Dealing With New Emotions

@wolfie34 (26793)
United Kingdom
March 15, 2008 8:18am CST
How do you deal with an emotion that you have never experienced before or thought you'd lost? Does it give you a weird feeling, does it make you positively glow inside? or does it frighten the hell out of you Maybe you've experienced love for the first time, maybe you've just experienced anger, hate or jealousy Do you quickly hide it, bury it and forget that emotion or do you positively encourage it, or do you wonder where the hell it's come from? I am sitting here responding to a few discussions and I found myself responding positively and it sort of frightened me, it was a weird sensation, like putting something in your mouth that you have never tasted before. I don't know whether it's because I am getting into my therapy each week, because I have decided to rejoin the gym or because it's Spring, or even if the antidepressants are kicking in, I've been on them for 18 days now or a combination I really really hope it lasts, I've had a good week and I am horrified that I am going to plummet again, my life is rollercoaster and I dread slipping back down again But I can taste positivity and I hope it a sign of good things to come So how do you deal with forgotten or new emotions?
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
15 Mar 08
I spent many years dealing with my emotions by getting drunk. I would cry and go through many emotions while being super tanked. When I quit drinking I was okay for a while. There wasn't really anything in my life that I couldn't deal with. But then I had a serious event take place and found that I couldn't cry. It hurt not to do it but I had forgotten how to cry naturally. Booze was the only way to get it out. I was physically ill from the lack of being able to express myself. I nearly went back to drinking "for my health" LOL It has been a long process that I still work on to express myself and my feelings. It is strange for others to hear me tell them how I feel but I find that it helps me deal. I still am not a crier but I get close. Even a watery eye at times.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
16 Mar 08
I find it very difficult to cry, part of that problem was as a child I was always taught that boys shouldn't cry, sad isn't it. Crying is a new emotion to me. If I cried I could heal quicker.
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
18 Mar 08
Sweetheart stop panicking You will have back falls now and again there is no getting out of it It does mean that you will go back to it It means your Body and mind is still working on the new you Also being in Therapy can do this believe me as it all comes to the Surface again and it has to be dealt with so please do not panic let it all come through new old forgotten as that is what you have to do to deal with them I could not deal with any of it that is why I came out of the Therapy it has all been buried specially the Experience I had at the age of 5 so long I can not bring it out in the open You will be fine and you know where I am Sweetie if you need someone Love you xxxx
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
18 Mar 08
I know I the world's worst when it comes to worrying, when I first started counseling, I suddenly became aware of things that had been locked up from when I was six and I found it very very harrowing, I guess the brain tries to protect you from stuff that happened and you wanted to forget it, and you sure do open some skeletons in the closet when you go down the therapy route. It's mostly CBT she is giving me but it is helping, changing the way I think etc.... Love you lots xxx
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@wickedangel (1636)
• Dominican Republic
17 Mar 08
Hi there wolfie That's a million dollar question. I'm not sure if I'd say I had lost an emotion, I know that I don't care to feel strong anger. Somehow it depresses me and yes, I suppose I do want to suppress it when it comes boiling to the surface. I know that that isn't a good move but then again if you blow and say the wrong things to the one you love, for example, then you can't take those words back. We're with you and hope that you have another good week, think positively if you can and just say that you won't plummet again, you will still be feeling chipper! Take care and keep positing! :)
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
18 Mar 08
Thank you my friend, life has ups and downs it's learning to ride them like waves, bad and good ;0)
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
17 Mar 08
well I don't have new emotions, they are the same emotions recycled for the new situation, it sounds like you are getting better, that is wonderful. by the way responding positively is not an emotion per say it is a thought, a way of thinking, an emotion would be crying, laughing feeling sick inside, your mind thinks your body feels or does. if thinking positively means feeling happy for you then happy is a feeling.
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• Philippines
17 Mar 08
Before, I am quite challenged with dealing with emotions. But I guess as humans we are made that way. So I get to accept it. For me, I encourage it. I do not bypass any emotions that I feel, whether I feel good or bad. Of course, if that is a good emotion, it favors me, like i don't want it to stop or end. If that is a bad emotion, I want it to end as soon as possible, but no, I don't do it that way. I allow my emotions to stay in me as long as they want. I wanted to learn on every feelings I have- especially those new ones. The way they transition in me- from good to bad emotions, from new to old emotions or vice versa. They help me feel alive.
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Hi Son When I have an emotion I try to stop and kinda shut down for a minute to give myself time to process. I try not to just react! xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
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@weemam (13377)
16 Mar 08
This is a hard one pal , when I get worked up about anything ( like this aol business ) I feel physically sick for quite a while then I talk it through with Jim and Ross and I start to calm down , You are doing brilliant and it is only natural that you go over the past in your mind , Just remember how far you have come in the past few months and feel proud xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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• Singapore
16 Mar 08
GEEZ. Haven't you ever responded to a discussion positively before this? I agree feeling positive and behaving positively is a great feeling. When you are negative, even when you are moping and feeling "good", it is not the same. Positivity is another new realm altogether.
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@balasri (26553)
• India
16 Mar 08
I am an extrovert since birth and remain the same till date.I am a very emotional person and so I am used to all kinds of emotions.Well, over the years I learned not to over do some emotions.Thats all I can say.Otherwise it is no problem for me.
