Someone says, "I love you." Do you know when they really mean it?

@writersedge (22579)
United States
March 9, 2008 10:23pm CST
How do you know when someone really means it? Sometimes I felt that the person meant it and later on I was wrong and vice versa. So how good are you at determining this and how do you know when you're right or wrong?
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@DavidReedy (2411)
• United States
14 Apr 08
Better still, add to the equation, the truth of the matter, that feelings are subject to whims and change, and at one moment in time, I may mean it when I say "I Love you" to someone, or someone may mean it when they say it to me, but later on, feelings change... Then what... Not to mention there is the problem, of defining what one really means when they say "I Love you" in the first place.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
14 Apr 08
Yes, it is very difficult when you figure all that into it, isn't it? Thanks and take care.
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• United States
15 Apr 08
Indeed. Sorry I didn't have more to add. Fact is, that after answering a lot more in depth on the same topic on another thread, I'm kind of without inspiration--without the right words... Afterall, if we human beings had this Love thing figured out, much of our literature, movies, plays, operas, sonnets, sitcoms, poems, novels, propaganda, media, medical issues, social stigmas and issues, etc., would all simply cease to be.
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
15 Apr 08
Interesting way to look at it, I never thought about it that way. Very interesting. Thanks and take care.
@carmelanirel (21108)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I always look at how they act, are their words and actions the same?
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
11 Mar 08
True, some people act one way and say another. But I've met some really good actors for a period of time who matched their actions with their words for the short hall, but the couldn't sustain it very long. Thanks
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• United States
11 Mar 08
That is true, an actor can pull off a loving attitude, but that is where time comes in and why someone jumping into a marriage without knowing the person for a while is taking a risk..
• United States
12 Apr 08
Thanks for the BR..
• China
15 Apr 08
um, actually i will quite dislike this kinda people who say "i love u‘ easily.
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I feel the same way. If it's a long time coming, it's probably more truthful. Thanks and take care.
@bc3000 (42)
14 Apr 08
you can tell by how they act, how they say it, etc. if you know them well you can tell. i think i'm quite good at telling but hey.. what would i know? lol
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
15 Apr 08
What do we all know, actually, take care.
@Zhanec (1653)
• Malaysia
14 Apr 08
i think i can feel it when they say it.Just look into their eyes when they say those 3 words.judge by your heart,and it will tell you if its real.And if you think at that moment,its true...just believe in it and never hesitate your judgment.That's my way.
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
14 Apr 08
Interesting, sight and feelings plus judgement. Thanks and take care.
• Hong Kong
13 Apr 08
Well, you can always tell when people are lying from their eyes. Besides, sometimes people just change and they just run out of love for someone, it doesn't mean that it's a lie when they say that particular phrase.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
14 Apr 08
Most people, you can tell from their eyes, but some really, really practiced liars, you can't. True, people's feelings change over time. Thanks and take care.
• China
12 Apr 08
Yeah,that's true .action is really important when it comes to judge the person's words.However,I we can't ignore the feelings of ourselves..Sometimes our feelings can provide something for us and this kind of thing is somewhat mysterious but they do exist and command our actions Molly..
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I think I understood what you said, but I'm not a 100 % sure.