Do boys scream and cry more than girls?

@p1kef1sh (45640)
March 18, 2008 11:05am CST
My neighbours have two sons. One aged six the other three. It seems to me that neither can get through the day without a major temper tantrum that involves oceans of tears and more screaming than the late lamented Lord Sutch (British readers will know who he was). My two nephews were much the same when they were small as were my other neighbours grandsons. I have a daughter and she has been known to scream and cry when she was younger but not to any great excess. I can pretty much say the same about other girls that I have known too. So, what is it that makes boys this way. Or perhaps I've just been lucky with my girl.
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• United States
18 Mar 08
I have 2 sons and 2 daughters and I have to say your observation of little boys is spot on. Both of my daughters soon to be 12 and 2 never cry. I mean it has to be the end of the world for them to shed tears over anything. My littlest one doesn't even cry when she is getting stabbed in the thighs with 4 needles those mean nurses at the pediatrician do to her. My sons on the other hand...simply tell them they have to put their toys away or no dessert and you would think someone has amputated a limb and is not beating them with the bloody stub of it. The saying goes, boys take longer to mature. Whoever said that first had no idea just how right they were!
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
18 Mar 08
Well it's just my observation. But I am glad that I have a girl, even though she can be the most manipulative person on Earth since, well the next girl that I come across.
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@lishiwei (1553)
• China
18 Mar 08
I think you have just been lucky with your girl.I think boys scream and cry less than the girls.Especially when they grown up.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
18 Mar 08
That's probably true. But we are better at hurting them when they are grown perhaps?
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@anonymili (3138)
18 Mar 08
Erm I was going to say that of course girls scream and cry more than boys but actually thinking about it, I was a very docile and well behaved child and my brother (who's 4.5 years younger than me) was the brat from hell that my parents couldn't figure out what they'd done wrong to have such a tearaway tot as their child haha. He didn't do much crying but boy, could he scream the house down. My mum always says how I was so excited when they brought him home from hospital and within a week I said to her "oh please mummy, can't you put him back inside your tummy, he's too noisy" HAHA!
@p1kef1sh (45640)
18 Mar 08
I love that story. In fact my neighbour's son has been screaming the house down tonight. I am sure that i wasn't like that. I must ask my mother. "put him back in your tummy" Hahha.
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
18 Mar 08
I don't think boys scream and cry MORE than girls, but I can vouch that they are LOUDER when when they do it. I first noticed the excessive volume of squeals when I would regularly take my sons to a local McDonald's playplace. Oh how the sounds echoed in that establishment! Yikes! And I noticed that although all of the kids would do their fair share of screaming and hollering and carrying on, it was the boys' voices that were louder AND of the highest pitch. I don't have any girls, but those that I have seen cry, tend to go off by themselves, and cry and sniffle silently. They become more withdrawn. Whereas with boys, they want the world to know they've been hurt and feel unjustified, and they won't quit their nonsense until they're darn well good and ready!
@p1kef1sh (45640)
18 Mar 08
Oh my goodness yes. We love to make so much more noise. We want your attention and live in the hope that you just might bribe us to shut up. I saw this that helps illustrate my point:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nojWJ6-XmeQ I bet you've been there. I have.
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
19 Mar 08
I had to wait until the boys went to bed before I could watch it... TOO FUNNY!!! Thanks for sharing hon!
@myklj999 (13833)
• Olney, Illinois
3 Oct 08
It's simply that boys begin at an early age to assert their belief in male supremacy; when frustrated, being as they are too small to kick butt, they simply throw a tantrum. Or something like that. (It sounded so much better in my head before I saw it written out here.)
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
3 Oct 08
What a shock it must be then when we discover that our supremacy is simply an illusion! LOL.
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• United States
19 Mar 08
not mine he doesnt ever cry!!!!!!
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
19 Mar 08
That makes for a quiet house then. Thanks.
@mummymo (23707)
18 Mar 08
No sweety I don't think it was just luck with your girl! In my experience girls are far tougher than boys and do not shout, scream or shriek anywhere near as much as their male peers! My son would squeal and shriek at the slightest little thing whereas my daughter rarely does! xxx
@p1kef1sh (45640)
19 Mar 08
Perhaps it's just British children. Our friends across the water seem more mixed. Well they would be!!
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@mummymo (23707)
19 Mar 08
LOL Maybe or maybe it is just us Brits scare the living daylights out of our sons - they see the way their mums have their dads under control! hee hee hee xxx
@p1kef1sh (45640)
20 Mar 08
That is so true it's not even funny!
