Do you think it's better to be an only child, or have siblings?

United States
March 5, 2008 12:38pm CST
I am one of 4 children, and I come from a huge family. A lot of my good friends are only children, and they seem to prefer it. Are you an only child, or do you have brothers and sisters? Which would you prefer?
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@pooh08 (671)
• Vietnam
4 May 08
Many people who has siblings want to an only child. Many people who is a child want to have siblings. Following me, I want to have sibling. A child is very boring and affected by parents. While I like freedom prefer.
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@gemini_rose (16193)
5 Mar 08
I am an only child, and I would have loved to have a brother or a sister, preferably older. Even when I see my children fall out and say to me why did you have to give me a brother, I think I would have loved it. Its very lonely growing up as an only child, especially given that my mum and dad ran pubs through my childhood and so were always down in the pub. As a result of being an only child I feel that sometimes it has been hard to make friends and maintain friendships because I tend to prefer my own company much more! But then again my husband thinks the opposite he would have preferred to be an only child instead of having a brother and a sister, so I think that it could be a case of the grass is always greener! And maybe if I had siblings I would have hated it!
• United States
6 Mar 08
That's true! People always want what they didn't have, I think! At least you have the ability to know you have the inner strength to be on your own if you have to--a lot of people can't handle it at all.
@gemini_rose (16193)
6 Mar 08
Yes I could quite easily be on my own!
@vera5d (4006)
• United States
5 Mar 08
I have 3 brothers, though technically I only grew up with 2 little brothers - the youngest is 21 years younger than me!!! I am glad to have my brothers, they are always there when i need them for things like moving a sofabed up a flight of stairs, lol. We used to fight a lot as kids, then in high school we started making similar friends & having the same interests. As a "grown-up" I love having my brothers. As a kid though I definately wondered what it would be like as an only child.
• United States
6 Mar 08
I grew up with an older sister and though I thought I would have liked to be an only child sometimes when we were younger (usually when we were fighting)I wouldn't trade having my sister for anything. I had someone to play with and someone to look up to - she taught me many things. As we got older and more mature the closer we became - now we are the best of friends. I am expecting my 1st baby right now and sometimes when the nausea hits or one of the many other unpleasant syptoms I think maybe I am only going to do this once, but then I think of me and my sister growing up and I want my child to have the same experiences - whether good or bad.
@sissi320 (328)
• China
4 May 08
For me, I prefer to have siblings. When I was a child, I always think it will be so nice if I am the only child in my family, and then no one iwll argue with me and all the toys are mine. But now, I do feel the benefit of having a brother.I don't feel I am not alone as I have a brother, and he is always on my side even we still argue now. And I don't need to worry about my parents when I am far away from home as he is at home. So, I plan to have 2 children as I don't want to my children feel lovely.
• China
3 May 08
i got one brother.if you got more child you have to think about how to afford their life. if you can;t, that not gonna give you a good life.
@sissy15 (6020)
• United States
3 May 08
I have 4 sisters and 3 brothers, but I only grew up with my older brother. I am the youngest. My oldest older sibling is 21 yrs older than me. I also have a sister I didn't meet until I was 15, she is only 3 months older than me. Half sister obviously. I only have one full sibling and that's my brother who is 3 yrs older, I don't really consider the rest half though, but anyway, they were all still around when I was growing up, they just weren't there like my one brother was since he was the only one close to my age. I don't think I'd know how to be an only child though, I'm so used to my brothers and sisters being around. As much as me and my brother used to fight, and on occasion still do, it was fun having him around sometimes. When we couldn't hang out with our friends we had each other. Sometimes both us and all of our friends would hang out together. Plus now I am closer to my older sisters, still not as close to my other two older brothers. I am however closer to my oldest brothers children, who are close to my age. So I do prefer having siblings as annoying as they can be at times.
• United States
2 May 08
I have 5 siblings and I am the mother of an only child. I see problems and benefits in both cases. On the one hand I can't imagine not having someone you are connected to like a sister, in your life and I have always felt the pain of not providing my son with the opportunity to feel that. He has cousins he is very, very close to but it's not the same thing is it? On the other hand I have seen parents daily struggle to be fair to all their children and to provide for them equally. I have seen them learn how to be a parent from the first one making mistakes that have lasting effects on the child and not make those same mistakes on the second. It creates an imbalance right from the start. I don't know which one I would prefer as I only have intimate knowledge of the one scenario.
