My Big Sister

@Rozie37 (15505)
Turkmenistan
March 10, 2008 1:15am CST
So I have been trying to get ahold of my sister since Friday. I also called her at work today and they said she was off. I do not know if she is on leave again or what. The last time I talked to her at home, she asked me to call her at work from now on. When I could not reach her at work, I had my best friend call the cell phone and ask for her. My sister's husband answered the phone and when my friend asked to speak to my sister, he hung up without even knowing who it was. I had been trying to get in touch with my middle sister, but she is so busy. When he hung up on my friend, I called my auntie to vent my feelings and she kept saying, you know how he is, he is evil. She said that she only calls my sister at work now too. She said even if he knows who you are, he will not give my sister the message. I finally talked to my middle sister and she says that my older sister is planning to leave for Atlanta at the end of this month. The buyer is going to go ahead and buy the place and then hire an attourney to get the tenant upstairs out. I am still praying on this situation, so I do not want to dwell on my fears. I know that the Lord is in control and I have got to trust him. My middle sister saw her at church today. I may have to get up extra early one Sunday, just to go and see my sister at church. I get very depressed when I do not see my family for a long time and I have not seen her since Thanksgiving. She is suppose to be returning to work on May 1st.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
10 Mar 08
I don't blame you for being upset. That is along time not to see a family member. I only have one sister. I am glad she comes around pretty often. I worry about her also though. I don't trust her husband either. Espically after what my neice told me that day I watched her. I hope you somehow get to see her or talk to her before they move to Atlanta.
@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
11 Mar 08
I talk to her today and she says now that they will be leaving the first week of April, so I hope that she will come to my great-nephew's birthday party on the 29th of this month. That way, we can all have a chance to say goodbye.
@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
10 Mar 08
You know Rosie, that is probably a great idea if you attended church on Sunday just to see how she is doing. Its obvious her husband is so controlling and is not going to give her the phone for anything or anyone, not even family - so sad :( HUGS hang in there my friend and keep persisting.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
11 Mar 08
I am just beside myself with anger. I spoke to her today and she was making excuses for him. She said that he probably hung up because he thought it was a bill collector. On Sunday??? Sure, that is more than likely what he thought, yeah right!!! All I am saying is that I certainly would not want to go out of town with a man who won't even let me talk to my family. I am expecting a miracle. I have to have a miracle.
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@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
11 Mar 08
Rozie is there not anyone in your family or circle of friends that could take her out of that situation she is in? How about the church? is there anyone that could help her and her kids? She needs a safe haven to get away from that controlling husband of hers, her and her kids. I know it all comes down to her making that decision to get out of it, but I think she's unable to see the light at the end of the tunnel and how much better her and her kids would be without that basket case. Makes me wonder if he has threatened her and he probably has if she was to ever leave him. GRRR he makes me so angry and yet I don't even know him!
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
11 Mar 08
He threatened her while I was still living there. He told her if she took his kids from him, she would be punished. I do not know work he meant, but I heard that with my own ears. We as a family would be willing to do whatever it takes to help her. All she hast to do is ask. I would do almost anything in the world for my sister. I do not know if it is fear, pride, or stubborness that is keeping her there. I just hope that she has not given up on God making a way out for her. He is the only one who can make a way out of no way.
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@alexsis (2149)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I hope you are able to get in touch with your sister soon. Her husband is evil just like my exhusband was. I hope he is no treating her like my ex treated me, if so she need to leave him. I hope you make it to church on Sunday to see her. I think you really need to spend some time with her and talk.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
11 Mar 08
I talked to her while she was at work today. I have been talking to her about this situation for almost ten years. I am expecting God to step in any day and change things.
11 Mar 08
hi, hope you don't mind me jumping in. I have been in a relationship similar to that of your sister, my ex was controlling to the point where I had trouble going to see my grandma, as it turns out they should have been the most important times as she passed away about a month after me and him split up :( The one thing I can say to anyone in a situation like that or knows someone who is, do not keep quiet about it, if you think that something is going on then you have to tell someone. You need to find out from her what is really going on though, maybe the fact that she is moving may help her to tell you what is going on, she needs to see that her family will be there for her if and when she decided that she wants out of the relationship, especially with kids. Over here in the UK we have women's shelters; they're not great but they help to protect you and your children and if you have been abused they will also help with that side of things. Please let your sister know before she goes that you are there for her and that if she ever needs any help or anywhere to go then all she has to do is let you know. Whatever happens make her husband see that he not going to ever spilt her up from her family no matter where they live.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
11 Mar 08
Well she says that they are planning to leave the first week of April. I believe the closer it gets to that time, the more she'll start looking at things for what they really. I pray that he is not allowed to pull this off. I can not bear for my sister to be living so far away and not know what is going on with her.
@Polly1 (12650)
• United States
10 Mar 08
Oh my, I know you are scared for your sister. her husband does sound evil and nasty. If she is bound determined to move there isn't anything you can do except pray for her. You are going to have to trust in God to protect her and take care of her. Its going to be hard to do that nowing how wracked her hubby is. I do feel sorry for her and for all of you. I do know how it is to have a sister that lives far away. And it makes it worse when they have husbands that are nasty. I live in Ohio and one of my sisters live in Florida. She has a husband that has issues. He is mean, nasty, obnoxious, I can go on and on. I worry about her too, and there is nothing I can do except pray for her and be here when she calls. One thing he will do is tell her when we call, he doesn't hang up on us.
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@Polly1 (12650)
• United States
11 Mar 08
Rozie, I will pray for a miracle too.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
12 Mar 08
Thank you very much.
@laurika (4537)
• United States
10 Mar 08
Oh rozie, I can see, why you are worrying about your sister so much. her husband really look like he is controlling too much. I would probably go to the church and see at least there if my sister is ok. Hope everything is fine with her and you will not need to worry anymore.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
11 Mar 08
I spoke to her while she was at work today, so I am feeling a lot better. Thank you for your support.
• United States
10 Mar 08
It is hard when you can not get a hold of a family member. There is something wrong that the husband won't let her talk to members of her own family. One of the first things it says about a abusive relationship is the person who is abusing makes the person he is abusing cut all ties both with family and friends. She is moving to Atlanta and her husband won't let to talk to you now. When she gets to Atlanta she will be far away and than you won't be able to see what is going on. I hope it is a case that she is not being abused and that it is just a case of having a controlling husband. It is awful funny that he won't let her talk to you. After all family is a strong bond.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
13 Mar 08
Unfortunately my sister married a real sick character. I hope he does not succeed in trying to further isolate her from her family. Thank you for responding.