Homeschooling

February 29, 2008 5:38pm CST
When I finally get round to having children, I am considering homeschooling them but I would like to know if there is anyone here that does this and can tell me their secrets into homeschooling. How do you do it?
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@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
1 Mar 08
I dont know i always want to send my kids into a normal school coz for one they get to socialized with other kids and learn their potentials and discover their talents. And two they have the confidence when it comes to being a better person than the others. Kids needs to explore the world outside and to teach them how it hurts and how to mend that pain.
1 Mar 08
Yeah I can agree to an extent I think as long as they still have the social side like going out to play and meeting friends then they can learn this anyway, I see kids outside my street at 6 and they are all playing together even younger, I think children can naturally meet and play and so I dont worry about the social side. I think they can still get confidence and actually be a better person, I find schools are getting worse and more scary! I live in a country that is not my home and so I am considering homeschooling because of this.
@carabear (167)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Going to a public school does not allow a child to explore the world outside. They are instead locked in a building with other children who are all longing to get outside and explore. Children who are homeschooled are typically much better adjusted and are able to really grow and learn how to explore things on their own. They grow up to be completely independent, self-confident and quite mature for their ages. They also tend to interact with other children quite well. Do not discount homeschooling if you do not understand how the schools actually work. Without homeschooling yourself, or at the very least watching a friend who does it you simply cannot pass an accurate judgment about whether a child will be well socialized or not.
@carabear (167)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Some of the best advice that you can get is this: 1. Decide what you think your child needs to learn and compare this to what your state says your child should learn so you can ensure that you are covering all bases in terms of math, language arts etc. 2. Talk to your partner and see if you can come to an agreement. Homeschooling will likely FAIL if you cannot get their support. It takes both parents being committed to homeschooling to make it truly work. Children cannot play their parents against each other, especially in their education and have the best results. 3. Be willing to follow your child's lead. Some children learn to read at 3 others not until they are 7. Be willing to shove aside the "norms" that are laid out and work with your child at their level. Many people who homeschool discover that their child who would typically be classified as a 5th grader can read at a 7th grade level, can complete successfully 8th grade math but are lacking at a level of only 3rd grade science for example. There is nothing wrong with this, but be willing to adjust the expectations you have to help your child excel where they are talented, and spend plenty of time on those areas where they need more help. 4. Make the time for your child to get outside and interact with other children. Whether it is a sports team, dance classes or even just playdates. Your child needs to know that they are able to interact with different children from a variety of genders, races, religions, and ethnic groups. This will typically help them to be the best they possibly can be, while giving real life experience that a lot of other children miss out on. 5. Understand that you are going to forget a few things at some point. A parent simply cannot remember everything that there is to teach. You are going to forget something at some point. You will catch your mistake at some point and have time to correct your mistake before it causes your child serious harm. They will recover from the mistake and you will be proud of them and yourself once it is done. 6. The best classroom is the real world a lot of times because your child can view things as they happen. An eclipse is a great science class, catching bugs can be an awesome science class, a trip to the grocery store can be awesome for math, a trip to a bookstore or library makes a great language arts class etc. Getting out away from standard textbooks is something that helps a lot of children to be quite successful at the material that is presented. Hope this helps some!
6 Mar 08
Thank you for your reply and some fantastic advice here, this has given me an extra boost from all the negative responses I keep hearing about the social side of things. For me this will be an extremely important decision as I do not live in my own country I moved from England nearly 2 years ago and I am living in an Arabic country, this is my main decision for wanting to homeschool because the schools here are completely different to English schools naturally and I want my child to learn some things that I know will not get taught in these schools and its a very important issue. This has been a great help thanks
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
2 Mar 08
I homeschooled my children for 2 yrs and really the only secret I can say that there was for us was my following their lead in HOW (methods) I taught them...Some ppl like to homeschool in a structured fashion, others semi structured etc however what worked for us was UNschooling which is a very laid back method of teaching...and it worked out beautifully....
2 Mar 08
Thanks raveladyj, I really think this could work for me when I have children, unfortunately my partner doesnt tend to agree at the moment and wants them to attend school here. This is a hard decision because I am English and my partner is Tunisia - they will be attending a Tunisian school and I am not confident they will be learning what I wish for them.
@lancingboy (1385)
• United States
13 Mar 08
I don't have kids myself, but I think I can help in your situation. Are you more concerned about violence breaking out in your area? Or the extent of education the children would get? What if the kids went to public school and when they come home, you can talk about what they learned? Then if you feel they didn't learn enough, you can teach them the stuff you want them to know. That would be a nice compromise between you and your partner.