I am not a storage company so why does my daughter think that I am?

@p1kef1sh (45647)
March 16, 2008 9:50am CST
My daughter is home for the Easter holidays from her university. I am delighted to see her, I love her and having her around. But why has she turned our home into a storage warehouse? Everywhere that I go I trip over boxes, shoes, miscellaneous clothing, makeup, unwashed pots, women's mags (mind you I read those), mobile phones, her friends mobile phones, their clothes (do they walk about naked?), half eaten tubs of ice cream and much much more. I know that I am turning into an old codger, but it's bordering on the ridiculous. Am I alone? And the doorbell never stops ringing too.
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• United States
16 Mar 08
You're on your own on this one friend. Anytime I travel I pack light. Only the bare necessities.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
16 Mar 08
I could adopt you.
• United States
17 Mar 08
You could adopt me. That is a marvelous idea. Then I could come to visit and you would have to marry my mama. You two would make a great couple anyway :)
@p1kef1sh (45647)
18 Mar 08
Mama on here or real life Mama. On here we'd call you "honey" and spoil you rotten. But if you mean real life. Well would you, no do you hate me too?
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@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
28 Mar 08
lol sorry you are or i guess where since this discussion is two weeks old, having a hard time with your daughter home. I bet she is gone by now and you are back to missing her and not missing her clutter! hehe Hope you are well p1ke ;)
@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
28 Mar 08
oh and how dare she waste ice cream!! send it this way!
@p1kef1sh (45647)
29 Mar 08
We still have her for another week. The mess is slowly moving around the house. She is going out tonight and has been using our bedroom as a dressing room. We've just had a conversation about how much safer curling tongs are when they are switched off after use! The ice cream tubs are all gone now. Got to go shopping next week for some more.
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@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
29 Mar 08
lol wow. hehe yes.. they are much safer turned off after you use them. I sometimes wonder how students dont burn down the residences they live in lol. I guess that's why they are not allowed to have hotplates in their rooms *giggles*
@SViswan (12095)
• India
17 Mar 08
Well, you aren't alone...you have MY PARENTS as company! That's exactly how I was(and so was my sister after me)...but all the stuff was mostly in my room...and I couldn't leave it anywhere in the house. I still have stuff of mine at my parent's place. I have to mention that I have been married for 8 years with kids and a home of my own. I keep bringing back little things of mine after every trip home...when my mother threatened to throw away everything. I still have books and clothes and magazines...and lots of other stuff there. Last holidays, I bought back a cartonful of shoes...now I don't know where I can store them in my own house!! lol..the phone never stopped ringing when I was/am home with my parents!
@SViswan (12095)
• India
17 Mar 08
But I never had my friends' clothes at home...and neither did I drop my clothes at my friend's places when I visited them. My parents would have thrown a fit at that.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
17 Mar 08
The girls all seem to share clothes all the time. I have been married for 21 years and my mother still says that she is storing my things. There may be the odd item, but I had a good cleanup there about 10 years ago.
@SViswan (12095)
• India
18 Mar 08
Ok...we didn't really share clothes...so I wouldn't know that aspect. I guess it's time I did a major clean up at my parents' place next time I visit. But I think it's not a problem anymore...because it's all in one room and kept neatly. And no one is living there at the moment. As long as I dust the place once a month, I guess they will be happy to keep my stuff till I can figure out where I can keep it at my own place:)
@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
16 Mar 08
Welcome to the world of college kids, sit down and take a load off.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
16 Mar 08
Thank you. At least she hasn't brought home a lanky spotty individual that she says is the love of her life.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
17 Mar 08
Hahahaha, you better thank your lucky stars for that my friend.
16 Mar 08
you have the luxury of your daughter being at uni. i have a 6 year old daughter who throws strops and turns every room in the house into a garbage tip! i yearn for when she packs her bags for uni!
16 Mar 08
probably!
@p1kef1sh (45647)
16 Mar 08
She spent her first 18 years trashing the huse. NOw that she's gone we are starting to regain control. But a short visit and it's bedlam again. Wouldn't have it any other way really.
30 Mar 08
You should be pleased that you are able to spend happy times with your daughter and her friends! I too am storing things at my mums house - this was due to my mum saying 'I'll always have a room until I get my own place' well Ive had my own place for 16 months now and she is just on the verge of thinking about bringing some of my things up. Though I havent got much at her house, just my Wallace and Gromit collection. Maybe you should explain to your daughter that you love having her home but could she tidy up abit ie her pots, clothes etc! She is old enough to know this, maybe you should mention some house rules!!
@p1kef1sh (45647)
30 Mar 08
"In a minute" is a familiar response to such requests. Today, we have not only her gear but her friend's too. Aaagh.
