if u've broken someone's trust how can u gain it back?

Pakistan
March 2, 2008 10:30am CST
Have u ever broken sumone's trust or anyone urs? if yes than what u did to gain it back ..or did u forgave your friend when he/she did the same to you?
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• Pakistan
24 Mar 08
hmmm yes i broken someones trust once , a big blunder i made . but thanks god i gained it back, just because that person is really nice to me, and because i am attached to that person too much. I think it also depends on the person, i mean it may vary person to person if u r talking about to gain trust back. So it depends in my opinion. if u have broken someones trust and the other person isn't so humble and nice so it can be real hard to get it back. If the person is your best friend he/she might forgive you and it wont be any big issue. and yes i have exonerate my friend too, when that friend broken my trust once. We cant gain the trust back if the other person isn't anything to you. The persons who are really near to you and u always get ur trust back are your family members and your best ever friends, your loved ones.
• Pakistan
24 Mar 08
hello mirpurkhas! how are you ,good to see your responce ! well yes youy are right that if the person is your best friend then its much more easier to gain trust while if the person aint humble and nice you would feel hard to regain. But my opinion is not of the 99% public here,once you have made a man especially in doubt you can never ever gain his trust back,while if the woman is in the same case then it varies with every other one. Thanks for replying in!
• Pakistan
24 Mar 08
hmmmm thanks for replying me U.B :D u know what i have tried both the things, told u before that i broken someones trust , n i regained to to some magnitude. But it was all because of the other person, that was my best friend. And that person is my best friend . Well.. you have been asking this topic to every other person, well what if i ask u the same question ? Have u ever broken trust or someone broke yours ?
• Pakistan
24 Mar 08
first of all obvioulsy i will be in some situation that is why i am asking every person to give their views. secondly i dont think so i have broken someone's trust to that much extent that i have to bear the severe punishment of doing a really big crime i guess. I have full right to live with no regrets and i am very hppy that that in trust's case i am free from regrets. If your friendz took your little things on their minds then they better should away from me,cause if i forget things very soon and capable oof forgiving with true heart then i except the same from others too,if not then they have no right to ping me and be my friend,its better to leave those friendz while to bear them.
@klaudyou (501)
2 Mar 08
Well, is the thing forgivable? or at least forgetable? Or is it just that in time the trust has simply disappeared? Regardless of the actual case, I can tell trust is to be gain by acting better than others expect from us. And also by acting constantly good, because one mistake can bring down all that you've built. A person trusts another one if, as I said, acts naturally and acts right, and this is a habit. How to gain back the trust? Just make sure that if you did something wrong, that thing is forgotten, and the change you promised has happened...and from that moment on, just do unexpectedly better deeds. If you proceed like that, there's no way you won't get trust back, but much more trust than you would think. Good luck!
• Pakistan
2 Mar 08
hello klaudyou! hope u r enjoying here on mylot! yes u are very right that by doing unexpectable good things u can gain back the trust of that person and not only this but u have to constantly do this. Well,but as i am concerned i trust people very soon and everytime give them the chance to hurt me easily and people usually gain my trust very soon as well,inspite of this i usually failed to do that so ! thanks for the reply :) Take care .
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@klaudyou (501)
2 Mar 08
Well, allow me to say that you shouldn't trust people so quickly... What is your advantage for trusting them after all? On the other hand think of the advantages you have for not trusting them... Rarely a person fits the profile I described, and when you find him (her), you sure have great advantage, but until then (i mean proven trust)... See you around!
• Pakistan
3 Mar 08
umm,i consider ur thoughts and u dont have to say this cuz i already admitted this about me :) secondly u can change ur bahavior but not ur nature .and that how i cam ,if sumone asks for my forgiveness and talks to me few graceful words ,surely that person is gonna win my heart again. i get impressed and depressed by sumone too early . Will like to hear more from u :)
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@ruthinian (2311)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Trust is something you earn. It is not readily given. One needs to work hard for it and work harder to maintain it. That is why, once you lost it, it's hard to recover from it. I guess I did lost someone's trust before, and I can't do anything about it. It was hard and I regreted it. We still remain friends but it was not the same. I can understand that because I know I will feel the same way too if it happens to me. And yes, there were people who betrayed me too. I was able to forgive but the friendship is no longer the same. It's either because I can't trust the way again or that person is somewhat a bit embarassed now and there is already an invisible barrier between us. It's hard. That is why we need to be careful.
• Pakistan
24 Mar 08
hello ruthinian :) how are you ,a post after many days good to see you here :) Yes very true indeed that gaining trust is a hard job to do so and there can be like very few persons here who can totally erase that thing from their minds for the rest of their life,but i feel that if the friendship is strong enough to bear the load of that broken trust then atleast you can keep the pace of each other,i know the friendship wont be similar like before but still:) you cannot leave your friend even if he/she is embarrassed with it. I hope you forgive your friend with true heart if he is really ashmaed of what he did :)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I think that this could be a loaded question. My answer is it depends. There are factors like who, when, what, and why that need to be answered before you could get a straight and honest answer out of me. Really what did they do and at what time in your life. I could really dump someone off emotionally if they knew I was down and decided that was the time to do what they did. Mostly you have to ask yourself can you forget. A person can always forgive but to forget is another thing. I am not talking erasing it from your memory but rather being able to go through the day without having it pop up in the front of your mind.
• Pakistan
24 Mar 08
hello grouch1:) how are you ? enjoy your stay here. well yes it depends that what is the situation n you have to deal with it in a similar way. But lemme tell you onething you can forget that thing for a certain period of time,but to totally erase that thing from your mind in thsi era is impossible,somehow someday that thing will ping you.you wont be able to forget/erase it completely from your mind.
3 Mar 08
if you got friend and they not believe what you say it breaking trust between the two of u... its hard to gain it bck but u just got to learn to forgive what happend.... maybe your friendship wnt be the same as bfre but at least u still got your friend trust back.. but it will tke time...
• Pakistan
10 Mar 08
hello joanne 1990! sowie for the late reply but i cudnt use ma pc for many days :) well now back to mylot again. yes u r right that it will take time to gain a person's trust ,but i dunt know how my nature is even a person dunt says sorry to me but if i just tell dat person dat "u have hurt me or u have done this thing..blah blah",and after that if he aint says sorry even but my heart becomes clean from his side i duno y . If i dunt speak to dat person den i cant control maself fr gettin rude or angry wid him,but atlast just if i say him a line/word dat u have done dis thing and dats bad ..now its his/her will wether he says sowie or not,but afterwards i becume normal by all means :)
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• India
3 Mar 08
s i will tell sry and again join with them
• Pakistan
3 Mar 08
hello manigandan18! hope u are having a good time here. now thats what i called spirit :) .. Good!
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