What do you think about this situation...?
March 8, 2008 6:10am CST
My family (parents and siblings) will be going out of the country for a 1-week trip. It's out first time as a family to go out of the country. Now here's the thing. My father will be paying for everything and aside from us, we're taking the girlfriends of my brothers. I am the only daughter of the family. And I think it's unfair. I can't take my boyfriend, but they can take their girlfriends. Do you think it's fair? My father tells me that it's that way because my boyfriend should take the responsibility of saving up money for our trip, if he wants us to be together. Yes, he is right, but doesn't it show that it's ok for my brothers to just depend on my dad to take their girlfriends for trips? I don't know if I am right at this, but it's quite unfair for me. I say, those who become FAMILY should be allowed, not girlfriends nor boyfriends yet. I don't mind if my boyfriend gets left behind, but I say let those girls be left behind too. What's your take on this? Anyhow, people say that it's my dad's money anyway so let him decide. But I say, if that's the case then I should splurge twice as much since he's paying double for them anyways. (brother + girlfriend). What do you think?
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10 Mar 08
I think family trip should not include the boyfriend nor the girlfriend. If your brother decided his girlfriend to come along, so your brother should pay for her. Not your father. Well I don't know what your father think. I think he is too generous. Maybe he think that they are his future daughter-in-law and they're no more different. They're part of your family member. Well it good to know each other earlier.
23 Apr 08
Yeah, I think we both have the same opinion on things. I mean, I'm not really ranting because I didn't get to bring my boyfriend. It's simply a matter of situation. We won't be a family sooner when everyone goes and gets married, right? So, why not spend a few years just us first. And later when we're all married, each could go on their own vacation or as a group with all our LEGAL partners. Whew.. hehehe
• United States
8 Mar 08
I don't see any fairness in this situation and his response doesn't make sense to me either. So your brothers get to enjoy their vacation with their girlfriends while you hang out with your Dad - oh how much fun that will be LOL. I feel sorry for you laydee but I suppose there really isn't anything you can do because he's the one paying for it. I don't think I would go, but that's just me.
23 Apr 08
I was thinking of not really going but the trip was already paid for. We did go to the trip with them and it wasn't as fun as I thought it could have been if we were just family. Because indeed the brothers stuck with their girlfriends in anything. They'd even prioritize their girls for pictures and everything else. But you're right, I can't do anything about it. I guess this time, I just have to shut-up. :) Thanks for the opinion. :D
• United States
8 Mar 08
I think it's very much a double standard. If 'boyfriends' are supposed to be paying their own way, then why aren't your brothers doing so? If that's his way of thinking, then he should pay for you and the girlfriends, and let his sons pay for themselves. It should be he pays for the friends of all of you, or he should pay for none. Anything else is unfair. But he's the man holding the $$$, so I guess you don't have much choice.
8 Mar 08
I couldn't agree more about my brothers paying for themselves. Hehehe.. but well, that's his standard. And you're right, he's holding the $$$ and I don't have much choice. That's why even though I'm not the materialistic type, I guess I should try to cash in too. Sad and wrong but I guess I don't really have very clear options. I did tell my boyfriend about it, he's supportive enough to understand why I'm feeling this way, and he says he's not really angry at all, and that I shouldn't worry because someday we'll have our own vacation and no ones going to tell us what to do about it. =) Thanks for the response though.