DO yoU THINK aASKING A WOMANs hAND IN marriage is...OUTDATED?

United States
March 4, 2008 2:30am CST
i personally think its half and half..like..for me personally i think its soo romantic..and very respectful..but it wouldnt matter if he didnt..cause it IS outdated..at least for me...What do YOU think?IS it? And Do u want this to happen to you or has it already happened?
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@Myrrdin (3601)
• Canada
4 Mar 08
When I was ready to ask my exwife to marry me I approached her mother (as her father lived over seas) and asked her permission first. Sure it is an old custom, but still it shows respect. Now had her mother said no I still would have proposed, so it is not the only thing that matters, but making that effort is just polite.
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@ratyz5 (7830)
• Philippines
4 Mar 08
If its outdated, whats the alternative of asking a woman's hand in marriage now? Either it being done in anyway what so ever, over the phone, a conversation at the park, walking by the path you two always go at, letters, SMS or what not, yours still asking the relationship to get to the next level.
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@winterose (39931)
• Canada
4 Mar 08
I like it, but then I love the old customs pertaining to most things anyhow
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
4 Mar 08
Whilst marriage seems to be on the wane in the West I think that it remains the most powerful expression of one person's love and commitment to another. Personally I asked my wife to marry me, asked her father's permission (I was 40 minutes late and he thought that I had changed my mind - traffic) and we have managed to keep it going for the past 21 years. I would be sad to se it go, and I don't think that it will in my lifetime; even if the name changes to "Lawful Partnership" or something equally ghastly.
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@littleone3 (2065)
4 Mar 08
No i dont think it is outdated. My partner asked me to marry him and i said yes straight away, even tho we hadnt know each other for very long at the time, it just felt so right.
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@herrygs (133)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 08
I'm not using that method. In our culture tradition, the man asking to the woman in many way and it could be just a conversation. if the woman agree, in the next time the man parents come to the woman family's home telling that this relationship will go on to a marriage. Both parents needed in marriage.
• Australia
9 Mar 08
Oh so romantic, but totally unrealistic in todays world. My partner and I both want to get married (to each other!) and it was just an assumption made by both of us that it would happen. Still waiting to get the funds together, but we only want a small ceremony that is non religious based and more of a public declaration of our love than anything else.
@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
8 Mar 08
My husband didn't ask for my hand in marriage, we just sort of talked about it and then started planning it, next thing you know im walking down the aisle,with my dad by my side, and my future hubby waiting for me! It is outdated, but still romantic. I believe it is every one's choice wether they want to do it or not.