People that talk about themselves constantly!

@jillhill (37383)
United States
March 2, 2008 9:48pm CST
I have a gal I work with that constantly talks about herself. Every word that comes out of her mouth is I, me or my! The other day I asked another co worker who had just returned to work from having the flu how she was feeling and this gal comes up and starts blabbing about how tired she has been. Every conversation she more or less butts into to lavish on us her wonderfulness. I know it might have something to do with low self esteem mixed with the fact that she used to date another co worker and I think she is still in love with him. So she tried to make herself bigger then life! But it is very tiring. She is a very very nice person and I almost feel sorry for her. Would you tell her that her self centeredness is driving the rest of us crazy?
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@carolbee (16241)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I would not say anything to this lady but would avoid her. I am a big one to keep my mouth shut and move on. Would have to hurt someone's feelings. It could be this woman has no clue she is annoying everyone around her. And, I agree with you about her possibly having low self esteem. One of our daughter's is dating a guy with a similar personality. There are times I'd like to stuff a dirty sock in his mouth. Don't know how my daughter can stand it. I tolerate him but also avoid being around him as much as possible. He also gets on my husband's nerves as well so I know it's not just me. Guess I can only feel sorry for this boyfriend.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I think we are alot alike. And the constant chattering about herself is annoying! I don't like hurting anyone's feelings but man it's hard to tune her out!
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Keep excusing yourself and say you have to use the bathroom. After awhile she will either think you have a problem or you don't want to listen to her. Surely she knows she has this irritating problem.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
3 Mar 08
wow, that is annoying. I would be tempted to ask if she is trying out for the opera *me me me me* but I think there is probably a way of letting her know without being direct and causing her pain over it. she might lack the maturity to take the criticism constructively.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
She does lack maturity. She just works part time and goes to college. I feel kind of sorry for her.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
3 Jul 08
thank you for the B.R. the poor thang apparently suffers from something we all have suffered with for a time..... youth
@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
7 Mar 08
oh i know how tiring a person like that is. my bestfriend is kinda like that too. she always talk about herself and most of the time i would get tired of listening to her and i would just want her to go away. i wouldn't even feel like talking and tell her my stories too. .
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
7 Mar 08
He is smart enough to run in the opposite direction when she starts babbling about herself! I try not to be rude but sometimes I even walk away.
• China
4 Mar 08
Even she makes me crazy,i won't tell her directly,i will try to offer her a hint. i want to guide he to another orientation,after all,she has self-esteem. If you stand in her way,you can make a difference,maybe you will have sympathy with her.if you are close friends,everything you do is deserved.Try to change her and make yourself peace and quiet.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Very good ideas!
@Bev1986 (1427)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Wow, that's a tough one... I don't know if I'd have the nerve to say something to her.... how about an anonymous note? Very nicely written but just say that you constantly self-centered comments are driving people away and you know that she's a sweet person and don't want to see that happen... It might be the chicken way out, but then she won't know it's you! lol!
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
That is true! I feel sorry for her!
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
3 Mar 08
If you are close to her, I think you should take her aside and tell her in a kind way. It could be that she is not aware of how much she does this. You know how we never see ourselves as others do. If not, maybe someone else who is closer to her could talk to her. you would be doing her and yourselves a favor.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I think you are right!
@violeta_va (4834)
• Australia
3 Mar 08
I have a friend like that. She went too far on valentines when we had a party. One of my friends has a little girl that has a seriusly ill girls that no one knows what she has. Anyway she was telling us about the last doctors visit and some how this other friend turned it around and started talking how she was very sick (she had a pulled muscle) that she made it sound as if she was going to die from it. we were all speachless.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Isn't that sad?
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
3 Mar 08
i don't think i would be able to tell her that.. maybe i would rather just not allow myself to be with her alone so she wont have the chance to make me feel so crazy listening to her endless rants and raves about her self. :D
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
It does just about drive me insane! Thanks for posting!