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@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
16 Mar 08
First of all I want to give you a compliment on how open you are able to talk about how your life has been and how therapy is currently helping improving your life. If more people do so, there will be more peace and understanding on such topics. Well done! There are some very good antidespressants out there. I take psychology in school and (perhaps you allready know this) the thing the antidepressants do is help the little chemicals that make you happy and excited to be better received by the brain. They don't really add anything into your body, but they help improve the chance of connection to the receiver of this certain chemical. I hope that's clear, otherwise don't hestitate to ask :) Also, rejoining the gym is a very good idea. Being active makes people happy, it releases the same chemicals the antidepressants help getting received. It's a win-win situation on this part! When you haven't had an emotion in a long time it can be very scary. I experienced it when I fell in love with my fiance. I met him 4 years ago and after a couple of months I felt butterfly's in my stomache. I was so terrified I got noxious! lol. I had some bad experiences with boys before so I was affraid to actually fall in love. With a lot of effort I was able to surrend myself to the feeling. In the beginning I did think: Oh my God, what should I do? But decided that while these feelings were there I might as well try to enjoy them. It worked out for the best in this case. I truely believe you should try to enjoy these refound feelings. When you are able to enjoy them they will return to you. Your happiness will multiply. Good luck and thank you for posting this topic!
• United States
15 Mar 08
Scary to feel good, isn't it! How long will it last? Is this really me? Those are some of the questions I've asked myself in the past. I don't ask questions anymore. I just enjoy feeling good one day at a time. Life is definitely a roller coaster. I'm diagnosed as bipolar, but I'm not my diagnosis. I think the bottom line is to not worry about when the next bottom's going to drop out -- just enjoy what's good and positive when you can.
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@Loen210 (1533)
• United States
15 Mar 08
Good to hear, Wolfie hun! Sounds like all the things you have added are working well. ....Doh, I (wit hmy kitty wrapped around my neck) was typing out a whole response. But I just looked up and realized none of it had come onto screen. :oP Not sure why as curser was blinking on here. In abbreviation, wanted to send a big smile tou you. Those helpful factors are working, so keep them up. I havemn't had a new emotion in many years, but when they did come, they can be very drastic, relentless, heavenly, frightening, and so. So glad your's is an up, my friend!
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@chiyosan (30204)
• Philippines
15 Mar 08
i dont know.. i have not had any past emotions come back to me... or maybe i was not paying attention that at one point, i did feel a past hurting came over me again. i just know that if i feel something weird, if i am troubled, i think i can cope with that through things i do, i keep myself busy, i will go out of the routine so i won't remember anything.... those things just to forget and carry on...
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@Winter08 (441)
• Canada
15 Mar 08
You just described a good portion of what I went through when I finally started to heal my "pain" from the crap and crud of my life. I remember feeling so scared the first time I felt good. Not happy, just ... out of that place of dark despair. I was so scared that it would not last. And, of course, it didn't last. But what that good feeling gave me was something to aim for when I did slip back into that awful despair. That memory kept me trying and trying. It kept me picking up the phone to find someone to help. Because I have always hidden myself from myself, buried my emotions so deep I really believed I didn't have any (except for my anger), I had a tough time with the good feelings. And I found a variety of really good therapies/therapists to help we get close to knowing joy. I'm not there yet, but I'm working on it. Congratulations on feeling good. It is an awesome feeling. And even if it doesn't last for you (and I sure hope it does), the memory of it lets you know it is there for you.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
15 Mar 08
I think thats great my friend. You sound great. I wouldnt worry about feeling badly just be happy your happy now. If that makes any sense!LOl xxx
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@ebberts (786)
• United States
15 Mar 08
Wolfie34, I am so happy for you. It is good to hear your life is on the up side. Try not to worry and enjoy it. If you feel your slipping don't hold it in talk to someone. I usually tell someone if I am having a bad day, sometimes it leaves just because I have had contact with another person. Try to surround yourself with positive thinking people. Sometimes another person's good mood rubbs off on us. Have a great day. Keep up the good work.
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• China
15 Mar 08
Sometimes I chose to talk with friends. To let them share with my happiness or frustruction. It always does work to relieve myself especially at something unhappy. Sometimes I just kept the emotion, in one or two days it disappeared. But if i shared with a friend, bad emotions would fled away just after finishing our talk. So i suggest you try so. No matter what the way you take, please don't do something harmful to health. Think happy things you have had. Think there're always many people around who really care about you. It's a good method, i call it self-release.
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@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Mar 08
my emotions are the same since i noticed this until now still inside of me...i am easily got angry i don't know why, i don't want this emotions, i struggling this many years but still here. sometimes i felt self pity because of this, i don't want to make friends so that they could not make wrong with me, so i don't get hurt of don't angry with somebody...i hate myself for having this...but it's me...sometimes i can't resist this emotions...how could i do to do this?
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• United States
15 Mar 08
Well for a couple of years I just couldnt cry. Within the last year I've been able to and I'm a pretty sensitive person I probally cry every other day. The way I deal with that emotion is just let it flow, I know crying is healthy and holding stuff like that in isnt good for my mental or physical health!
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Mar 08
It frightens me when I get suddenly angry over a rude remark by a stranger especially if it has to do with the fact that I am overweight. Since I am not blind and I do have a scale and I know that it is not healthy and am also under my doctor;s care I get really furious when a total stranger makes a remark like you would be really attractive if you lost some weight and dont you know that is unhealthy" I want to grab them by the throat and yell I am not blind you idiot" I mean I do not do this instead I just fume inside and tell myself the person was just being thoughtless so forget it. I am glad Wolfie that you are feeling positive that is a good feeling.