• China
17 Mar 08
You can tell your daughter directly you just don't like this. you daughter just think it's your responsibility to do all this,because you always do this for her she have got used to it.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
17 Mar 08
I think that you are quite right. She is too used to somebody else picking her stuff up.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
17 Mar 08
One of my daughters is so much like that. It makes me crazy. She moved out for a while and I got used to the lack of clutter and loved it. I could tell whenever she stopped by even if I was not here because there were signs of her in every room of the house. Now she has moved back in and I love her dearly but she is just so very cluttery. I have a tall laundry basket and each morning as I clean, I throw everything of hers in it...including her candywrappers etc. Then I place it in the middle of her bed. If she has not sorted thru it by morning, I empty it onto her bed so that I can re-fill it. She is 21 and it is just silly. She is beginning to "get it" tho.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
17 Mar 08
That's a good idea. Perhaps I will give it a try. She got up this morning and shot straight out to see a friend. Grrrr. She's supposed to be helping me sort her things. They will have to wait until she gets home now.
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
17 Mar 08
you have to teach your daughter a lesson to that because if she dont know what she is doing she will suffer and have that as a mannerism that someone is looking after her so she dont mind at all messing the place up.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
17 Mar 08
I just hope that she marries a rich man that can afford to keep her in servants. LOL. You point is well made. Thank you.
@subha12 (18462)
• India
17 Mar 08
i think most of the parents find this. it is normal. talk with her and let her know how it bothers you to be like this. Hope she understands and work accordingly.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
17 Mar 08
Yes I am sure that they do. It just annoyed me at the weekend. Thank you.
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
17 Mar 08
hehe how come she is so messy at her things. i guess she is just so happy to have someone do the cleaning for her so she's left it all to you mom. :D talk with her about it. you will probably miss her ways when she gets married. ;)
@p1kef1sh (45647)
17 Mar 08
We miss he already. But yes, she needs a good talking too sometimes.
• United States
16 Mar 08
It happens because you allow it to continue. If you want ti to stop? You have to be firm with your words. She is at an age she knows you by now. It sounds like she is glad to be home as well. I am dreading these days to come. But I am going to be sad to see her go. So I say enjoy the time she is there. Place some things to the side for now. Let her know it's not possible to live this way. She is putting your health at risk. You could fall on something and it will not be funny.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
16 Mar 08
Every thing that you say is very true. I have heaped her stuff up and tomorrow we are going to move it together.
@ellie333 (21029)
16 Mar 08
Hi, no you are not alone, I have this one due to arrive next weekend for Easter and already had the other daughter arrive two weeks ago so am being adjusted to it gradually, makeup bits in bathroom, odd socks, chargers, books, empty Ben & Jerrys ice cream tubs so far so when the other arrive I will have extra additions, also the computer being taken over by mySpace and Facebook rather than MyLot. Oh what fun, but yes it is lovely having them home to make a mess for a change, oh and its you thats gets to do the housework these days too. Don't let it keep you too busy that you have no time to be her on MyLot though. You will be missed. Ellie :D
@p1kef1sh (45647)
16 Mar 08
That's very sweet of you. She brought her laptop home too and we are wifi'd so she can do her own computing whilst I do mine. Although she did come and look over my shoulder whilst I was myLotting the other day and has now gone off with the idea that I am some sort of agony uncle! LOL. She has administrator rights on most of my accounts and I confess that I did change my passwords just in case. Some of my comments and thoughts have been a little racy and you just don't se your parents that way do you. Well I don't/didn't.
@villageanne (8579)
• United States
16 Mar 08
I remember when my children were in college. They were so far away that I did not get to see them very much. I was just so thankful when they got to come home. I too stored their things here and now that they are married, I still do. I dont mind it though.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
16 Mar 08
I am delighted to see her. But she doesn't travel light and has dumped her stuff all over the house. That's what is so maddening. But we get to see quite a lot of her and although I moan about her, I don't think I'd want her any other way, except a little tidier!
@Lindalinda (4116)
• Canada
16 Mar 08
Treasure these visits from your daughter. There will be a time when she is finished university and you will have an empty nest. The storage problem will remain until you and your daughter solve it. Designate one place, either her room, her closet or a place in the basement. Ask your daughter to decide what she really wants to keep and what can go. She is in transition, and until she has established a place of her own,your place will be the storage company. Believe me I have gone through this with my kids. Even now, my son is married and has a house I am still storing some toys, his childhood books and electric train since he can't make up his mind as what he wants to do with the stuff. But now it does not take up too much space. As for your daughter's friends, they must have parents of their own, so ask them to collect their stuff. Be firm on this.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
16 Mar 08
You are quite correct. We have told her, but she if forgetful. I have decided to make a pile of her stuff and give her 24 hours to sort it or I shall take it all to the tip. My mother says that she still has stuff of mine in her attic. I expect that it is a never ending cycle. Thank you for the encouragement.