Do you have any regrets in your life?

@icyorchid (2564)
United States
March 3, 2008 6:36pm CST
I've been doing a lot of thinking this weekend and I have lived a good life, but I realized I have 1 regret in my life and it has to do with my daughter. My daughter never knew the person who made her. She has a wonderful father/dad who has done everything for her. She is dating someone and they are talking about getting married and we were talking about listing or not listing the announcement in the newspaper and I really don't want it listed, because I know he will show up and ruin her special day. My regret is that the person she loves and calls dad is not her biological dad. That way she wouldn't have that hate in her voice when she talks about the sperm donor. I had her when I was 17 years old and NEVER regretted that, only the person who made her.
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@KKKBsmom (1092)
• United States
4 Mar 08
It is hard to share with our children issues like this. Being adopted I have read MANY stories of young pregnancies and sperm donors. Your daughter needs to know how she came into this world and by who. She needs to share with her friends her engagement and upcoming marriage. There does not have to be an exact date or place. And if they people want to know they will know how to get a hold of one of you to find out where and when. Who knows... the sperm donor may want to get to know her. (in a nice way)
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
5 Mar 08
Yes this is why she knows of him. She also knows what he did to me and why he is not in her life. He wanted nothing to do with her at all. He wanted to sell her before she was born. She did at one time want to find him, only because she knows she has 2 younger brothers, and now she has decided that since he has not wanted anything to do with her for 25 years, why should she want to get to know him at all. She said he doesn't deserve it. As far as the brothers go, we don't know if they even know about her. I know about them because of a mutual friend. As far as the wedding, she is going to put it in the paper, just not the place and everyone who has an invite, must show it or be on a RSVP list. She doesn't want any surprises on her special day either and she had the same feeling as I did and didn't tell me. lol She didn't want to bring him up and upset me, but her last name in the paper will definately spark a fire and she knows it.
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
20 Mar 08
I regret having never gone on to further my education - I love being a stay at home mom and wife - but when times are rough as they often are I could make things easier if I had a professional degree.
@gemini_rose (16264)
4 Mar 08
I wouldnt call them regrets for me, more of I wish I had chosen more wisely, I wish I had listened to what my mum told me, because it turned out she was right. If I hadnt have been so rash with decisions things would have been different in my life and I would have been better off. My eldest son does not know his biological father, because this man didnt want to know and he doesnt deserve to know nothing, my son is 16 and as yet he has only asked a few questions but I dread him wanting to try to find his biological father or him trying to find my son. He does not deserve to know anything.
@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
4 Mar 08
What a good topic. Recently, my friend and I were talking about our university life. We agreed that if we had a chance to start our university life again, we would definitely make good use of it. Your title just remind me of that immediately. Even though I always tell myself that once I make a decision, never allow myself to feel regret, but it did happen in life. I think that is precisely what make life life.
• China
5 Mar 08
Sometime I regrets,but now I think it's not important ,what's important is going on what't we should do now and in the future.
• United States
4 Mar 08
I cant say I have any regrets, just that if i could do a few things differnt I would. Fact is, everthing Ive ever done has led to a positive end.
@happygal68 (3275)
• United States
4 Mar 08
I have no regrets, because everything that has happened to me and that I have gone through has made me the person I am today! To say I have regrets means that I don't like or respect the person I am today, so I don't have any to speak of. Even though I have been through many ups and downs I am so greatful for the things I have accomplished and the wonderful family I have helped to create.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
4 Mar 08
There are no regrets for me....Regardless of some of the stupid choices I've made in my past and the crap things that have gone on, it was all meant to be...The path I laid out for myself and that was laid out for me by others actions/doings etc, both good and bad, made me who I am today and I'd never change that for anything or anyone....I dont regret anything because there is no need to..MIND YOU that doesnt mean I dont somewhat feel bad about some things that i've done..sure I do, I'm human after all..but i dont "regret" those things..
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
4 Mar 08
I don't have any regrets on my past, whatever it is and what I am now was because are proof of what I did back then. May they be good or bad, it honed me in becoming a better person and hopefully be successful of my goals as well. I believe we should all live our life onwards, don't dwell on the past mistakes we've done but treat it as a lesson that we all have to learn to. Always look ahead, of what we want to become and hope for the best..
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
4 Mar 08
I can't regret anything about my life. I have made a lot of choices that turned out not to be the right ones, I've had a lot of horrible things happen to me, and I've been in a lot of situations I shouldn't have been. However, when I start thinking I regret things about my life, some part of me starts popping up with the lessons I learned from those things. I start realizing the things I couldn't have accomplished without the strength borne from the adversity. I start realizing how much my current personality and goals are affected by my history, and I honestly can't say I regret a single thing. Even though my early life was this horrible mess... had it been different, I would be different. I suppose I should regret situations in which I have hurt people, or not done everything I could to help them, but honestly those people are wherever they are doing whatever they're doing now... and whatever influence my actions had on their lives, positive or negative, are a part of them now too. My positive influences on people's lives far outweigh my negative ones at this point, I'm completely sure of that, and so even that is not something for me to regret.
@kimbers867 (2539)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Possibly the only regret I have is that I waited until I was 35 to start having kids. My mom grew up with me, she was 20 when she had me. If I would have kids early she would have had more time with them before she past BUT then we would have not been financially ready to have them. Then they would had to be in daycare but I was lucky and was able to stay home with both my girls.
• China
4 Mar 08
Regrets full of our life,so our life have valuation.Only regret have no use,when we do something wrong,we should try our best to find the solutions.After these things have gone,we should have a new life instead of regreting all the time.Life is great,do not miss other scenery.