• United States
1 May 08
i have more than one sibling, but i only know my little brother, zac. i met him 2 years ago when i was 15. he just turned 16 yesterday, and i turned 17 on the first. we were adopted by different families at birth- same mother and father, though... married couple- and now live on opposite ends of the country. i have been raised as an only child, though i have been in private foster care for years... zac, my brother, is the one that means the most to me in my life, more than anyone or anything else, now or ever. funny thing is... when we first started writing... we liked the exact same things. the same kmusic, the same hobbies, the same stores and fashion. we had never met, though. blood is deep. and what about friends? friends are family as well. when i didn't know i had any real family left, i adopted my closest friends as my family. we all do that on some level, though, don't we? then ksero. you tell me.
@rhane7315 (5672)
• Philippines
30 Apr 08
if my mother wouldn't stop her favoritism with our eldest brother, i prefer to don't have any siblings at all
• United States
30 Apr 08
i am an only child and i think there are definate pros and cons i grew up in a neighborhood that i was the only child my age all the other kids we either several years older than me or several years younger than me and i had no one to play with until i got in school and i think if i had a brother or sister that we could have played together and there is the whole sister connection that i have no idea about and would like to experience but i cant or having a big brother to protect me that would have been nice but i can see the fighting and things like that would not be so good so since i dont know any diffrent i would have to prefer to be the only child
@arjun999 (1004)
• India
28 Mar 08
I have a brother and would liked to have more. I like to be a part of a big family.
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
I'm the onyl child in our family and i'm happy what i am right now. when i was a kid, i really wanted to have a sister or brother but you know God has a plan for me though he didn't gave a a bro or sis I became contented in my life.
• China
23 Mar 08
Hi,inkaholic, i am very similar with you ,there are also 4 children in my family. and i'm the youngest one. it really a happiness if you have brothers and sisters, who can play and talk with you. it will give the whole family more pleasure.
• United States
10 Mar 08
ok well i am the oldest out of my sisters and i think it great to have other siblings because i dont know what i would do with out my sister they are my world. and my own mother took them from my life because i was setting bad examples..even tho it was only once.. but yeah i think it great to have sibling.
@fpd1955 (2075)
• United States
9 Mar 08
I have 5 siblings. I think that having brothers or sisters instilled in me less selfishness. We shared alot of toys together. Played together most days. None of us ever lacked enough attention from our parents. We enjoyed each others company. Having siblings gave me good social skills, interacting with other people. We needed each other and still do. I don't think I would be the same person I am today had I been an only child. I would probaly be more selfish and lack the skills to socialize with people. I am glad I had a large family, as they are still my best friends and a person needs all the true friends they can get. People tend to want what they don't have, but I have never wished I was an only child. PEACE PEACE
• United States
9 Mar 08
I am an only child and I enjoyed being an only child. However, I often became lonely and would not have minded having brothers and sisters around. My mom had 12 brothers and sisters and loved having a big family. She wanted to have more kids but did not get the chance. I have talked to her about how many kids I might want and we decided four would be a nice number. Any more than four and it becomes difficult to provide adequate care and love for them. With just two they don't have any choice on who they get stuck with on family vacations. Three is an odd number so someone always gets left out. Four is the perfect number. Although God may have other plans for me. Lol.
• Canada
7 Mar 08
i have 2 sisters, one younger and one older, and i wouldn't want it any other way. i couldn't imagine my life without them! they have taught me so much throughout my life about being sensitive and strong, and it is so nice to know that i have 2 people i can turn to for anything! i love that i have someone to share the memories of my childhood with. both of my parents come from big families-my dad has 13 siblings and my mom has 16 (maybe more, i'm not sure-lol)so being around a lot of family is just a natural part of life for me.
@ethanmama (1746)
• Philippines
6 Mar 08
I have 2 brothers, but sometimes I wish I had more siblings. When something happens in the family, whether good or bad, it's always best that you have people to rely on, and the more siblings you have, the more people to help and to share in good times and in problems.
@dawnald (84142)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Mar 08
I can't imagine not having had my brothers and sister. But then my nephew, an only child, can't imagine having siblings! When my daughter was three I made the decision to have another child. I just felt that a child ought to have a sibling if possible. Got surprised with twins though! lol
• India
6 Mar 08
i am an only child of my family but i think i shud have a brother or sister also for its important to have a same age pal at your home.