@gemini_rose (16194)
3 Mar 08
Yes I would eventually have to tell her, I would not be able to help myself because my mouth would engage before the brain. You could do it politely though I think if you could find the right words, but sometimes you just have to be cruel to be kind!!
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I know. I might have someone that is closer to her tell her that she is getting on everyone's nerves!
• Italy
3 Mar 08
I think too it's a matter of self esteem. If you are sorry for her instead of wanting to throw her away then she must be a nice person. Just try to switch the topic from her. You can make questions about you like " what do you think of the job I've done/my new shirt?" in this way you make her feel important (you take into consideration her opinion) and you make her not talk about herself only
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I think that is a very good idea!
@subha12 (18453)
• India
3 Mar 08
There are truly few people like that. they are self conscious and only wants attention. in my project there are some guy like this. whatever be the situation, he only beats his own drum however that is possible.it irritates me.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
It does irritate me too!!
@ellie333 (21029)
3 Mar 08
Oh yes I know lots of ME, ME, ME, people, everyone talks about themselves to some degree, I do it, but it is getting the balance right and being a good listener too, and knowing when to talk and when to shut up. This attitude probably disguises a low self esteem and lots of other insecurities. I would try to steer conversations towards things others have done, without gossiping of course, and ask how she feels about it. General conversation eg. So and so sons done really well at the athletes the other day, thats wonderful, do you know anyone that has done anything like that over the weekend, knowing perhaps that is something she doesn't do personally herself. Oh a topice from the newspapers. I'm rambling now, sorry, hope this makes sense. Ellie :D
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
It does....changing the subject when she starts in about herself....that might do it!
• United States
3 Mar 08
No, I would not tell her because I would just feel bad. Maybe I would give her extremely small hints to where she would not be mad at all but if the scenario is she getting mad because of what I said than forget it. Its not that I dont like when people dont like me, its just about being kind.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I don't like hurting feelings either. But the constant chattering is so annoying!
@joyce959 (1562)
• Philippines
3 Mar 08
Oh well, there are certain types of people like that - the talker (mostly talking and not listening), combination of talker and listener, and the listener (mostly listen and seldom talks). It is good to listen for a while to some stories shared by others, but when the person keeps on repeating the same story, we become bored. It is also irritating when one person just keep on talking and butting in when somebody is talking. Well, I suggest that you just ignore and move out of the person when you don't feel like listening. From there, that person will take a hint.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
That's what I have been doing....walking away. The constant chatter gets on the my nerves too!
@magikrose (5423)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I wouldl isten to her untill I got annoyed enough and then i would flat out tell herthat there are more important things in the world other than HER problems or issues and then I would walk away and go about my own work. I have no problem telling people ho I feel and when pushed to that point I will just come out and say what is on my mind.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Good for you!
• United States
3 Mar 08
No I wouldn't tell her, I would just tune her out when she started talking to me.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Another good idea. I don't want to stir up any bad feelings.
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
3 Mar 08
Maybe she just has nothing else to talk about.. lol maybe her life is really boring and that's the only way she knows how to communicate. I think you'd be better off just to let her figure it out on her own that she's annoying. lol You dont want to make enemy's in the office now do you ? :P~ I would just change the topic everytime she starts to talk about herself. Or ask her a question about something totally off topic, she MAY get the hint if she's a smart one. I know i would. But sometimes i read too far into things. ;O
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Very good idea! Change the subject!
• Indonesia
3 Mar 08
Well, it's good that you feel sorry for her, are you close with her? I think something like that (what u want to say to her i mean) should come from a close friend of her. Why don't u ask her close friend to tell her that..
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Good idea~!
• United States
3 Mar 08
No I would not tell her that. I would tell her it was driving me crazy. I don't feel speaking for others will be nice. I am sure she is in love with the man. But she is making an azz of herself. Tell her and tell her quick. :)
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I think she is making an azz of herself! And it's driving the rest of us crazy!
@goldic (26)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 08
Better tell her right now, or she will suffer at the end. As a man who care with her, you have right to tell what wrong with her. Even she will hate you, but at least you make something right.