please help me
October 31, 2006 1:55am CST
about 7 months ago my granmas daughter-in-law come to my house and started telling me that when my granpa was alive that my granma use to cheat on him all the time. that he would have to go to the pubs and drag her home. And that granma use to bash her up when my uncle wasnt around. for me this was really upsetting and i started crying thats when she said she better not say any more and that she should go. my problem is that i asked one of my granma sons if my auntie ever knew my pop and he said no that she meet my uncle after pop passed away. he has been gone for about 38 years now. my granma had a stroke about 6 months ago and is still in hospital. my auntie goes up to visit her all the time and she turned up there the other day when i was there and was acting like the world revolved around my gran. this really peed me of. i am so mad over this because she was not just my granma, but the lady that raised me, my brothers and sister. but i know if i tell the family that she will have to leave the area because when it come to my gran no one is allowed to say or do any thing bad to her. I know if i tell it will cause alot of trouble. but why should i have to carrie this around. my partner said he would go over and have a talk to her husband and let him know what has been said, and i have told her daughter what she said, she just shrugged it of and said mum can be a b!#*h sometimes. this woman has is a trouble maker in our family and she thinks that every one should bow down to her. their is not a kind word said about her by anyone and i was the only one in the family that spoke to her as i thought every one was being mean to her. all my family said was 'youll see what shes realy like soon.' i know why no one talks to her and i havent spoken to her since this has happened. its realy starting to get me down and i find myself crying over it. i cant ask question about what she said because as soon as i tell some one what was said to ask if it was true or not when i leave they would be on the phone and we all know what happens from there. WHAT SHOULD I DO???? TELL MY FAMILY OR JUST LET IT GO??? it is killing me. PLEASE HELP ME..... now i have just found out that she has had 3 affairs with 3 different men, so now im even madder than befor.
31 Oct 06
I read thrice yours problem and every time I have come to one conclusion that LET IT GO! If yours grandma been the woman her daughter in law is claiming then let her depart from this world in peace. People do many things in life which maybe doesnt goes with one senses but past is past let her meet her Karma the way it comes to her. And if yours grandma daughter in law is telling things to justify her own deeds or affairs then let her husband deal in a manner he want to do it . Just don't hang around to what you know or think Life is strange and at 48 year of life I been and seen stranger things so my sincere advice just live yours own life with out trying to lay yours hand on others dirty lining.
1 Nov 06
i was living my life and didnt care about what people were doing or saying, but my aunt came to my house just to tell this to me. for what reason i dont know and its not the sort of thing that i want said about my gran even more so now that she is sick. what sort of image do you think that i have of her now. i want to know the truth and want to know why she has said this, she didnt know my gran when her husband was alive and i dont think this is the sort of thing that my uncle would have said as he thinks the world of his mother. and he knows about her affairs so that is not the issue, im just peed about what she has said even though she was doing it. my uncle had forgivin her this and i realy dont care about what they do. i do care about things that invole my partner, my children and my granma.
2 Nov 06
you have said that you care for yours husband ,children and grandma so keep caring for them. How does it matter what your's grandma did or not ? you luv her so cherish her the way you know her. As far why yours Auntie told you not others this is hard to understand and i guess you wont be getting any comfertable answer here as the answer to yours question lies some what deep in past concerning you and your's family, if you seriously looking for an answer than i think you need to discuss through chat rather replying here.If you feel comfertable then we can chat at yahoo .
1 Nov 06
i cry for a lot of things in this life that have happened and are happening. i cry about this because this is my granma the lady that i love, who raised me and who was there for me even though i put her through hell when i was growing up. i always thought of nana and pop as a real love story. since hes passing there has not been another man in my nans life, i have always believe that he was the only one for her. and as much as i try to get that memorie back this woman has destroyed with just a few words and i have never hated some one as much as i hate her at this moment.
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31 Oct 06
This is more like a story than a discussion. I don't have time to read it all right now, but I can tell you this. Since you weren't old enough to understand, don't worry about what this other woman is saying. If your grandma doesn't know any of this and your grandpa isn't living anymore, then please don't bother her with this foolishness. Plus, she may already know about it.