Distant Love

United States
March 1, 2008 6:48pm CST
Been in love with someone you met online? How do you handle it? How long have you been in love? Do you talk to them a lot, say everyday? All day? Any plans with them? How old are they, how old are you? Different countries? Would you become a citizen of that country to be with them...? OMG! JUST TELL ME EVERYTHING! I could ask on N on, really...
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• United States
2 Mar 08
I guess you could say I was in love with someone online. He was 24 and I was like 21. He lived in cali at the time but moved back on the east coast not to far from me. We talked for a good 2 years and had plans to meet one day and possibly be together for good. So one day we decided to meet. We did and then when he went home he wrote and said that someone else wants to be with him and hes gonna be with her. I was mad!! lol. Then he just stopped talking to me completely. Thats when I realized that interent relationships dont really work. But since then he has written me a few times but ill never forgive him for that.
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• United States
2 Mar 08
I hate your story... No offense to you, simply makes me sad. I've always thought online love was useless. I had a friend, we talked on N off for a couple of yrs. Nothing special, but we got along. Till he said he liked me. N ever since, we'd only fallin' deeper in love. We've known each other for nearly 4 yrs now. N I plan on visiting him. Thing is, he's 4 N a half yrs younger than me, N lives in Aus. Where as, I live in the U.S. I don't like your story, cause, what if I meet him, N it doesn't go so well? :/
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• Costa Rica
2 Mar 08
i want to know you better. my name is Carlos and i´m a costarica guy. My msn is azosan2007@hotmail.com. Regards
2 Mar 08
I don't think I can fall in love with someone online. It is so intangible. I don't know exactly him personality just through talking. It is not a real worlk on the internet. Find some true love in real world.
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• United States
2 Mar 08
Yea... As I said before. I always thought online love was useless. But, despite my opinion, N yours. Ppl to meet online. Millions at a time. N I'm sure at least half do well.
@kingcrapper (1538)
• United States
2 Mar 08
It is funny to think of the opportunities we have to make the world smaller and to fall for people on different continents. But the oddity is the flip of that how can a solid relationship be made by such a distance? Will one travel to where the other is? Does anyone have a success story?
• United States
2 Mar 08
I'm positive there are success stories, it's what I'm looking to hear. But, to your "How can a solid relationship be made by such a distance?"; I think, it'd have to be more solid than a relationship made in real life. All you can do is talk to them, so you get to know them best, unless they're lying of course. Lol. But, in real life, there's always a physical attraction that clouds judgment. So, online, you've no choice, but to get to know each other, through N through. Arguments?
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@Campino (58)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
2 Mar 08
Distant love??? Not my type of love definitely. Online??? Hm.. I met someone special, but we are on beginning right now. Citizen of different country, yes love has no limits. My friend moved to another country and she is engaget, so it is possible.
@maz323 (29)
• Australia
2 Mar 08
well as u know i am saving to be with MissOrlz.. we met on friendship and networking site.. with this particular site u can secretly admire people and u have to pick who they r out of a bunch of others.. well MissOrlz secretly admired me and i picked her first shot, this was about november last year, and we would send each other gifts with little messeges on this site but we were never able to catch each other online at the same time till about the start of feburary this year.. we exchanged email address and stared chatting.. at this time i was at the end of a trouble filled 5 yr relationship which i and my ex partner ended mutually.. in the past month MissOrlz and i have been chatting all the time the only time we dont is when we r sleeping.. i have changed my sleeping patten so i can talk to her because of the time difference. it was a few days after my split with my ex that MissOrlz and i decided to get together. it was instant love.. after about a week of talking to her i decided i wanted to go to Ireland to be with her and she felt the same way.. i call her every few days and we chat for about and hour or more on the phone each time.. its not cheap but she is worth every minute.. when i started talking to her i was on the verge of depression but she has pulled my out of it.. and she even made me go and find out if i was diabetic, i thought i may have been but was too scared of needles to go get the test.. and as it turned out i am diabetic as is she.. i thank her so much for making me get it done.. Im just so glad i met her and i am more in love with her then i have ever been with anyone else.. we have had a few problems along the way so far.. i have young children to preiouvs partners and my sister and a few other members of my family have caused problems for us because they r worried about my kids. but as i told them, if i had any worries about them i wouldnt be going and i think its best that i do go when they r young because they dont really understand and it wont effect them as much as it would if they were older.. I love my kids but i will only be gone for a year and i will be getting an open ticket so if anything happens when im gone i can get straight back without hassle.. when i do come back to australia MissOrlz will be coming back with me and will be trying to get citisenship here.. i offered to move to her but she wont have it lol.. well thats our story so far.. MissOrlz will probably fill in whatever i have left out
@maz323 (29)
• Australia
2 Mar 08
oh and 1 more thing.. I am 23 and MissOrlz is 19
• United States
3 Mar 08
Lol. You sound a bit like me N mine. Only, He's younger than I. By 4-ish yrs... He says five. I round down, he rounds up. The jerk. Anyways, he lives in Austraillia. I plan on living with him after a couple of yrs. We met 'bout 3-ish yrs ago. N like... can't get over each other. Heh. My luck to you, but only if I can have yours.
