Who is the most stubborn person in your family?

@youless (87498)
Guangzhou, China
March 4, 2008 9:32am CST
I think I am already a very stubborn person. But my dad is much more stubborn than me:) When he believes in something, he won't change his mind. Such as sometimes I will recommend him some useful software for computer, but he doesn't want to change his habit. After many years and he finds I am right, then he will use it and tell his friends. It takes me quite a long time persuading him to use Windows XP:)
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@pooh08 (672)
• Vietnam
7 May 08
In my family, I think my father is the most stubborn person. He is first-born child so he have patriarchal. Everybody in my family have to obey his orders. Although he's wrong, my family still obey, nobody can't talk back him.
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@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
7 May 08
He is a real powerful parent
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
5 Mar 08
My mom is the most stubborn. My husband is just about as bad though. With mom sometimes I have to take an opposing view to get her to do what I want her to do. She has some mental health problems and that makes her more stubborn than ever.
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@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Mar 08
Thanks for you response.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
5 Mar 08
my eldest sister is the most stubborn in my family. since we were kids up to this point. sometimes our youngest sister told her that she should grow up, or act as the eldest sister. but in my family... my four kids and me i can say that every once in a while we are stubburn it depends on what our mood is. but that is sometimes only. specially when my daugthers will have their montly sickness then they tend to be a little stubborn.
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@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Mar 08
Thanks for your response.
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@clinsbull (194)
• China
5 Mar 08
i think the stubborn person is me in my family.when i dceide something ,i wont change my mind.even though my wife and my son prevail on me.my wife usually told me "you are old bull",you know ,in my country,old bull mean is stubbornness.just like u country said like a donkey.
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@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Mar 08
It's a good description:)
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@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
4 Mar 08
Wolfie stands up and says he is! Oh absolutely, I am soooooo stubborn, maybe it's because I am a Taurean and Taureans are known to be stubborn, do you know that I will actually cut my nose to spite my face, I will NOT back down and even if I turn out to be the loser I will not back down, mind you being stubborn does have it's advantages, like not backing down to my ex or go running to him because he's got problems. I see my stubbornness as a quality rather than a negative to be honest. I even lost a job because I was too stubborn to go for it even though I was promised that if I applied I would get it.
@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Mar 08
Do you know that I am also a Taurean? I don't know that we are known by our stubborn character:)
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Im stubborn too but I think my husband is very stubborn. And it can really get on my nerves. At least Im willing to try different things he wont.
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@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Mar 08
So you are only the second stubborn people in your family:)
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@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Good question youless. I think my husband is stubborn at times and he thinks I am too LOL You could say I am a lot like your dad LOL
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@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Mar 08
Oh, my husband also says I am stubborn:)
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@deserve40 (1607)
• India
4 Mar 08
I must admit that I am the most stubborn person in my family. I generally do not give in to somebody's ideas so easily. Once I have found something wrong or if I have a strong feeling about something to be false, I do not change my view easily. Even at times I am told by my family members that somethings are not the same as I think them to be. But I even doubt their ability to understand the things and do not except the advise of others so easily. I understand that it is not a good quality but I have not been able to change myself. And many a times when I accepted somebody elses views against my views, later on I found that I would have been better off sticking with my own views only. So I am like that only.
@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Mar 08
Thanks for your frank words:)
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@maz323 (29)
• Australia
5 Mar 08
i always thought it was a toss up between my father and i but after a few recent events it would have to be my sister who is the most stubborn one lol
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@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Mar 08
It seems this situation can change a lot:)
@marciascott (25557)
• United States
5 Mar 08
I am stubborn sand My Husband is stubborn, a bad combination.
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@maz323 (29)
• Australia
5 Mar 08
lol i bet it can be
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@kamran12 (5556)
• Pakistan
5 Mar 08
Hello youless!:-) I think I am the most stubborn person in my family but I am, probably, the most flexible person too. And, being stubborn isn't always bad, in my humble opinion. Specifically, if it is about principle values or my principle stance over something, I am stubborn and intransigent and I never give up until I am proven wrong in my premise about establishment of a conclusion. For example, if I am in trouble and someone suggests me to take help from an established criminal and that is the only person who can help me, I'll not take help even if it causes harm to me. I'll not be flexible about it until it is proven that, that person isn't/wasn't a criminal. If, however, it is about general things, daily life issues that can be done in different ways without affecting my values, I am very flexible and can go about anything with any person! For example, if my wife likes something in some particular way, I’ll do it that way. If my friends like it to be done in some other way, it will not be a problem for me to adapt to their way. It doesn’t mean that I don’t have personal likings and disliking, I do, but I am not pushy about them!:-)
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@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Mar 08
In my impression, you are always a very nice and kind person. So I can't see any stubborn character from you:)
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@kamran12 (5556)
• Pakistan
5 Mar 08
You are very kind, youless! :-) Thank you! I do am stubborn in, like I said, my principle stance!
