Love and possesiveness

@maasha25 (108)
India
March 9, 2008 9:48am CST
Does possessiveness in love sounds healthy? I think its problem as our partner will never allow us to speak or interact with any girls/boys....What do you feel?
9 responses
• United States
10 Mar 08
what a tricky question. I think it just depends on the person you are asking. Posessiveness has a lot to do with jealousy and jealousy is a very complicated subject. After past experiences I have learned that there is always reason to be cautious; however it doesn't really do much good. Let's face it the reason one is possessive is to keep their other half from straying, right? Well if someone is going to cheat they will cheat whether you are possessive or not. It will happen if it is gonna happen is what i am trying to say. I think that possessiveness just adds complications and strain on the relationship.
1 Apr 10
Hi...myslf Arjun As u said itz givin me mental strez am gettin mad abt ma girlfren//2 b frank she iz fyn wid d relation n she iz true 2 me.. bt still am gettin weird doubts n evn stinkin thoughts abt her...my mind is gettin rotten i feel frustratd...pls do help me out I wz a flurt 2 d core bt am damn true to her am keepin ma id pls do mail me bk arjunrj509@gmail.com
• India
10 Sep 09
I think its quite common for all people. Its just the nature of human beings. Even friends feel possessive of one another!!!! Children feel possessive of parents! Degree of possessiveness might vary from person to person. A certain amt of possessiveness makes life interesting and gives a sense of belonging. But over and above that, it becomes suffocating!!!!! It doesn't prove that its true love or whatever.There are so many people who don't get possessive. That doesn't mean that they don't feel true love!!!!
@fossesor (268)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
I think it's not healthy. I am in a relationship right now, I feel possessiveness in part of my partner. I don't know how to correct her without her feeling that she taken for granted. I don't know what to do. She always think that I am not secure for her. I felt hard when I need to interact with people because I knew that she'll feel forces in her heart(chest) while I'm talking, or with someone. I wanna tell her that I'm for her. I understand what she feels , I've been to that situation before . Before her, I'm a paranoid partner. I don't want to lose a relationship because of the hard time of having a possessiveness in a relationship. We need to have a trust in a relationship.
@quawertz (781)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
My friend in college had a boyfriend that is super possessive. She did admit to me that her life was so miserable when she was with him. She cannot talk to guys even if it is related to schoolwork.. She has been my groupmate and she don't talk to any of our guys groupmates. There was even one time when a guy was asking her about the group activity and she was just like blunt about it. She didn't even look to the guy. My last boyfriend was also possessive. Though I don't have so much problem about him like my friend did. Because I'm always not following his rules..
10 Mar 08
i must have to say that being possessive in a relationship is long term not healthy,i feel no matter what ,in a relationship you should still be able to express yourself without any thought of doing wrong, bearing in mind that there is truth and honesty in the first place.
@jsharriz (436)
• Ukraine
10 Mar 08
possesiveness wen it crosses its limits its sure not healthy..but if not i think it makes the relationship better..its jus a part of emotions that we share..
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
10 Mar 08
Hi dear i am sure that possesiveness in Love is always healthy but it does not mean that u should not let him talk with friends
@dtroas (481)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I would not be in love with someone who was possessive, not when it comes to me talking to another man. Which I do not think I will ever have to deal with that.
@madlees (1381)
• India
9 Mar 08
Hi Maasha, Yes Actually, possessiveness is healthy in love, only then it shows that you care about the person. If you don't feel possessive then the meaning will be that you don't much care about the person, to whom he / she talks and that you do not care enough. Possessiveness comes because the person is jealous and he is afraid that you might turn to that person more than him. If you are not possessive and let him / her talk to anyone he / she fancies, he might move away from you soon I wouldn't believe a person if he is not possessive.. If it gets too much sometimes that you cannot even smile at a person with out getting the lover upset and moody. those are the extreme cases.. Only then you'll have to worry about it. Otherwise it is healthy and it should be there in a relationship...