way to young for that

March 17, 2008 1:24pm CST
is it just me or has the whole world gone mad now you tell me if this is not madness i got a letter from my son's school today saying that he will be viewing a video on changes in the body , the difference between boys and girls and how baby's are born he will be watching a video so you know it will be graphic why are these people teaching my child these things at this young age i mean he is only seven shoud'nt he stay a child as long as possible what is wrong with the world is that why there is so much teenage pregnancy in this country is that the only thing there could find to teach he is only seven for gods sake am i over reacting please tell me people please tell me
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@mummymo (23707)
19 Mar 08
Sorry sweety but I do think you are overreacting a bit - although I do respect your right to your opinion! In my opinion the more that children know about the body , the changes you go through etc the better! Would you rather he listened to the playground myths? I bet you wouldn't and a lot of these are so innacurate and very confusing! I personally explain all these things to my children, I think if you are open and honest with children in a way that they can understand - it makes things a lot easier in the long run, for the children and the parents! xxx
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@cortney09 (1346)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I don' have any kids, so this is just my opinion. I think that seven is way to young to show that kind of video. I am not saying that kid shouldn't see this, but certainly not at this young of an age. I think fifth grade might be a better time.
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• United States
19 Mar 08
No, your not over reacting. I think that seven is WAY to young for that. In my town they start talking about that around the age of 12 or 13. In the 6th grade. I think that is a good age. My son is 11 and he is starting to notice girls. I would rather my child learn about that from myself or school rather then the kids he is friends with.Unfortunately kids are learning toooooooo early. All we as parents can do is make sure that they are getting the right info. Good luck
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
19 Mar 08
I think that is way too young. Ten would be better. A child has to be a child not a miniature adult and what if some pervert attacked a child of that age who had watched these graphics? Why instead of saying the child was an innocent victim, they would say that the child knew what was going on. Therefore by showing this video, the pervert now has a defense and the children would be more victimized. Oh the teenage pregnancy thing, it used to be that girls who got pregnant got that way because they were looking for love in all the wrong places, but not anymore, now they want to see if what doing the dirty deed is like. In my day, we were partially ignorant.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
19 Mar 08
No, you are not over-reacting at all. I would keep my child home that day. I do not feel that the schools should decide for you, that it is appropriate for your seven year old to learn this. That is disturbing.
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@ruby222 (4848)
17 Mar 08
Its sad isnt it to think that at that tender age things of that nature have to creep into your sons life....at a time when he should be enjoying what the young ones enjoy!! Timeenough for all of that.... My `education` within that field started when I was 14...granted maybe a littlelate..but myMother crept into the bedroom and placed abook..in a brown paper cover under my pillow...whilst whispering "Dont let your sister read this"...I dutifully read itand dont think i have turned out tooo badly... Maybe its this sometimes cruel world that induces the teaching so early .
17 Mar 08
i'm glad you agree and i;d love to know the name of that book
• United States
17 Mar 08
wow! Where do you live? Is it a public school? My son watched a video like that, but not until he was in the fifth grade! I definitely think that age 7 is way too young. no, I do not think that you are overreacting.
17 Mar 08
i live in england surrey and thank you very much for your comment it helps to think that other people are on the same level as me
• Canada
31 Mar 08
I don't think there is such a thing as being too young. Kids need to learn the differences in their bodies, the proper names for their body parts, and where babies came from. It's better they learn it in a classroom setting than from one of their peers on the streets.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
19 Mar 08
Hi rohini, I feel that seven is too young for this sort of thing. I believe that parents should always be honest with their children from their first questions. I wouldn't tell them more than was necessary at the time of course, but I would never lie to them. When that happens children always know they can come to their parents and the schools wouldn't have to get involved at all. I'm very surprised that they would be so graphic when dealing with such young children. Do the parents have any say in this? My late wife and I raised three boys and we were always honest with them. They are all happily married now with children of their own. Blessings.
@BYOLA2871 (4373)
• South Africa
18 Mar 08
i think the first thing you should do is ask to see the movie first and if you feel its not ok they cant force you to allow your kid to be present it might actually be useful for the kid if its just educational,as it might not be as graphical as you feared
@deebomb (15322)
• United States
18 Mar 08
You can opt out of letting him see this video. Your right the world has gone mad. I wonder about the school showing kids of 7 this type of thing. after all he is at the age of oh yuck about that kind of thing. Kids that age aren't interest in knowing aout that. and besides it is your place to tech him for a while yet or when ever it is time.
