I was unloading my groceries in the walmart parking lot and this man

United States
March 15, 2008 10:54pm CST
came up to me and said "good morning maam, do you have a church home" and proceeded to give me a flyer. He could see me struggling with a full cart of groceries and since it was windy the bags were flying. I said "sir, I am VERY busy so please leave me alone". He thanked me for my time and apologized. He was very polite. I am all for spreading the word but in the parking lot?? I found this very intrusive. When people come to my home and knock on the door I have the option of not opening the door. I dont have that option in the parking lot. Would you be offended or do you think its ok?
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@p1kef1sh (45642)
16 Mar 08
He should have offered to help you with your groceries. That would have been useful. Why is it that God botherers don't bother God, but bother us instead. A friend of mine is an evangelist here in the UK. He will happily chat for hours on the subject of his church if you want, but he knows that most of the time that we don't want. His church had such a negative response when they went banging on doors they they don't do that now. They've set up a an education program that sends aid in the form of technical experts out to parts of Africa and have developed almost a two tier church - those that want God, and those that want to help others. It seems to work and they don't come close to getting punched on the nose. I put up with the local Jehovah's Witness coming round because I actually like the guy, He gives me his magazines and then we have a normal chat.
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• United States
16 Mar 08
So does your friend obey the boundaries when others dont want to listen? Evangelists can be fired-up people. Am I correct? How long is your normal chat that sounds like bible study?
• Regina, Saskatchewan
16 Mar 08
I'm pretty open minded on things like this, but I have to say that in this particular situation I would have been momentarily annoyed. Some people have a lousy sense of timing and as long as he was polite, who am I to get upset about it. I would have given him the option of helping me before I took his tract though. A small lesson in humility could go a long way for the next person he approached.
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• United States
16 Mar 08
Thats exactly how I felt, annoyed, but he was so polite I forgot immediately. Even if I was not putting groceries in the car, I dont like what he did. I would have felt obligated if he had helped me. I just dont like being approached in a parking lot, for anything. Thanks for comment.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
16 Mar 08
If I choose to do something, I don't allow people to make me feel obligated. I had enough of that in my youth so now as an adult I offer choices rather than put myself in a position to *owe* or be *owed*. Thanks for approving my friends request by the way. I appreciate it.
• United States
17 Mar 08
Tch. It all offends me. If I was religious, I wouldn't need anyone's flyers and pamphlets, now would I? And since they don't know my religion, they don't have any reason to assume I'm not religious. I'm actually an Atheist, but not only do they not know that by looking at me, but even if they did...it's incredibly rude to solicitate me for Jesus. Sorry, but approaching me is a waste of time. You did the right thing. Just enough bite, but not flat-out rude. He shouldn't have been such a rude person. If he really cared enough to 'spread his word' he would have offered to help you before trying to sell you some Jesus.
• United States
17 Mar 08
Wow, I dont quite know how to respond?? Are you offended because he was soliciting his church or would you also be offended if he were giving out flyers about a bake sale? Either way, appreciate your comment and point of view.
@tess1960 (2387)
• United States
16 Mar 08
The first thing I thought was OMG you could have been in danger. I have a paranoid view I guess. I would have froze and become anxious and maybe even screamed at him a bit if he had caught me off guard like that. So many times seemingly nice, polite your men turn out to be rapists or thieves/carjackers. I hate to take that sinical attitude but I guess it's I've just heard about and seen too many things. In my town the religion groups go around in pairs and sometimes 3 or 4. They are never to be out of each others sight or immediate general area from what I hear. Also from what I've experienced the Jehova Witnesses in my town seldom ever knock, they just leave the magazine flyer at the doors. Another chuch knocks but they are in groups and usually youths with an adult waiting on the sidewalk. I like this because it shows they are being supervised and taught to be cautious even when sreading the word. I've noticed more and more that the churchs use the word of mouth method, the newsp[apers and yard signs to promote their congregations. If someone is really looking for a new church home this, I think, is where and how they would find it. I'm glad he really was just a nice young man spreading the word and not a predator.
• United States
16 Mar 08
You bring up another good point which I dont think is paranoid. You are absolutely right. All one has to do is watch the news. A lot going on out there in this world. Have you taken a self defense class? Believe me, it empowers you and helps with the jitters. Thanks for comment.