@maz323 (29)
• Australia
3 Mar 08
my luck to u also.. where abouts in australia is he?
• United States
2 Mar 08
i dont think its possible. how do you know someone's intention is true when you're online? i dont think its possible to know that since the most effective tool for me to know that is through body language (aka real life situation). and the internet can not provide that.
• United States
3 Mar 08
You're male, of course it's all physical to you. Humph.
• United States
3 Mar 08
well... yeah... but not only that. how do you know that someone is sincere if it's over the internet? and ultimately what's the point? safety? but that person almost isnt realy real at all!
• United States
3 Mar 08
After talking to them for a few yrs, it kinda builds, ya'know? N all you can do is talk, so you get to know them best. Kinda difficult to keep up lies after so long. Besides, mine tells me things that one wouldn't want to tell ppl.
@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
2 Mar 08
I fell in love with someone online a year ago. He was 23 and I was 19. We knew each other for almost a year and a couple of my friends know him. We talked to each other online and on the telephone each day. And we also sent text messages to each other. Things were quite good at first. But later he left me without letting me know why. My friends try to slove it but it did not help. We live in the same country but in different provinces which is quite far from each other. We did not meet outside internet. Well, that's really a long story to talk about~~ Maybe I won't be that brave to meet some online friends in another coutry. I prefer someone I can reach.
• United States
2 Mar 08
Yea... Maybe he got scared? Still, wouldn't count it love if he just disappeared.
• China
3 Mar 08
Actually, I found out the possible "why" through my friends later. He was not scared. He just made a choice between 2 and probably I knew that other girl. It seems that he kind of did not want to face the consequence he left on me. Well what's even more dramatic, he talk to me again after no contact for a year. About the question whether it's truely love. I am not that sure afterwards. It's a really special feeling. At that time I was quite happy that I finally found "the one" who can go straight forward to my heart even in a very high-content communication. Good luck to you.
@lightningMD (5937)
• United States
3 Mar 08
My husband and I met online. We have now been together four years and married for three of those years.We met at an adult chat site in the Dungeon.We talked every day for about two months then he moved from Pennsylvania to Michigan to be with me.
• United States
3 Mar 08
N are you still happy with him? I mean, is he who he said he was N everything?
@sheils_7 (12)
• India
3 Mar 08
Distant online love? Hmmmm. Firstly, I hate to sound like the party pooper but I have to say that it probably isn't love. Its just a temporary infatuation. I have had plenty of crushes on people I have met online and usually it just fades away with time. I have also met some of them in real life but again its just been temporary feelings that fade away. Maybe Im just the wrong person to answer this :p
• United States
3 Mar 08
Temporary, as in... a couple months? Or years? Cause... yea. N me N mine didn't start out so much in love, we liked each other N only got stronger N attached. N you're never a wrong person to answer anything based on opinion. I asked for your opinion, so I got it. =P
• United States
2 Mar 08
yes i have been, we talked for about a year, he lives in illinois, me nc, but after a while we lost contact, i cant keep up with him, and he can't keep up with me. we did fall in love, and talked everyday. long distance relationships are not meant to get attached, cuz u worry what their doing, and you get jealous, only to see you cant because your away from each other, so it can work for a while, only till you want to be with them.
