobama.com/learn/meet_barack.php Barack Obama's web site. Interesting how this describes him as being "African American"...so does that mean he's racist against himself? 2/ Kids need love. Whether they are black or white or red or purple or polka dotted. If someone wants to adopt a child and raise him or her and give him or her the best life that they possibly can, then that's really all that should matter. D/ I don't know how many articles you've read and how many people they're talking about within the country, but I can tell you offhand that I know of a ton of people who have adopted Asian and Russian babies. I think you've gotta be careful when you make a big statement like this and I'm actually really shocked to see a statement like this coming from you and I'm going to completely admit that it actually makes you sound completely racist. racist is a tough thing to throw around. Truthfully I think most human beings have racism in them. Whether it's black vs white or poor vs rich or whatever other options there may be. But there's a line between being a normal human being and being racist. I think that mostly, people just say things that come out wrong...and I hope that what you've said has just come out wrong.
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• United States
29 Feb 08
Yes, I believe everything I said did come out wrong. I read an article about the majority of white people are adopting black children and it made no sense to me. I've seen a lot of that in my community and being a very middle class community I've seen some horrible things happen to the black kids who have white parents. It's not fair to them at all.
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@raychill (6530)
• United States
29 Feb 08
Well I'm glad to hear it just came out wrong. I did not really think you were racist or anything ... and of course, even if it came out the way you intended it would be your opinion, but I was just surprised to see it. So are you talking more about classes rather than races? Like a child adopted into a low class family as opposed to a child adopted into a higher class family? I've been middle class to low class my entire life and I think I've grown up pretty much okay. It's really hard to say these things. Like... the Projects. sure, statistically they're more black than white in most cases. Sure. a lot of people who grow up in the projects don't make anything of themselves and stay in the projects. but there are always people who are in the projects becuase they're trying to better themselves and it's all they can afford at the moment. and there are people who get out of the projects. Sometimes it is difficult for one culture to raise a child of another culture. Becuase like it or not Black people and White people are culturally different. but if Black people and white people can interact, form relationships, etc. etc... I don't really see a problem in raising a child from another culture. and as for classes, I don't know.. You can't always judge someone because they're high class or low class.
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@Springlady (3986)
• United States
29 Feb 08
I think it is wonderful for someone to adopt any child who needs a good home. I don't care what color their skin is or what country they are from. All children are precious and need love. I am considering adopting a child, if it's God's will, in the future. I may end up having a child of my own, but since I'm almost 40 and have had cancer, I don't know if that would be the smartest thing to do. Chidren can bring such joy and blessing to a home! They are a huge responsibility, but one that brings lots of rewards and I'm sure that many of you who have children would agree with that. God bless. :)
@Ldyjarhead (10157)
• United States
29 Feb 08
I have to agree that some of what you said here has racist overtones. Who says a white family can't raise a black child, or vice versa? And what in heaven's name does affluence have to do with anything? Are you saying that only blacks with money should be allowed to adopt? Do black people need more money than white in order to raise a child properly?
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• United States
29 Feb 08
I'm saying that people should adopt babies from their own race. African americans who "have money" should adopt black children is all I was saying.
@Ldyjarhead (10157)
• United States
29 Feb 08
Still sounds like a very racist statement to me. If we're all equal and not supposed to put each other in categories, you just blew it big time.
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• United States
1 Mar 08
It is a racist statement. If the deciding factor in an issue is the race of the participants, then it is a racist opinion. That's the core of it right there. I also heard a man say, "only blacks can sing the blues." (He was African American.) This is a racists statement. If it had been said, "I have never heard a white man sing the blues well." That is an observation -- which might be biased by one's inherent racism, but is less obvious. At least, it leaves open the possibility that person with white skin *could* sign the blues well.
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
29 Feb 08
LOL I can't speak for any other families but my mothers excuse was because I was considered a "hard to place" child..which is true, back then I was very much considered in the system to be "hard to place" because of my race HOWEVER the underlying, unspoken parts as to why they adopted me is a little deeper than that...*rolls her eyes*
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@lilybug (21148)
• United States
1 Mar 08
Normally I would avoid a discussion like this, but I have to say this one pisses me off just enough to respond to it. I am going to totally leave the Obama thing along because it is getting ridiculous. I am going to go straight into the adoption thing. The number of people who are adopting children in general is rising. It just happens that there are more African American children available for adoption than Caucasian children. People who are truly interested in adopting a child do not care about the race of the child. All they care about is having a child to love. Race is not a deciding factor. All that should matter to anyone is that a child who needs a loving home is getting it. I personally have a Bi-racial child. I have one Caucasian child and one child who is Caucasian and African American. I currently live in an area that is 99% Caucasian. The other 1% is Hispanic. There are a total of 2 children at my son's school who have any African American in them. So few that they do not even make up 1%. I live in a rural community that is made up of all different social backgrounds. These children and my daughter are not treated any differently. Maybe in SOME areas this is a problem, but not here. There are many other things that I would like to add to this discussion, but my "black" baby is needing some attention from her "white" mother.
