What do people around you think of you

@raydene (9875)
United States
March 6, 2008 8:14am CST
Hi Friends I have been thinking alot about myself and the way I must be protraying myself.. It reminded me of many jobs I've had.. I always become the 'valued' employee.. The one that other employees come to for help or to cover a shift.. At one job they called me Ms Perfect behind my back because I didn't cut corners and did my job the best I could.. I do not do any of this on purpose..this is who I am... I am responsible! I am dependable! I am caring! I will put others needs ahead of my own! Why is that so bad? Through the years I have had people try to find something wrong about me but then when they got to know me we would be friends. And the martyr thing...At parties I would always be sure I could keep everything safe and would seldom let go because I would be trying to take care of everyone...So many times I was called that.. Martyr is my Scots Sis Wee What is it about people like me that make some people so uncomfortable? I have made soooooo manyyyyyy mistakessssssss but just happens that no one sees at that moment! Ok that's off my chest! What do others think of you? Do you work for that opinion or is it just you? Any thoughts Folks? xoxoxoxoxoxo
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35 responses
@linghan (147)
• China
6 Mar 08
people around me think I am a quiet girl.Sometimes a very KAWAYI girl.And in their views,I 'm also a very intelligent and confidence .
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
6 Mar 08
Hi Sweets You are most likely a great person to know. I hope to know you better xoxoxoxoxoxox
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@lionceak (65)
• Moldova
6 Mar 08
the people that i know have told me that i'm trustworthy , intelligent, have a sense of humour , caring and understanding but sometimes stubborn, mean , too blunt, telling always what's on my mind , no diplomacy whatsoever. but i think that it's a combination that makes me a real cool person :)
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
6 Mar 08
Well Doll You sound like quite a combo of persons We all are so many different people in different situations oxxoxoxoxoxo
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• Philippines
6 Mar 08
People around me think that I am a quiet, shy and nice guy when in fact I am really not! Ok, that might be me when outside the house, but inside the house I am such a wreck haha... kind of makes me feel bad for people thinking I am such a nice guy and befriending me.
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
6 Mar 08
Well My Wreck of a Friend You sound just lovely And interesting Someone sees the good in you xoxoxoxoxo
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@nicksy (178)
• Philippines
6 Mar 08
the people around me thought that i'm childish, quite and boring type of personas well an old fashioned person who is a good person, i could say that im really childish, thats my way of being friendly, but by the time they knew me better, and more comfortable in talking to me, they realize that im not just childish, and also a serious person who could think deeply in mind( that what they've said), a well not boring, but a talkative parson who has a sense of humor(i guess), yes, i am a good person, but i do have my skeleton in the closet, a different side.hehehehe
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
6 Mar 08
Hi Sweets You sound charming.. Being childish is a defence thing Are you afraid of getting into adult relationships? I hope I haven't offended you Just wanted to throw it out for you to think about xoxoxoxoxo
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@nicksy (178)
• Philippines
6 Mar 08
not really, im open to relationship, childish yes being a defence mechanism...for stress, and problems(but don't get me wrong that i dont handle my problems), and that a way for me of being friendly to others....hehehhee
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@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
6 Mar 08
In the past at work people have described me as reliable, honest, hard working, conscientious and diligent, I am a very good timekeeper and have a good sick record. On a personal note people think of me as the clown I like to make people laugh, I hate being serious, I am very placid and nothing really gets me to lose my anger, I am easy going, probably too easy going, passive but I am working on that and pliable. But I don't like change! I am resistant, stubborn and can be very awkward if my mind is set that way xxxx
@raydene (9875)
• United States
6 Mar 08
Doll You are perfect.. I love who you are And who you are becoming You are growing... xoxoxoxoxo
@BarBaraPrz (17534)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
6 Mar 08
We're a lot alike. We just work to the best of our ability and other people get nervous because they don't want to work so hard. But I'm beyond caring what other people think of me. I'm me, and that's all there is to it!
@raydene (9875)
• United States
6 Mar 08
Well Doll Maybe that is it The not wanting to have to work as hard Slackers love company..lol xoxoxoxo
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@weemam (13389)
6 Mar 08
I am no martyr sweetheart , I just do what has to be done , Like you I like to do my best whatever I do , I helped a friend out one who cleaned offices , her sister was ill and I did the job for 2 weeks , She kept telling me I was too thorough lol , I couldn't help it ( that's just me ) I seem to be like you in so many ways ( nice ways ) please do not ever stop being you , you are just so lovely in looks and in nature xx
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@weemam (13389)
8 Mar 08
Thank you so much sis for all of the best responses you have given me I had been off line so long and got such a lovely surprise when I remembered to check my best responses , thank you xxx
@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
7 Mar 08
I don't really know what people think about me... because they won't tell me. I know that the people I do business with like me... because I always give them what they want. My ennemies have called me arrogant and cynical... which is probably true. I think people have a tendancy to run away from me because I tell it like it is... and they cannot cope with that. I am not the politically correct type. lol At the end of the day... I don't care what people think about me. That's my arrogance showing. lol
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@jackgym (276)
• Australia
7 Mar 08
I don't care what people think. When you reach 64 you don't give a toss!
