Yay - Nay - or whatever you Say? (child birth)

@Modestah (11195)
United States
March 16, 2008 6:43am CST
Do you permit your husband to accompany you in the delivery/operating room for the delivery of your babies? If so, is it out of desire for his presence or out of duress ? If not, why? Is it a fairly new phenomenon to have the father partake in the delivery.
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10 responses
@mummymo (23709)
16 Mar 08
Permit him? Heck No I forced him to be there! He needed to know what it was like just as I needed to tell him it was all his fault and to let him see exactly why he was never coming near me again! xxx
@mummymo (23709)
18 Mar 08
If you do the crime trans sweety you have to do the time! Anyway all you guys get is a bit of verbal abuse and a squashed hand, if we are gonna suffer so badly then you are gonna watch! Then when you feel as though you are being neglected by your wife and you want her to get jiggy wiv it in the bedroom and can't get near us for a bit of hanky panky and can't understand why we aren't up for it just replay the video of the birth and what a womans body gos through to bsar children! xxx No pun intended sweets, honest! xxx
@heart143 (1204)
• Philippines
16 Mar 08
I delivered my baby via CS and how I wish my husband was there when I was taken to the operating room. I was due to deliver three more weeks and I was just visiting my ob- gyne for check up. I told her I had fluid flowing from me the last day. She was shocked when she heard that because I didn't know it was my water bag that broke. She immediately brought me to the laboratory for ultrasound. and found out that only a little water was left. She never let me go home and admitted me right away for delivery. Being a first time mom, I was quite confused and nervous that nobody was with me inside to support me. When he was informed, he rushed to the hospital and just waited for me outside the operating room. Today, it seems that the numbers of fathers wanting to participate in the delivery of their child is increasing. They attend seminars with their wives so that they'll understand more and can partake in the pregnancy and delivery of their children. I think it is a good thing because they too can experience delivery and they will be more ready in case emergency deliveries happens.
@heart143 (1204)
• Philippines
6 Jun 08
My dear friend Modestah, I can't say more...thanks a lot for your appreciation of my responses. Thanks again for this BR you gave me .
@mizcash (686)
• Canada
18 Jun 08
No, it'snot new to have the dfather in the delivery room, when i had my first child 18 yrs ago I chqased my husband out because I wanted just my sister in law. When I had my younger daughter he was welcomed in and she is 14 . So, this has been happening for a long time now.
• United States
23 Mar 08
ew,god no. were i to have kids,i wouldn't want anybody there. i wouldn't want anybody to see me in that state,just personal preference.
• United States
18 Mar 08
I couldn't imagine my husband not being there! I mean, not that he really did anything, but still! Our first child came 6 weeks early, so neither of us really knew what we were doing (I guess, not that you do anyway if the baby were term). But then for the second one he had been practicing all of the lamaze stuff, and our son was born in less than 2 hours, so there was no chance for him to show off his new birthing skills. So, finally for the third he would have it down, but he was too busy figuring out how the new camera worked, and even though he was right next to me when the baby came out, he missed it! I wouldn't have it any other way!
@crazylady (471)
• United States
18 Mar 08
I wouldn't say its new. My oldest is 12 and I had someone there, and with all my kids their dad was there. Mostly they wanted to be there- they aren't much help, but it was comforting with my last baby since I had to have an emergency c-section and I was so scared. I was so glad he got to be in there!
@kaylp06 (12)
• United States
17 Mar 08
When I had my first child he was there; it was such a wonderful event we would of had it any other way! He wasn't there for the second it all happened way too quickly and there almost wasn't enough time for the doctor to get a glove on never mind call anyone.
@Fishmomma (11562)
• United States
16 Mar 08
Well, I'm old, as fathers weren't in the delivery room when my first child was born. They paced in the waiting room. The first was born quite fast, so it really didn't make a difference. The second daughter Bob was there and he says there are still marks on his arms, so it was our last child. He thought I was going to kill him. She was larger than the first, but did come quickly. She was the fastest born that day. My husband said it was a good thing she was here quickly, as he showed the doctor the marks I left. My husband needed bandaid's to stop the bleeding.
@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
16 Mar 08
I wish my husband was there with me but unfortunately he was still back in Samoa when I had my son in New Zealand. We just couldn't afford to have him come over and I wanted to buy lots of baby stuff to take back with us, so we decided I would go on my own. I was fine though because I had my twin sister with me who helped me through it all.
@kimbers867 (2541)
• United States
16 Mar 08
When my 11 year old was born, both my husband and my mom were in delivery. I wouldn't have had it any other way. I wanted both of them there to share this blessed event with me. Then when my 6 year old was born, we tried a normal delivery but her disposition showed early, and she didn't want to it the doctor's way. She didn't want to come out, so we had to have an emergency c-section. Bob was there also. It was funny, I can still remember this, they handed him scrubs and he was looking for a restroom to change his clothes. The nurse gently told him just to put them over his clothes. LOL. He sat with me through the procedure and then the dr. asked he wanted to but the cord and he said no. So I honestly don't think it is new thing, or new as in possibly the last 20 years.