I love you, but I don't respect you

@lilybug (21148)
United States
March 6, 2008 10:47pm CST
How would you feel hearing these words come out of someones mouth? What if that person was your father? This is one of the things that I heard today when my father called here. I really try to not let him bother me, but he can be such an @ss sometimes.
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@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
7 Mar 08
It is easy for me to sit here, completely removed from your life and your situation, and tell you not to let it bother you. But that is impossible, at least for me. The best I would be able to do is maybe accept it, and that would be tough too. My parents have said things to me like that which have hurt my feelings, and I had a hard time getting past it. Notice I didn't say 'getting over it.' Getting past it is different. Getting over it would mean that it doesn't bother me anymore. Getting past it means that it still bothers me but I learn to put it in the back of my mind and love and respect my parents anyway. I don't think of it each time I look at them anymore, and I don't resent it as much as I used to. Maybe the best thing we can do is to learn a lesson from this and know that the things we say to our children have a profound effect on them, even after they are grown up. Hopefully we will make a concerted effort never to say hurtful things to our children. I try to find the bright side- most things have one.
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Have you asked yourself why he would say that? I'm not passing any judgement, but have you done something lately that would make him think this about you? I actually don't find it that odd. Just because some one is family doesn't mean you actually have to like them. And the commandment is honor thy father and mother, not honor thy children. Now I'm not saying it was a nice thing to say. It's actually quite rude. But did he at least explain himself?
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@dzxq666 (159)
• China
7 Mar 08
maybe your father not realize this problem, you can tell hime frankly, you can let him change the way. Maybe that's not easy, but if you insist, the condition will be changed.
@tonyllenium (6266)
• Italy
7 Mar 08
mmh very strange statment especially if it is said by parents in relation to his/her sons/daughters!! i think if you love a person you will respect him/her and also you like that others will respect him/her too!! so may be your father didn't refer in these terms meaning i didn't respect you in general but may be he meant that in a such behaviour you can have in relation to him..he can think to not respect you but in general he will towards you as you towards him!!