• United States
18 Mar 08
I would say that I have to agrre with you and that it should be up to the parents to teach their children that but on the other hand thre are parents out there that are not in touch with that subject I have to say that they should be tought at an older age just around puverty and please let children learn from their parents just my opinion
• United States
18 Mar 08
I disagree that you think seeing this video and receiving education is what leads to teen pregnancy. I actually believe the opposite is true. The more education we give our children, both in school and at home, is the answer to me. BUT I can understand why would think its a little early. I have a step daughter who turns 7 next week and a daughter who will be 8 in July. If I got a letter home like you did I would be concerned at first. But the more I think about it, when children are starting to get their periods at 8 and 9 years old now, we need the education earlier. Children are starting to ask questions sooner too. I think that when they can start questioning things it is our duty as parents to fully educated them so they know they can come to us about these types of things. My question for you, if you do not want this video taught in school, is when would you think was a good time to teach it? If you know that answer then you could give the school appropriate feedback that you think that X would be a better age for this lesson.
• Canada
18 Mar 08
Well since he is only seven I don't think it will be as graphic as some parents my think. I think it may show the stages of having a baby but not the whole ball and chain ya know. I myself was learning about the reproductive system in kindergarten. I knew that one day I would be getting my period and such at 5. I think they are starting so early because kids nowadays are starting to have s3x younger and younger. When i was 16 I knew a 9 yr old girl that was already having s3x and to me that is way too young but it does happen whether we parents want to admit it or not. Girls can get their period as young as 8yrs old and boys can hit that puberty stage not far after so to me it makes sense to start now. I think it was grade 4 that they started with the actual sexEd class and I would have been about 8yrs old. I am actually surprised to hear this because it seems that schools don't help teaching this anymore and I don't agree with that at all because their are certain things some parents don't feel comfortable talking about with their kids and how are they going to know if they aren't told right? Well good luck hun I hope all the responses help ease your mind. Huggers, StrawberryKisses
@SViswan (12071)
• India
18 Mar 08
I used to think the same way too...that 7 is too young...but I had explained certain things to my son when he was younger because today's world is not a safe place...but not much in graphic detail. But another fact to be considered is that kids today are maturing much sooner than the previous generation and it would be great if they knew about what to be prepared for from a responsible adults instead of half cooked information from a friend. I have a 7 year old...and I was quite shocked by a few questions he asked me pertaining to himself (I have to say I was succesful in covering up my shock and glad he asked me instead of keeping mum or worse, asking his friends). I wasn't expecting such questions (if at all it would come to me) till atleast 7 years down the line. Personally, I would have been glad if the school had this viewing for my son (as long as it was done in an educational way)...last year..they had a class on the 'good touch' and the 'bad touch' and what to do if a stranger or even someone they know...tried to touch them. So many things happen today...and we can't really keep them innocent as long as we'd love to....and it usually is this innocence that some people take advantage of.
@MsEddie86 (236)
• United States
18 Mar 08
whoa they have taken it way to far now!! when i was in school they did show videos on body changes but i was in the 5th grade about to turn 10 i started school early so i was one of the younger kids in my grade level but wow at 7 now. no you are not over reacting at all and i think u should say something about it too. i mean all of his bodyily functions are not all working jus yet, gosh could they at least give him a chance to have a fun childhood .
@maddysmommy (16235)
• United States
18 Mar 08
Wow that is young to be teaching that but then again, how graphic is the video? any way you can view the video tape first? I would rather these things be taught at home but if it helps considering how young teenages get pregnant and sorts these days, then I might be ok about it. I would still want to know what's on it though. I can't imagine my son seeing a video about their body at that age. Maybe 9 or 10 perhaps, I don't know.
@imsilver (1668)
• Canada
18 Mar 08
Wow... only 7?!? Yeah, I'd have to say that's a bit young. My son recently brought home the same letter but he's going to be 11 very soon. A big difference there.
• Netherlands
18 Mar 08
I can't say if it is too young yet. Who knows what the video contains. How can you say it will be graffic? That is silly to think they would expose a child to something too graffic for their age group. I am sure the video is geared to that age range and will explain it to them in a way they can understand. When I was young my parents had gotten me a book about the same subject you say the video covers. Looking at the book now with adult eyes, I can't see anything inappropriate about it. I am sure this video is made the same. Maybe you ask to view it. I think it is good that children know what is going on with them ahead of time and to know that these things that will happen to them are not dirty or wrong. That maturation is natural and a part of life.
• Philippines
17 Mar 08
it's not bad, at least it's educational. it's better if he learned it from you or from school rather than the wrong people. why don't you give him THE TALK. and i'm sure it won't be graphic what would you expect from a video for seven year olds.