I did it

@deebomb (15323)
United States
March 16, 2008 4:33pm CST
I found a way to get teen agers to do their chores. Our yard has needed to be mowed for a while now. We have had so much rain lately that it is really growing. My grandson lives with me and is supposed to do it. A friend of his has invited him to go to New York over spring break. Well I told him he had to have the yard mowed by the time they left next Friday night. I had my doubts that he would get it done because he also has an after school job. He and his friend are out there mowing it right now. He is really excited about going. They talked about driving up their by them selves last year. The friend's parent are taking the boys. My grandson is a good kids but hates chores of any kind. He does them but usually give me some grief first. They had me go out on the upper deck to see how they were doing. They had mowed a big I Heart You.
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12 responses
• United States
17 Mar 08
How cute about the "I Heart You" in the grass! YEA for doing chores without complaining!!!!
@deebomb (15323)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Now if I could just get him to clean his room.
• United States
17 Mar 08
The key to getting teens to do their chores is to find something they really want (in this case: going to NY,) and then allowing them to have it ONLY when they complete their chore(s). Of course, it has to be something they REALLY want or want to do, AND they have to know that you won't let them have it/ do it if they don't do their chores! Good luck! I'm sure you're doing a great job!
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@deebomb (15323)
• United States
18 Mar 08
You are so right. I wish we could program teens the way we can our computers.
@emeraldisle (13146)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Never underestimate the power of bribery or blackmail when it comes to teenagers :) I know I've learned with helping to raise my niece how it can be very effective. She cleaned her room up on Friday night because she wanted to go places this weekend and she knew she couldn't unless she cleaned it Like your grandson she doesn't like to do chores but will do them if the incentive is right. Amazing how it works for us isn't it? I think that is very sweet that they mowed that I heart you. Sounds like he is a very good kid over all.
@emeraldisle (13146)
• United States
18 Mar 08
It's amazing how they know which buttons to push, both good and bad. Glad though to hear he's a good kid. It's nice to hear that from time to time. You hear so much about the bad ones that it's refreshing to find out there are stll good kids around.
@ruthinian (2311)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Kids, especially teenagers are hard to motivate to do chores. It's not fun. Even adults like us hate chores, don't we? But motivation is the magic word to make them do what we want them to do. And they work better with someone or a group. It is because they are used to that, remember they are still in their school age. And we need to be creative in giving them chores, we need to sugar coat everything because no matter how we look at it, it is still hard work, boring and not cool. But of course, with a friend doing it with him, it turns into play. So you are lucky to make him work. Rewards keep them going too.
@deebomb (15323)
• United States
17 Mar 08
When they get to be 19 you would hope that they have gotten the idea that chores need to be done. He knows that I can't do it. Sometimes he is so good. Then sometimes He just wants to see me get after him and pretend he's not going to.
@ruthinian (2311)
• United States
22 Mar 08
Thanks for making this the best response. I really appreciate it. Yes, kids sometimes like to tease adults first before they do what they are told. They are really playful not knowing that sometimes they hurt us. Take care.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
18 Mar 08
it is very nice at last you are able to do so. it is always tough to get job done by teenegers,. they are busy in their world. hope it is done properly.
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@deebomb (15323)
• United States
18 Mar 08
They did do a good job. Your right they want to spend all their time with their friends.
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
17 Mar 08
That was very clever of you, and them mowing a big I heart you how sweet is that! You must be very proud of your grandson.
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@deebomb (15323)
• United States
18 Mar 08
Yes I'm very proud of him. He really has a big heart and is a sweety.
@julievy (595)
• United States
17 Mar 08
I had the same issues with my boys when they were growing up. Now, however, they come over and help me any time I ask. They came this past fall and cut a winter's worth of wood for me, did some repairs in the house, painted the ceiling, etc. The younger one is coming next week to help me paint the higher walls in my bedroom. So, don't worry too much Dee - they'll grow up in spite of themselves! :)
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@deebomb (15323)
• United States
18 Mar 08
Yes my own kids were the same way. They grew out of it and when they can they do help but they all live out of state. And your right they do grow out of it.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
17 Mar 08
Teenagers do not like doing things just because it has to be done. I know. If they think that it is a chore then they will not clean their rooms, etc. It is like us needing to take a walk, but we say, "I am not going to take a walk just to lose two pounds," but if it is to go to the Mall to window shop or to our friend's house for a visit, then that is a reason to take a walk. So all you have to do now is to promise them something or allow them to go somewhere special or for them to do something as a result of finishing their chores, and they will do it. Rather crafty, but it works.
@deebomb (15323)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Yes we all need bribed once in a while.
@mikewolf (13)
17 Mar 08
This really takes me back in time I lived with my Grandparents for a long time. I hated chores but I loved my Grandparents, and I would do anything they asked of me. I never really cleaned the house much Grandma always did that, I did always offer to do something during the spring i would till up the garden and plant it for them and cut the grass on a weekly bases. I always did the yard work (while papaw watched) he would always surprise me if there was something I needed he would get it for me,I treated them the same if they needed something done I did it without question it always made them happy for that I am thankful a smile said more than enough for me and that was all I needed was to know they were happy. Still till this day if they need help I will help them my cousin who is about 10 years younger than I lives with them know and I hope that he'll do the same things for them I have done,and keep them smiles rolling off there faces
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@queenofarms (1665)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Isn't amazing how much you can get a teenager to do, when they want to go somewhere. I tell my boys to clean their room. It will get done if they want something or to go somewhere. When I was a teen I had set weekly chores. And I did them everyday. I fI didn't there was heck to pay. I try to raise my children that way but its not working. Bribery always works though...LOL
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@deebomb (15323)
• United States
17 Mar 08
I wish I knew why kids today don't think they should help around the house or keep their rooms clean.
@aero89 (422)
• United States
16 Mar 08
How sweet that they mowed I Heart You :-D Sounds like a nice kid! Hopefully you guys can work it out after spring break to where he doesn't give you so much grief about daily housework. Meeting in the middle is fair with teenagers, so I'm sure if he had incentive, he be happy to sit down at the table hehe. Same thing as adulthood, working for the things you want... so what does he want? What do you want from him? Happy negotiating :-)
@deebomb (15323)
• United States
16 Mar 08
He usually does what I ask him to do. I think he like to give me grief just to show his independence. He really is a good kid. He just doesn't always understand why some things need to be done.
@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
16 Mar 08
I too have always struggled with getting my two daughters to do any chores, and usually have to hang things such as this over their head to get it done without any lip. Right now, my youngest one better have a list of things done before she leaves out today, or it will be putting herself one step closer to being booted out the door. That's awesome that they mowed that into the lawn. Did you think to take a pic of it?
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@deebomb (15323)
• United States
16 Mar 08
When kids are younger they are more than willing to do their chores. Then they seem to get a sort of disease the they think they don't have to do them any more. I thought it was awesome too. i didn't have a camera to take a picture of it. I wish that I did.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Isn't it cute how when they want something they hop right to it? I've always found it a great motivator with kids. !!HAPPY ST. PATRICK'S DAY!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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