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@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
1 Mar 08
Hugs and bless you lilybug. I totally agree with you.
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
29 Feb 08
My personal feelings on this is 'color' should not matter, no matter what the situation each person should be accepted for the person they are inside. For the sake of this discussion obviously from my photo I am white, but, I have over the years had close friends who were 'black' as well as other 'races'. I will also say there are 'whites' that I would not allow in my house. Ok, that all said - I say a baby is a baby and if it needs a home it shouldn't matter who adopts as long as they love the baby/child. I have known 'white' families who have been on waiting lists for as much as 10-15 years waiting for a 'white' baby. One couple decided to adopt an older child eventually (she was 5) and kicked themselves for not doing it sooner rather than trying to wait for a baby. I also know another couple who has adopted 2 'black' babies, 2 Asian babies, and 2 'white'. When I say 'babies' they were all under 1 year old when adopted but not 'new borns'. They adopted these children because no one else came forward to adopt them and they felt and have given all 5 wonderful happy healthy homes. It is very sad that these 'white neighborhoods' are so small and thoughtless that they can not see the whole picture and accept the truth of the fact. I don't think white families adopt black babies just to start trouble - I think they are loving families willing to give a child a home without looking at the skin color. Ok, through rocks, get mad at me or whatever - I do live in a dream world and I don't think this problem is ever going to change but I had to say my piece on this... Until the world grows up and gets over their own problems this will continue to be an issue.
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
1 Mar 08
I grew up in a white middle class neighborhood on the east coast, and now I live in a mixed neighborhood of lower/middle class on the west coast! The problem of neighborhoods based on color and race has changed here, to the problem of neighborhoods mixed based on income! Our children go to school together, based more on income than anything else! This does often mean that the lower income schools have less whites and more people of color. I can tell you from my experiences as a Caucasian of mixed European-American background, living in a white mostly middle class neighborhood, kids will pick on you no matter what your race! Wealthier parents actually told their kids that poor people were poor because they wanted to be! They would then point out mistakes that the people would make. So poor people are looked down on more than people of color, at least here in California!
@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
29 Feb 08
You sound pretty damn racist yourself. Why does it matter what color a parent is, if they are willing to adopt a child then that should be all that matters. As far as a black child not being able to thrive in a white neighborhood... are you freaking kidding me. First off my adopted parents are white, secondly I grew up in a white middle class neighborhood most of my life and I'm doing pretty damn fine thank you very much. I have a college education, a great work background and a wonderful social network. Outside of a few stupid kid things I've never had any trouble with the law.. So how dare you assume that someone's race is a guiding factor in how they'll fit into an area or thrive. As far as Obama being refered to as "Black" even though he has a White parent.. well that's how its always been. Anytime ANYONE.. has at least one Black parent they are classified as being Black. Thats not our rules those were the rules set upon us by our lovely governing officals. And just for your info.. there are just as many Black families that adopt children of other races.
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
1 Mar 08
It is true! Have you heard the complaints from white, middle class people about how terrible their childhood was? All kids think their life is the pits, it is not until they grow up and try to raise their own kids that they realize just how good they had it! I have babysat lots of different kids, different cultures, races, etc and we are all alike in many ways!
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Feb 08
I can't disagree with you on the idea that many Americans are racist, ctry, but there are always exceptions to every rule. There does exist people who are truly colorblind in our society. Many years ago I felt the same as you when I first heard of the explosion of white folks adopting black babies. My eyes, and my mind have been opened since that time, and I can now easily see how loving a child(no matter the ethnicity) can be easy. I know that for me a child is a child. Race doesn't enter into it. Of course you will get arguments pro and con on this issue, but you only have to look back into our history. During slavery the care of the slave master's children was often given over to the house slave. I am certain that they loved these children as much as they loved their own. Furthermore, the races have become so mixed now that I foresee the day coming when race will not be such a big issue at all.
