Have you ever gone to bed without

@ersmommy1 (12600)
United States
March 14, 2008 10:43pm CST
saying good night to your spouse or significant other. Too Tired or mad whatever. Just gone to sleep.I try not to. Though I am sure I have. Usually when I am sick. I just pass out. What about you?
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• United States
16 Mar 08
Never. Even if we want to kill each other at the time, we still give each other a kiss and say I love you to each other (though it may be through gritted teeth). We have both been in situations in which we've lost important people in our lives rather suddenly and unexpectedly (one example is my father - he was in the wrong place at the wrong time and was shot. He passed away immediately at the age of 54). We have learned that life is too short and you never know what's going to happen when you walk out the door in the morning. If you and your spouse or significant other are arguing and something happens to one of you (I'll use your significant other for this scenario), do you really want to live out the rest of your life wondering if he/she knew howmuch you really loved them since the last thing you said to them was "&$%^@ you!" or "You're such an idiot!"? Or if you didn't kiss him/her goodnight, hwo would you feel if you never got the chance to kiss them again? My husband and I kiss each other and say I love you every night before bed, every time one of us leaves the house and every time one of us comes home. That way, no matter what happens when we leave the house, the last think we told each other was that we love them and we made sure we got that kiss that could've been our last.
• United States
16 Mar 08
To clarify, when I started off with "Never", I meant that we never go to bed without a kiss and saying I love you.
• United States
18 May 09
I"m sure we have. My hubby falls asleep pretty fast when he's tired so it's to be expected. But I do look forward to that kiss before we shut our eyes especially if we don't have any kids in bed... feels like the olden days before we had a family.
@magrylouyu (1632)
• United States
18 May 09
I always tell my husband that I love him and give him a kiss when one of us leave the house. I do the same with my children as well. I never know what may happen once you leave home. My husband, myself, an old friend and my oldest daughter (5) recently got into a car accident on the highway and almost flipped our van. I thank the good Lord that we didnt and we're all okay. We were up on 2 wheels for just a short 2-3 seconds and my whole life flashed before my eyes thinking that was the end! Now, I make sure that no matter what I NEVER forget to say it. I would feel horriable if something should happen and my husband and my children always know how I feel.
@Bethany1202 (3432)
• United States
18 May 09
I never intentionally go to bed or leave the house without saying goodbye to my mate and giving him a kiss. As you said, if I am so tired I pass out earlier than expected it might not happen, but every night I can control it I do, whether we are mad at each other or not.
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
18 May 09
Sometimes I just go to bed without saying anything to my husband and I just say I Love him after I wake up. I most of the time say goodnight to my husband and bid him a kiss and hug but sometimes I go to bed earlier than him. He has been working at night for more than a year now so we never go to bed together. We only sleep at the same time during weekends which are his day offs. When I am mad at my husband I still kiss him maybe because I was used to it or I am just feeling bad. Anyway it is a good practice to sleep with sweet endearments first because it feels so good and nice.
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
18 May 09
We usually have a chat till we feel very sleepy and tired before saying good night to each other.
@busta1baby (1238)
• United States
28 Apr 08
no i cant do it...lol
• United States
19 Mar 08
Well, I'm a bit less attentive to such things than my wife. If we have been irritated with each other, I tend to say nothing. I don't have a problem going to sleep without saying goodnight. I suppose thinks might have been different for me if my parents had been the type to always say goodnight to me. They weren't, however. Not -- at least -- as far as I can recall.
@aretha (2539)
• United States
15 Mar 08
i never used to but after we moved and he is down stairs all the time i do. he is down stairs all the time and don't come up till everyone is asleep and he knows about when i go to bed so if he isn't up here then i go to bed.
• China
15 Mar 08
I have the same experience like you.And I agree with what you said.yes,to say good night to your spouse is becoming the fixed words in our daily life.However,the reality is crucial,everything may happen unexpectedly.We should regard it in a right postition and let the life continue without our own circle of minds.
@rockvixen (894)
• United States
15 Mar 08
Of course this has happend. There have been times when we just go to bed turn the light off and sleep. No goodnight no, i love you, just sleep. It happens but it's not a bad thing. Just being overly exhausted.
@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
15 Mar 08
unfortunately my husband and i have both been guilty of doing that in the past because we were mad at each other, but we've learned to never go to bed angry. it just makes the next day even worse. you should never let the sun go down and still be angry. all it does is stir up more anger and makes for a long day the next day. God bless