I have heard that having a baby is painful and then others say it's not?!?

United States
March 11, 2008 4:42pm CST
I want to know from mommy opinions on how painful (or how not painful) having a baby is. If you have had a painful experiance, could you give an example to compare the pain for us "non-mommies" out here.
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@Darkwing (21588)
11 Mar 08
It can be a pretty painful experience but they can give you pain killers these days. It's a different kind of pain, which I can't explain, and once the baby's there, you forget all about it. That's probably why others tell you it isn't a painful experience. :) It's no worse than a heavy period pain, really. Brightest Blessings.
• United States
11 Mar 08
HAHA! That makes sense to me know why a lot of parents say it wasn't painful for them. Because they get the pregnancy amnesia. Thanks for your response!
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@Darkwing (21588)
12 Mar 08
That's right, that new little life you hold in your arms makes all the pain in the world go away, and you can never recall it. I've only had two and I know I had pain but I can't remember what it was like. :)
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@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
12 Mar 08
To be honest, the pain level is so undescribable that I wouldn't even begin to try and explain it. It is very painful though, the most pain you will probably ever go through in your life. I had an epideral with my first child, so it wasn't bad at all, but with my second he came so quick i didn't have time and i was miserable. I'm not much of a screamer, but i cried like crazy and almost screamed on several occasions. it was the same with my daughter as well. didn't have time for an epideral, so i went all natural. you know, you forget until the next child just how painful it is and I think God makes you forget for a reason. LOL! He knew if you remembered it you probably would never have another child in your life. Although the epederal can make the baby groggy, i strongly recommend it if you can get to the hospital in time. LOL! although, sometimes the epideral can cause back problems. there are always pros and cons when it comes to getting one of those. for me, it was a con because i suffer severe back pains at times from them, but some people don't have problems at all after getting one. good luck and God bless
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@Hatley (164645)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Mar 08
epidural that was the word I was searching for it made my first child birth so easy but I had the second the old fashioned way and all I can say isouch ouch and ouch.
• Australia
11 Mar 08
Fr me it w like havin really intensified period pain - think of the wost period pain you've had & multiply that by about 100...it didn't help hat my daughter tore me & I had to have stitches but the amazing thing is that once the baby is born, the pain just goes straight away....I lived on gas in labor & about 3-4 hours befre she was born I asked & got a pethadine shot. The pain is definatley worth it.
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• United States
11 Mar 08
I have heard of pregnancy amnesia. I figured it would all be worth it when you see your babies face. Glad to hear it works that way though lol.
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• United States
11 Mar 08
Be prepared!! It is the most painful thing that a women will have endure. You can get an epidural but you have to be dialated to 7 before you can get one. It does hurt real bad but the pain is worth it and goes away right after the baby is born. I am currently 5 months pregnant with my 4th child and I know that the pain will be the same as it was with the others. I think that this time though I will get an epidural. I have never had one but I have friends who have and they slept and were even sitting up in bed talking.
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• United States
12 Mar 08
Really? They started bugging me with #3 when I was at a 4! Course Utah is epidural happy!
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
i have four children and they are all normal painless delivery. of course there is pain during labor but my obgyne will put something so the pain of delivery is bearable. the healing process is painfull too specially if you have a cut. but seeing how precious your baby drives all kind of pains away. wink wink. welcome to mylot carra, hope you enjoy here the way we do. happy posting
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@lightningd (1041)
• United States
11 Mar 08
I always laugh when I see this question. I had two children, both by natural child birth, both without medication. Shortly before I had my first son, a friend had just had her second child. Her first was born by c-section, and she decided to have the second by natural child birth. She proceeded to tell me that it was the worst pain she had ever experienced. I think it is different for every person. Everyone has different pain tollerance levels. Labor is not comfortable by any means. There is intense pressure, and it does resemble period cramps. The worst pain is when the child's head comes out. After that, it's no biggie. Granted, with my first child, my water broke at 4:15 in the morning, my contractions started at 4:35 and he was born at 6:09. It was a very SHORT labor. With my second, I started having contractions about 20 minutes apart on a Tuesday evening at 5:45. While they continued to get closer, my contractions continued and at 1:45 the following afternoon (yes, 20 hours later) the doctor broke my water. My second son was born 2 hours later at 3:47 pm that Wednesday. So that one was very different in that I had to put up with the contractions for 20 hours longer. But as for the pain, the worst pain lasted only moments.
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@Hatley (164645)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Mar 08
Hi with my first baby I had a pain medication injected in my spinal canal when I was close to delivery so I accually had very little pain and I would say it was on the scale from one to ten at about a three and did not last that long. With my second baby I had some complications so more pain was involved and a c section was needed but the jerk doctor refused because he felt my insurance would not cover it. hence my child was born black and did not breathe for ten minutes, she was brain damaged as a result of that doctor's incompetence but the birth was again not that painful the emotional consequences were very painful but this does not happen maybe one in a zillion times. if you have a good doctor you are well on your way to a perfect outcome and do not let out old wives tales scare the bejabbers out of you as they did me with my first baby. You will be fine. just fine.
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@Samanthavv (1386)
• United States
12 Mar 08
Good god, cararr-bear! You should have hauled your happy butt to the hospital to see me after I had Maddie. Assuming I wasn't delirious from the pain medications, I would have let you know exactly what it felt like to be sliced open! I couldn't even clear my throat or cough without crying in agony after I had my c-section. Maybe I'm a wimp, I don't know, but it was terrible. I think, I could add up all the pain I have ever experienced in my life, combine it, then multiply it by 1,000,000,000 and then add a little more and it still couldn't begin to describe the pain I was in. And you know, I've told you this before, but as painful as it was, if I could relive any day of my life over and over again, it would be that day, because that was the day I met the love of my life.