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@charms88 (7546)
• Philippines
7 Mar 08
I grew up in a very conservative family. I witnessed how my parents always took care of their reputation. Its kind of complicated to explain. But anyway, it wasn't until I entered College that I realized that I shouldn't be bothered by what other people thought of me. I am only one person and I can't please everyone. I may be treating them well, but some of them may think otherwise. If I know I'm the one who's mistaken, then I will apologize and change. We all have our flaws and weaknesses and its just a matter of accepting who we are.
• Philippines
7 Mar 08
Hi Raydene, by reading your post i was Inspired and i want to know personally if only i can. I think they are uncomfortable because they don't understand you, maybe they think your just impressing the bosses and i know some of them are real envious. Don't mind them this is not for them but for your advantage and for the company. Actually me, i don't know what other people might say behind my back. I have friends but I am not sure if they are real in my face or throwing a trash on me when i not there. I can share anything because people around me don't just give their opinion, they are always like this "oh, i got to think first"...lame.
@subha12 (18462)
• India
7 Mar 08
i think you are almost perfect a sperson be it work or life. I think people think i am too serious in my work. also people think I am very very intelligent. I am also a perfectionist.I also help others a lot. I am a friend in need.
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@ebberts (786)
• United States
7 Mar 08
I don't hear much about my self, usually people comment that I am sweet or nice. The people who commented on you I believe just see their own short commings. You do a great job and they don't. They don't make the effort and through no fault of yours they look bad. Just keep being you. You sound like a fine person, allways thinking of others. You have great qualities, don't change.
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@Hatley (159381)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Mar 08
oh I was the dependable one, and a very valued employee at the library where I worked and I did try to do my job to the bestof my ability and was always available if someone wanted some help.so what did it avail me. after twenty odd years of being a good employee when I asked for a medical leave of two weeks I got a nice little have to let you go and I hate to do this as youare my most valuable employee my answer to that should have been then why are you doing it? I have always tried to give mybest to any job I had and thats just because it is who I am. I made errors too like anyone else.
@Darkwing (21590)
6 Mar 08
I don't really place a lot of importance on what others think of me, as long as I like myself, the things I do, how I do them, and how I grow spiritually. Some will express how they feel about me in a positive, outgoing manner, and others will just latch on... then there are those I just can't get along with, but these are way in the minority and not important to my life path. I know who I am, and I know I'm happy with who I am. What others think is not always relevant, and by what you've listed there, I see the real you, so quit worrying about the negative people in your life and carry on doing what you're happy with, my dear friend. I love you and so do many others. Be happy with those positives and live life in the way that makes you comfortable. Brightest Blessings. xxxxx
• India
6 Mar 08
before i was also much like u but now i changed...i dont care wht others think of me now....its life and we all need to change for the better
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@msanin (131)
• Canada
6 Mar 08
people around me think i am lucky to find a guy like my husband because there are so many out there that are afraid of marriage i mean young men, because my husband is only 24, they also think i am really sociable person which is not true because i am shy, they think i am open minded.
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@chrislotz (8207)
• Canada
20 Mar 08
I don't know what people think of me, but I can say I think a lot about myself. Not being conceited or anything but I like myself because I will help anyone in need. I am a bit of a perfectionist and I want things done the right way. Why bother doing something if you are not doing it right, is my view. I don't get mean or bossy when explaining something to someone, I just tell it as I see it. So I guess some people may think I am too direct. I always told the girls who worked under me that no question was a dumb question and if it needs to be asked that is good that they ask, because it means they don't know the answer and are interested enough in finding out the answer.
• Philippines
16 Mar 08
People think of me as a lovable,brave, and determined girl and a princess as well except my future mother-in-law.She thinks of me as an insignificant person who does not exist and I hate her for being rude and mean to me and wanting her son all to herself.
@Nancy_lf (34)
• China
10 Mar 08
My friends always say i have double personalities ,maybe they are right. Outside is cool,while inside is warm,i think.Stranger think i am a little bit shy,but my friends around me is i am a little bit crazy,very easy-going^^^^