Is mylot too cliquish?

Well, I'd like to say it doesn't bother me, but it does. I genuinely liked these people and feel bad that I may have done something to offend someone.

I truly understand. Maybe you can be evidently the bigger person in this, and message them asking if you offended them in some way, and let them know it wasn't your intent.

Yes I also feel the same way. You can just pm them and aks them what went wrong and where. If you had unintentionally hurt their feelings you can say sorry and apologise. If you feel they are doing it just like that and you were not in anyway wrong , just keep out of the way and forget. That has been the only thing happening, Chey, don't worry over these small things. If you can't set things right, just forget them..

I didn't know that your star rating went down if you get involved in a controversy. You are right that should be reserved for those who are blatantly rude and disrespectful.

Yeah, I had a 10 untill I recently responded to a discussion about abortion and then started one of my own, which no one has responded to, but someone did add a tag to it that indicates they didn't like it. Well, you can see where my rating is now, lol...no big deal in itself, except it didn't go down until then, even though all I did was state my position on it and why...But it's not just me, I have noticed that a lot of people here who have low star ratings also participate in a lot of controversial discussions. I haven't seen anything out of line posted by some of these people...some I have, but most, I haven't, yet there stars are low.

Oh don't worry. I'm not losing any sleep or developing stomach ulcers. I just wondered if it happened to other people and what their take on it was. Thanks Linda.

I think I owe you a thank you for responding to my posts. I appreciate it and always look forward to seeing familiar faces.

You don't sound the least bit like a stalker. I'm just glad that you take interest in what I write.

Well, I'm sure thats a good possibility. I am not here to say that my discussions are so brilliant that everyone stands in queque to answer them. LOL.

LOL! Same here! I like to pretend that I am brilliant but, the reality is much harsher! LOL!

Thats really nice that you were able to work things out. I'm glad you are still friends.

Never. To be honest, I thought she was going to delete me after the incident. There wasn't really any word bashing involved.

I think I misunderstood what you said, so I had to come back and ask does she respond to your posts now?

Oh, don't worry nothing except the closure of mylot (heaven forbid) will stop me from posting. LOL.

LOL I hear you!!!

Thanks, I try to get along with everyone. :)

You have a very generous and kind attitude. I admire that.

That's cool then. Cheers!:)

Actually, I have a really good reason for believing that I am being avoided by a few people, but they aren't reasons I wanted to post publicly. It wouldn't benefit you, I or them to do that, just cause more harm than good, but it doesn't stop me from asking a general question as to whether or not other people have experienced the same. In fact I believe I said "but I suppose they have that right to not be a part of what I post". I don't expect anyone to stand in line to answer to my posts. I don't think that I'm that fantastic that the whole world should stand in front of me, join hands and sing my praises. That couldn't be further from the truth. I'm not unhappy about it, I've lost no sleep whatsoever, but because it has been a personal experience of mine on this site, it made for a good discussion. Or should I stick to subjects to which no one has an interest? I'm not upset with you. You are entitled to your opinion, but you may want to keep in mind that sometimes I am not pointing a finger, or pouting, I'm just using my experience to further discussions on this site. Isn't that what its all about, posting on subjects we can relate to?

You didn't understand what I said in my response. I never said nor implied that you expect people to suck up to you. BUT SOME DO. Here is an example. Someone asked "Why do people think it is disgusting to see 2 guys kissing in public?" This was a direct question. EVERYONE who responded took up for homosexuals. The question wasn't even answered. I said because it isn't accepted socially. Then I get hit with a bunch of negatives. LOL I didn't say anything negative at all. The only difference was I didn't show sympathy for the person who started the discussion. If they wanted sympathy they should have asked a different question.

I didn't think that you were implying that people were sucking up to me. I knew you meant it in general terms, but thanks for coming back to clarify. I truly appreciate that.

I don't expect anyone to suck up to me and I don't believe anyone does. If they answer my posts its because they have a genuine interest not out of a sense of obligation.

I know you are able to contribute to all posts, but thats not what I am asking. I just wondered if you felt that at anytime anyone avoided your discussions.

Ok, I'm sorry about it. My english is not so good, never been to college and I'm trying hard here to post with a dictionary in front of me. I thought you are upset about it and try to give you some support.

I guess I've noticed alot of that too. I think when people first join they ask people to be their friends, but perhaps go on to discussions they find meet their interests better than mine.

Yeah I guess if your friends or not posting something that you want to respond to go see what else is going on I have even post on the news lol WHATEVER! Have a fun day!

Thanks Ellie. Thats a good way of looking at it. I just feel bad that I have obviously offended someone. I don't like the way it makes me feel.

Hey nobody like to offend anyone even if it is unintentional. If you it bothering you that much why not drop them an apology if you have offended type note in a PM and see what feeback you get. Hugs. Ellie :D

Excellent answer. Thank you so much for making some very valid points.

No, it doesn't bother me at all. As I just said to someone else, I am not letting the issue consume my life, but at the same time, because it has been a personal experience here on this site, I thought perhaps others may be able to relate to it. Thats what makes a discussion. Thanks for the compliment by the way.

I wonder why they would allow him to get mylot, but not let him post? Thats almost mean. Kind of along the lines of "you can't touch this". Or "you can look, but you can't touch".

I understand that. Thank you. I'm probably just being to sensitive.

Oh I'm not too worried about it Deea. I just wonder if anyone else has experienced it.

Its better to be postive than negative. Smile.