Just found out my Aunt died last night....I'm really hating 2008!

United States
March 7, 2008 9:29am CST
My Aunt was my Moms last living relative and they were very close. Since my Mom passed away in January my aunt hasn't been doing very good at all. She took my Moms passing as hard as I did but the day we lost my Mom she told me although she couldn't take her place for me that she would always be there for me and she has been. There were many times when I would usually call my Mom that I would call my aunt for advice or just to get things off my mind. We got closer than we ever were in these past 2 months. Now I have to call my kids and tell them about this and I'm finding it hard to think of the right words to tell them. Even though I have a sister and my brother has a wife she has always been their favorite aunt so this isn't going to be any easier on them than it is on me. I have to say that 2008 has sucked for me and I'm almost afraid to see what the rest of the year has in store for me!
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
7 Mar 08
Sweetie I am so sorry to read this and that you have had another blow My Thoughts are with you Sweet
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• United States
7 Mar 08
Thanks for the sweet thoughts. I knew I would find some kind words here and I appreciate them all.
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@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
7 Mar 08
I am sorry you had another relative pass away. Unfortunately, it does seem like deaths do happen close together to people we love. I hope things turn around for you soon.
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• United States
7 Mar 08
I'm one of those people who believe deaths come in 3's so I'm really worrying now. I'm hoping it's an actor that I hear about next as awful as that sounds. I can only think of one other distant family member that could be next and I pray that it's not her.
@gemini_rose (16193)
7 Mar 08
So sorry for your loss, its so hard to lose someone you love at the best of times, but to lose 2 precious people within such a short space of time must be devastating. I hope you find a way to get through it and that you have plenty of support through friends and family. I am sure that the rest of the year will have some sunshine for you. Take care.
• United States
7 Mar 08
I'm waiting for that sunshine to hit my family but I'm a pessimist and so far I don't see it happening. I just keep wondering what will happen next.
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
8 Mar 08
I am so truly sorry to hear of yet another loss for you and your in my thoughts...and hoping that the remainder of the year will be much better for you...((HUgs))
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@charms88 (7543)
• Philippines
8 Mar 08
My deepest sympathy to you and your family, ctrymusiklvr. I can understand how you feel and grief is not something we like to experience. Every time a loved one leave us, the people left behind are the who suffered greatly. Look on the brighter side of life. I hope you are coping well.
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
8 Mar 08
I am so sorry :( I pray that the rest of the year improves for you. It always happens to me that the first part of most years start off badly and then improves as it goes on. Thinking of you.
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
8 Mar 08
Awwww nooo. I am so so sorry to hear about your Aunt ctry. Just as you are trying to move on with your life after Mom passed, now this. I am sorry that you have had to deal with this. You will be in my prayers HUGS!
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Im so sorry to hear that. I know the feeling well. When my mom passed I too have become very close to my aunt. Because I could see my mom in my aunt. They were sisters. So I want to tell you I do feel for you and things will get easier. Stay strong!xxx
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• United States
7 Mar 08
I'm so sorry ctry, please accept my Deepest Sympathy. We never know what is ahead for us, or why things happen as they do. If you ever need to talk, I'm a good listener. Hopefully, the rest of your year will bring you some peace. Take care hon, we're all here for you.
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• United States
8 Mar 08
I am so sorry to hear about your aunt.If you ever need to talk , send me a private message. Take care.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
8 Mar 08
I'm so sorry for your loss, ctry. Believe me I know how hard it is to sit back and watch your loved ones go. We do, however, learn to accept that life must go on for those of us who are left behind. Since 2001 I have lost 3 aunts, an uncle, my older sister, and my mother. If that isn't depressing I don't know what is. I will pray that your grief will be lessened in time.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
8 Mar 08
Hi ctrymuziklvr, I'm very sorry to hear about your aunt, and I agree 2008 hasn't been a good year for you so far. Sometimes things happen like that. I remember one year my late wife lost her mother, father, grandmother and 12 year old niece, all in a period of 7 months. It was a terrible year. Hopefully the remainder of 2008 will be better for you. Blessings.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
8 Mar 08
Sorry to hear about it. How old was your aunt anyway? I would say that she would have been in her eighties at least and since she has not been that well lately, it could be that that is the time when people die in your family. I remember my maternal grandmother dying and I really felt the loss when she passed away. It hurts when someone you love and depend on departs this earth and you wonder how you can survive, but you do. Just remember the good times you had, the precious memories because as time goes on, 2008 is not all the way through yet and things will begin to look up.
• Malaysia
8 Mar 08
i'm so sorry to hear about your aunt and your mom. life goes on and though you can grieve all you want, know that they're in a better place right now and always keep them in your prayers. i hope that you would be strong, never lose faith and hope. hope that things will be better for you, take care and be strong okay! you've a lot of people who cares for you, so you're not in this alone ;)
• United States
8 Mar 08
Wow! I am sooooo sorry to hear about your loss:( your aunt and your moms. I hope that you get through this well and that you will be strong so your kids have sopmeone to lean on at this time as well.
• Philippines
8 Mar 08
Im sorry for the lost. I hope you and your family will be able to recover it. I know how hard it is to face such thing. I wish the next days of this year will be nice days for you. Pray always. Godbless.
@lingli_78 (12845)
• Australia
8 Mar 08
hi ctry... i am so sorry to hear about your situation and my deep condolences for you... i pray that the rest of 2008 will be smooth for you... please don't think negatively and don't lose hope... hang on there... i believe things will get better for you... hope you and your family will recover soon from the lost of your aunt and everything will be back to normal... take care and God Bless you...
@meljessxena (2317)
• Australia
8 Mar 08
oh dear, im so sorry you sure are having a rough time. "hugs" i could just imagine how much your hating 2008, all the best.. and again, im sorry about your loss
@someonesmom (5765)
• Canada
8 Mar 08
This is so very sad, and I'm sorry to hear this. Having personally been through a lot of grief in my life, due to the passing of several close family members, I can understand what you're going through. You will hear from many, that 'time is the great healer,' or words to that effect. While this is true, it doesn't make the experience, any less real, or less painful. I've found that although time is healing, it does take a very long time, and these losses are never forgotten, although we do 'eventually' move on. Again, I'm so sorry.
• United States
7 Mar 08
I am so sorry! I can not imagine losing someone SO close to you! I lost my grandpa years and years ago, when I was very young. I don't have a ton of memories with him, but I have enough! And it hurt real bad! I am so lucky not have lost either of my parents yet, or any family member I am extremely close to now. I can't give you empathy, or sympathy! I am really really sorry you had to lose your aunt! And your mother! How terrible. I hope some how, everything works out for you! Don't try to think about how much you are going to miss her, not for too long anyways. Think about happy memories and things, you know she wouldn't want you to be sad over her! She'd want you to go on with your life, she knew you loved her when she was alive, she doesn't have to be reminded everyday after she's gone!