@llldj51 (39)
12 Mar 08
For me my first and my third where the worst labours for me. They where both 30+ hours and I am allergic to Pethadine and Morphine so I had to have all of my children the old fashioned way 'No Painkillers'. My second however was only 3 hours and was totally different from the other two. I can't believe people are saying though that you forget the pain afterwards cause yes it's all worth the pain at the end but I have never forgotten the pain of childbirth. It is a pain that is so intense that you just can't describe it.
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• United Kingdom
12 Mar 08
That's bad that you couldn't have pain killers. I chose to only have gas and air but at least it was a choice for me (I was practically forced to take paracetamol before my second baby was born because no one at the hospital believed I was already in labour so gave me something for the pain of tha contractions!) And I agree with you, it is worth the pain but I don't know how anyone can forget it! I didn't have that much pain with my first (my mum had to tell me I was in labour because my contractions felt like tummy ache!) but the contractions I had with my second were really bad but then I only felt one need to push so that made it harder because he wouldn't come out!
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Having a baby well birth that is.. when I had my son which was 8 years ago... I know a long time but I do remember the pain and it hurt bad, I am not talking like a hitting your thumb with a hammer I'm talking pain... Everything happened in an instant, my water broke and not even 2 minutes later my contractions were already 5 minutes apart.. I live 45 minutes away from the hospital well that took us 15 to get there... the pain was awful.. I was bouncing in the seat really though trying to stay still... I couldn't no matter what.. When I got to the hospital I was put in a wheel chair brought into the ER took to a room and right there is when I started pushing to get my son out... They didn't have time to do anything... The doctors couldn't believe how fast I did have my son... It was only 20-25 minutes after my water broke I delivered my son.. What got me the most it was almost 2:00 am when it happened he was boring 2:25 am Happy and health... Not to mention tiny he was only 4lbs 2 oz when he was born...
• United States
14 Mar 08
Having a baby does not have to be painful unless something unavoidable goes wrong. Of course there will be some discomfort but most of the pain is caused by the ackward position the doctor makes the women stay in for hours. If you have a baby at home with a good midwife or a doctor you trust then it should not be that painful. There are excercises you can do at home to ease labor pains too.
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@chrysz (1603)
• Philippines
14 Mar 08
Labor is one of the most painful I have experienced especially with my last one because I have to endure a lot of injections to prevent eclampsia (the magnesium sulphate is very hot as it gets through my veins). The pains are sometimes unbearable but that is just a normal process and for me, you'll never know the true meaning of relief unless you have encountered enough pain to differentiate it with the pleasure we get in seeing our baby for the first time and hearing their first cry.
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@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
12 Mar 08
It does hurt but afterward you forget. :) Well it doesn't seem so bad any way. Are you planning on an epidural or anything? I could give you the pull your lip over your head comparison but I don't think that's accurate. ;)
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• United States
16 Jul 08
i never had natural with any of my kids however i did have contractions with my son.they hurt alot but i know its nothing like pushing a baby through lol.my sister had a baby 6 months ago natrually and she said it wasnt that bad and let me tell u her with pain dont mix.it really depnds on u,ur baby and ur body.some women say it kills them wile other says its nothing.my mom who had 8 kids also said each time it was nothing.so i guess it all depends.
@makingpots (11922)
• United States
13 Jun 08
Yes, it is painful. But it is also true that when it is all over your really don't remember the pain. For me, the labor pains were like really, really severe menstral cramps. Once it is time to start pushing, you don't even think about the pain as much as helping the baby out. You become so focussed on the baby and breathing and pushing that the pain is more like just an annoyance. In the end, it is all so very worth it, and you hardly remember the pain at all.
@16031981 (449)
• Jamaica
13 Jun 08
i didnt have a terrible labor it was more like my worse period i had. the more active you are as in s@x and moving aroud like work and all the easier it becomes. it a wonderful experience i had only one. cheers
@queenkei (24)
• Philippines
12 Jun 08
yes it is physically painful...imagine that you will bring out almost a size of a melon fruit.but emotionally and mentally it seemed not that painful because the overwhelming joy that i felt on seeing my newborn. i do have 2 kids now and im proud to say that i had a normal delivery on both boys.on my own experience,the second one is more painful because i was in full dilatation and yet the baby is not yet ready to come out.the position is still high so we've waited for almost 15 mins.and when the crowning position came the ob gyne decided to fundal push the baby so it will come out.but the shocking part was when the ob asked for assistance and 3 nurses pushed my tummy.imagine that they put their weight on me.whew..i made it after all the pain!
• Pakistan
11 Jun 08
We get the reward of the pain in form of baby. We forget the pain when we become mommy. It is very tough time to get a baby. Mother is a great relationship. And the female who bare the pain of birth becomes a mother and paradise comes under her feet. So the pain is the cost of the grade we get after making birth of a child. Thus the pain during birth has no mean.
@djd832001 (124)
• United States
15 Apr 08
It was pretty painful, I'm not going to lie. I was in labor for 4 days. It felt like real strong menstral cramps. And I could not stop vomiting. After I had the epidural though, I felt wonderful. When it came time to push my epidural fell out and it became painful again. I pushed for 1 Hour and the a healthy baby boy came. After the baby comes you forget all about the pain though, and everything if find. But all labors are different. I had friends that didn't have that problem at all and had really quick labor. I would tell anyone that is pregnant to take the lamaze classes, not only does it tell of methods that will help you relax, they usually tell you too on what will be going on the room, basically what you can expect when your in labor at the hospital. I felt more prepared when I went to have my baby
• Saint Lucia
15 Apr 08
i wouldn't say that it is half and half ...it all depends on the baby....trust me i've had two kids and they were very different....