• United States
2 Mar 08
Well, I talk to mine all day. ALLLLL day. Unless either of us are sleeping. I take my phone N chat away at work with him. Or lay in bed N talk to him. I seriously wonder sometimes, why we having run out of things to say to each other.....
@msanin (131)
• Canada
2 Mar 08
it is hard but not impossible.. i remember i was talking to this guy online, he had a gf and i had a bf, he lives in the city where i used to live long time ago like my home city but we never met before; his gf was actually my schoolmate when i went to school there.. so i kinda knew from references and staff and i knew he liked girls a lot and he was being unfaithful to his gf a lot.. so i wasnt into this a lot but we start talking a lot and i really liked him and he seemed to like me. we called each other and we used to see each other using web cam; it was fun because it wasnt serious.. we talked for around 1 year then we stopped talking because he was now going out with this girl and apparently he was falling in love with her so i decided to stop talking to him.. 3 months later my family and i could travel to Colombia so i went to my home city and stayed there 3 weeks but i didnt see him.. i came back and he ask why i didnt tell him i was there.. well we start talking again but then i met my husband so everything stop there.. i went there again for 1 month this past January, i saw him for my first time and it was kinda weird.. after 3 years talking online but it was fun because we realized that we could have a nice friendship..
• United States
2 Mar 08
But that's not a love story. :P
@vinay049 (1839)
• India
2 Mar 08
i don't believe in it.i think there is only few success story
• United States
2 Mar 08
Same could be said 'bout real life, no? Ppl don't really fall in love much more than they do online. They're together, have kids, blah. But, they argue, fight, divorce, etc. Love is love, count yourself lucky if you find it at all.
• China
2 Mar 08
i have a dream all the time!that is i will meet a girl online !then fall love wite her,and love her all my life! it is my dream ! i hope it will come ture in the future! i can meet her? i don't know!
• United States
2 Mar 08
I'd work on your writing skills. Ya'know? To impress the misses on here. =P
@SHUGA81 (220)
• United States
2 Mar 08
I met my current boyfriend online. We are both 26. He lived in Kansas and I lived in california. We communicated over the phone and email. He came out here a couple of times and we had our first date. He had to move back to Kansas to finish school. After that, he moved back to california which is his home. We fell in love after a couple of months of being together. I have been with him for 4 years. I was a bit skeptical at first when we met online. But somehow it worked. I dont know about out of the country online dating. Regardless of what you prefer when it comes to online dating, be careful. Meet in a public place so if something goes wrong, you can bail from that situation fast with no troubles.
• United States
2 Mar 08
Lol. You'll scare me. I should hope he is who he says he is. I've known him for so long, it'd be hard to keep up such lies for yrs. But, you're right, better safe than sorry.
• Canada
2 Mar 08
My husband and I met on line a little more than three years ago. In September of '07 we got married in Sedona Arizona. I'm Canadian from Guelph Ontario, and he's American living in Sedona Arizona. We are now going back and forth between the two places, but we're apart sometimes, depending on what's going on with our jobs etc. at the time. It's hard, but we're in love, so we do it.
• United States
2 Mar 08
YAY! A success story! I love you! Online love.
@SHAMRACK (8384)
• India
3 Mar 08
Hi, Love has no barriers if it is sincere and trustworthy and another one is to opt and find out the appropriate lover. The saddest and bitter part is when being sincere in love getting departed. Hence I feel in love, distance or native bitterness and sadness can be in native also. But a worthy love may come from anywhere even a north pole may get south pole lover and also they may live happily forever. Just pray to God to give a worthy lover that is one of greatest gift of God.
• China
2 Mar 08
Distant for me?A little hard maybe~~~ But fall in love with someone online can also a kind of life.Because in a virtual world,some virtual feelings may exist.Just remember do not get over indulged in it...