Hurt by a friend

United States
March 15, 2008 11:15am CST
I'm looking for advice on this, I loaned a friend something. I called her up several times to see if it was safe and secure (handgun for target practice). She ignored all my calls and then reported me to my employers that I was harassing her. I would like to make sure that this item is safe, as she went to basic training for the National Guard. Has anyone else been in a similar situation?
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9 responses
• United States
15 Mar 08
I would not call her any longer. I would go straight over to her house. If she doe not answer you. Then go back until she is there. She may have done something she is guilty of. it;s yours to begin with get it back. Write her a letter and certify mail it. You will know if she received it a well.
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@gratitude (181)
• South Africa
15 Mar 08
ummm i dunno about the law in your country BUT HERE in South Africa you would have had to sign an affidavit stating that you have given so and so permission to use this handgun from such and such a date and for what purpose. Go get your property back from her and if she has a problem giving it back, take a policeman with you with proof that it does belong to you...the sooner the better friend!
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• United States
15 Mar 08
I would not call her any longer. I would go straight over to her house. If she doe not answer you. Then go back until she is there. She may have done something she is guilty of. it;s yours to begin with get it back. Write her a letter and certify mail it. You will know if she received it a well.
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@goldwin65 (937)
• Malaysia
16 Mar 08
When I was a kid I befriended a very nice boy. Later we study in the same school and became best friend, in fact he was like a brother to me. Then I persued my study and I lost contact with him for a few years. Later I was transferred to my home town and we became good friend again. Since his financial standing is not stable, so he used to borrow my money and I always lend him the money. Then he asked me to venture into business with him and knowing that I have the money, he asked me to folk out my money and he will run the business. The business is under his name. Since he is my best friend I don't see why I should doubt him. So when the business was doing very well, he will find all kind of excuses not to give me my share although the capital was mine. Then I realised he has bad intention. Everytime I contacted him (until today), he will never answer my call. I have no ground to sue him because the business is under his name. So, I am losing a good friend and my money.
@MsTickle (24983)
• Australia
21 Mar 08
We have a saying. When money becomes involved, friendship flies out the window. I have done this to myself many times in my life because I believe in the golden rule.....treat others as you would have them treat you. It's a shame it doesn't work both ways.
• China
7 Apr 08
I am not in your condition or enen fully understand you too clearly. but I think that maybe she has some misunderstood with you.I think you should have done sonething believable for her to have a talk with you. May you good luck!
• Philippines
7 Apr 08
You should not be too trusting.Be sure that you report this to the police
• Philippines
18 Mar 08
What did she do that for?Anyway,I don't know if my situation is similar to yours.Anyway,here it is.I had a friend whom I loved so dearly and accepted for who and what he is.I just wanted to know what's going on because things between us went wrong ever since his sl*t girlfriend came.I kept on searching for the reasons why then the next thing I knew,he reported me to the school administration,saying that I keep on harassing and "stalking" him.And take note.I'm the girl and I'm crippled.How can I be able to do those things?Anyway,he can't cover up his gayhood no matter what he does.I hate him but the best thing I can do is forget about our friendship because of what he did.
@fec139 (803)
• United States
17 Mar 08
I hate to say this, but you are going to have to take legal action. But first send her a registered letter, that she has to sign for. This way, you have proof that you tried to get it back. If she doesn't return it then, go to the courthouse and file for Small Claims Court. A marshall will deliver the notice to her, so there is no need to go there. But don't contact her by phone and don't go there, because she can say you are harrassing her [which she already did].
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
16 Mar 08
I am so sorry to hear this :( I have been hurt by many who have claimed to have been my friend. I have bent myself backwards helping certain people and the thanks that I got was them judging me for something stupid that happened in the past and they basically started spreading things about me, and the way they wrote me out of their lives was cruel.