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@kamran12 (5556)
• Pakistan
11 Mar 08
Thank you for the best response, youless!:-)
@meiteoh (421)
• Switzerland
8 May 08
My brother. He is so stubborn that he thinks he's right all the time, he knows better and etc. When I bought my desktop without asking him, he got all pissy and called me stupid. When my dad sent the PC for repairs, he lectured my dad about how much "junk" my dad had on the computer. When my brother found out that I was going on a vacation with my hubby for like the umpteen time, he blew his top, drove over from his place just to lecture me and call me names for one hour! And even after talking to him about his temper, my dad still can't get him to change. =.=
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@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
8 May 08
It seems that your brother is very strict and somewhat acts like a parent
@meiteoh (421)
• Switzerland
8 May 08
Yeah...unfortunately he's not exactly the suitable parent type - too short tempered, impatient and quick on the tongue. The last time he tried to tutor me, he ended up screaming that I was stupid and dumb. I went to my dad who was the exact opposite. Kind of bizarre sometimes...sometimes I think we don't get along because of the age gap... @_@
@Jemina (5784)
21 Apr 08
I thought my second eldest sister was the most stubborn but I think I have broken her record. She is just tough and no one can bend her decision. But I on the other hand would argue with my mom to get what I want. Well, my mom is also stubborn sometimes and I tell her that I got my stubborness from her.
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@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
21 Apr 08
Thanks for your response.
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@Jemina (5784)
22 Apr 08
You're welcome.
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• United States
5 Mar 08
Lol. Sounds like my family. My dad and I are both very stubborn, however, he is definitely more stubborn than I am and thus wins most of the time when we disagree. Sometimes I am glad that he is stubborn, like when I need help, he won't give up, he continues to fight for me, which is nice. But of course, when he is not on my side it is annoying. lol.
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@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Mar 08
So your dad is the champion in this stubborn contest:)
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• United States
5 Mar 08
Yep definitely
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• United States
5 Mar 08
I am the most stubborn person in the family and I am Damn proud of it.Everyone thinks of it as a vice, but I celebrate it as my best virtue. When I say no, I Mean no. Not maybe,or not now. No means Never.I will try things but in my own time. The only thing you will get trying to pushing me to do something is frustrated.But if I do try something that you suggested to me and I liked it, I will tell you so.But knowing me, it will be a long stretch between you suggesting it and me trying it but I will give you the credit. I like learning the way I am suppose to do things and Rarely change it. Why change just to change. If I like the way I am doing things, I will keep doing them the same way.
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@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Mar 08
You sound like you have your own principles. Many successful people are actually very stubborn:)
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@mbs730 (2155)
• Canada
5 Mar 08
My husband is as stubborn as a mule and my son takes after him. Thankfully he is shy of 4 and still mouldable. I don't want him turning out like dad.
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@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Mar 08
Then it depends on you to teach him a better way:)
@mbs730 (2155)
• Canada
5 Mar 08
Yes so true and working on it now
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
8 May 08
i will say my elder brother... not even my parents can talk to him... when we tell him something, he always argue and have his own point of views... and he always think that only his views are correct and others are wrong... my parents even says that he should become a judge since he likes to argue and reason with us so much...
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@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
8 May 08
That's really stubborn.
@only1shi (405)
• United States
8 May 08
i don't know if there is one person in my house that is more stubborn than the other. my husband and i are both very headstrong- about different things, mind you, but stubborn none the less. and it looks like our daughter has inherited the same trait. i think that i may be more impatient at times though.
@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
8 May 08
Perhaps time will change it.
@ReoTwo (194)
7 May 08
I think that my daughter and I are the most stubborn people in our immediate family. But speaking for myself, I believe that my stubborness (I sometimes call it digging my heels in) comes from when some people have the nerve to try and change you over to their way of thinking, and I refuse. Especially, if I feel that they are really wrong, or the idea, subject, or opportunity, doesn't fit my morals, ideas, and beliefs. Tot me what you are describing in you father is a good example of a sort of stubborness. I say that being stubborn is not always be unwilling to admit that a person is right. I have found that to be another type of character flaw. Some people just don't seem to like admitting that their child, or someone younger, or a woman, etc. knows something they don't or knows better. But after falling on their face enough, they usually come around. I had a male friend that made a nice buck, but was a little stringy in some areas of his life and overly generous and a bit of a spendthrift in others. I suggested that when he was looking to buy a paper shredder that he try a specific brand that I knew as a user of many office machines to be great. He didn't want to pay what I knew to be a reasonable price. He ended of buying 3 cheaper models (that all broke in a matter of days), before buying the one I suggested in the beginning. (OH, mind you, he was the one to ask my advice). He had to laugh with me when I told him that at least he wound up with some extra little garbage cans. So, stay helpful to him and keeping suggesting, and he'll probably come around. I would still jokingly let his friends know that he tried something at my suggestion. I'd have to get some satisfaction after dragging him to try something! (smile)
@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
8 May 08
Thanks for your response.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
21 Apr 08
My husband and my mom are both extremely stubborn. My mother has some mental problems so this may contribute to her stubborness. I don't know why my husband is so stubborn but he will argue about something forever even if I have evidence to prove him wrong.
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@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
21 Apr 08
I am so sorry to hear that it seems more stubborn people in your family.
@heatian (49)
• China
8 Apr 08
I always think I am most stubborn in my family. coz I am easily hesitative offen, when a opinion arises in my mind, I stick up it very much and refuse to accept any other good suggestion. I become very stubborn. I think why I am so stubborn as that, the reason is the lack of confidence.
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@youless (87498)
• Guangzhou, China
8 Apr 08
I am impressed that you can realize your own shortcoming, and I am sure you will change it one day.