@olivemai (4738)
• United States
1 Mar 08
IN California, we are already so mixed and varied, that often you cannot tell from looking at a person which race they belong to! Light skinned or dark skinned, people from different countries and mixed backgrounds, Indians from India, Filipinos, Mexicans, Africans, Caucasians, we all match skin tone and hues! So there is more tolerance and acceptance. The future is waiting for certain states and cities to catch up!
@nova1945 (1614)
• United States
4 Apr 08
In my opinion, the fact that people make an issue of racism in any forum is what keeps racism alive. When we learn to stop bringing it up and over analyzing it, whether in a positive of negative attitude, maybe we will all learn to be colorblind and see each other as humans. Then we can get on with life.
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• Thailand
21 Mar 08
There is only one race, the human race. The sooner we figure that out the better off we all will be.
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@cortney09 (1346)
• United States
17 Mar 08
This is one of those situations that I don't know how I feel. I do say though, that I don't know why they can't adopt white kids. Like you said there are plenty of them that need homes also.
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@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
17 Mar 08
The idea of adopting black children is usually perptuated by white Americans who are well intentioned and they do it in good faith-not all all Americans are racists if I may correct you, but there are obviously very racist few Americans who cant hide their hate sentiments for black people.Am Happy that the race thing is not as overt as it used to be in the time of Luther King! America toay is more racially tolerant-the only problem is that bad habits dont necessarily vanish overnight-we shall need two more centuaries for a complete racial intergration in America-Am sure you know the situation is far worst in Spain, Italy and Germany!
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@idowrite72 (2214)
• United States
3 Mar 08
There is a lot going on in this discussion and much to respond to. I don't agree that the "majority" of US citizens are racists and how can that be justified just because of all the talk about a presidential candidate being "black" even with a white mother? I think that there are many racists in the US which is evident all the time and I think that many of them are not necessarily "against" the black race. I think there are many blacks who are racist against "white" people, also and make mountains out of mole hills concerning race when something happens that involves blacks if even one white person is involved. Even if a child has a white parent, they are usually considered black. Occasionally, they might be referred to as "mixed" or "biracial" but most of the time they are said to be black. I also think that it shouldn't matter what color the parents are as long as the child is being adopted into a good home. I do see that a black child needs to learn the ways and history of blacks, but at the same time, a white family can love that child and teach them the ways of a family and home that they would not get if they were NOT adopted and left in an agency environment. I have "blacks" in my white family and they have and are doing well having been brought up in a mixed race family because they were loved and taught that love and family is important, as well as church and God, that always came first with the family. It is how things are prioritized and not the color of anyone's skin that is the most important.
@GardenGerty (102535)
• United States
2 Mar 08
I think that people adopt the children that they can get. It is hard to get white babies. I guess where I live it is not so unusual seeing a mixed family either by birth or by adoption or remarriage. I have a friend who cannot have children. She is white as is her husband. She adopted through the church she belongs to. It so happens that every child she has is mixed. One, the last, is related to her, and is Hispanic and white. She has three black children with varying white parentage. Beautiful kids. Lovely family. Like I said, it is not that unusual where I live. The kids have a really good life.
• United States
2 Mar 08
the main reason america is still rascist is b/c of media and stuff like that. We watch tv and they seperate the latno voters, the black voters and the white voters. why cant we be all one? Why do they have to seperate us? I disagree with you though I think that white people adopting blacks isnt really that big of a deal and may help our way from the racist veiws. We are all on no matter what color and if I go adopt a kid, I will not adopt by his color but by my heart, and if my heart turns to a black kid than that is who I will adopt.
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@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
1 Mar 08
A lot of the black children are older and have not been adopted by anyone. A child needs love above all. It doesn't matter what race it comes from.
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@Lindalinda (4112)
• Canada
1 Mar 08
I think you make some very general statements. I have been to the USA many many times and have never observed anyone acting overtly racist. As far as white people adopting black children in the US and Canada, the sad truth is that some black communities are very slow in stepping up to the plate. It could be that so many are economically disadvantaged. The end result though is that children of any race find a loving home with parents who are willing and able to provide it. Black, white, green or purple.
@youless (93673)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Mar 08
I think there are still good people in the world. In their eyes, they can't see the difference between different races. Is the race a problem? Not at all. They just think the kids are so poor and they want to give them a happy home and that's all.
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