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@violeta_va (4834)
• Australia
19 Mar 08
It depends on the kids. My son hardly ever does it but as most of my friends have girls I have seen it how much they scream and cry. When we went on holiday with 2 other families I was ready to go home the same day .1 family has 3 girls 4, 7 and 8 and I promise you there was someone crying at any given moment. When the 4 year old screams you think someone is killing her at home its even worse. I have seen boys scream as well. I am not saying that girls scream and cry more but in my experience they do in your its the boys. As I said it depends on the child no 2 kids are alike.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
19 Mar 08
That's the conclusion that I am coming to too. I seem to be surrounded by boys here. Which in itself is quite interesting as I thought that there were more female live births in the UK than male these days. Perhaps it's the water.
• Australia
19 Mar 08
My son was born in Macedonia he was the 11th baby that day in that hospital and was the first boy than 2 more boys were born that night. It was amaizing to see that. As my son started school this year and I stayed with him the first few days (long story why) I saw lots of kids crying for their parents and I would say it was 50/50 boys/girls.
• India
19 Mar 08
Well I think you are just being unduly partial to girls but maybe you are correct too. Being an only child of my parents, I was not without my tantrums and tears and demands and sulking and blackmailing tactics. I also had a mom who was nevertheless determined to put me in my place and between the two of us, we nearly managed to bring the entire building down almost everyday. I now have a boy who is pretty much going the same way (minus the tears, he’s more into the macho type) so I am not so sure about this but my mom does say that inspite of all that I did (or didn’t) it is easier to control and discipline girls than boys.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
19 Mar 08
I am trying to maintain a balance. But perhaps I see more boys than girls around me. I don't know. I must say that although my daughter did have her moments too, she has turned out to be a very good daughter.
• India
20 Mar 08
typically daddy's darling
@SViswan (12072)
• India
19 Mar 08
I personally thinks it depends on the child's temperament or maybe the way the parents are (sure going to get some bricks thrown at my head for this one). As a child, I was a quiet kind....in fact, my grandmother would advise my mother not to feed me for an hour or so....to make me cry (I actually had a heart problem because I never cried!) My sister would cry for everything....I learnt to tune her out early on. I have two sons. The older one never cried much and was an easy baby. He never cried when he got his shots either. But we had a neighbour whose daughter was the exact same age as my son..and would she scream! My younger son was a cry baby for a whole year and I could never figure out why the little fellow was crying. But he suddenly seems to have matured after he turned one...and throws a tantrum rarely (only when he's sleepy or hungry). We live in an apartment complex where there are more boys than girls....but I hear babies screaming all the time...and I did a little research to find out...and it's always the girls who are screaming! They sure can make a lot of noise considering that they are in the minority here..lol It totally depends on the child...and I wouldn't say....boys or girls scream more.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
19 Mar 08
The more I think about it the more I feel that the parents play a major part in this. The parents of all the boys mentioned are similar. The mothers are quite stressed and seem to work on short fuse, whilst the fathers are very relaxed. Perhaps that's it.
@SViswan (12072)
• India
19 Mar 08
Since I've seen more girl screamers...I guess the parents are a part. And thinking of it now...the girl who was my son's age...well her mother was pretty stressed out..and would physically abuse the little girl (I'm talking about when she was around 2-3 years...don't know about earlier than that).
• United States
19 Mar 08
There are differences between boys and girls, but I don't think it causes bigger temper tantrums out of one gender verses another. If you had a boy and a girl in that family, you probably still be handling two little howlers. * Temper tantrums come from genetics, environment, and personality, then finally, long last at the end of the line, maybe gender. *
@p1kef1sh (45640)
19 Mar 08
Well I am no expert, but I know what I see and hear. But I am certainly with you on environment. In all the cases that I mentioned, the mothers are stressy while the fathers are very laid back.
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• United States
20 Mar 08
Betchu dollars to cheese doodles that those kids use their temper tantrums to get what they want too!
• Regina, Saskatchewan
18 Mar 08
Boys know from conception that women rule, otherwise they'd be shaking and baking their way to birth inside their fathers. They spend the rest of their lives asserting themselves in various ways, beginning with inflating and deflating their lungs at an alarming rate and pitch from birth. They can't help it. It's their unrecognized inferiority complexes being compenstated for. Even David Edward Sutch admitted his lack of vocal talent, but that didn't stop him from becoming a British reference point for the screaming meemies! lol
@p1kef1sh (45640)
18 Mar 08
"OK Mum". Yet you so kindly let us think that we are the important ones from time to time. But in my book you are right. We have our part to play, but women have a strength that personally, I envy.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
18 Mar 08
I confirm the argument that God is a Woman! LOL And I curtsy to your bow. Need help getting up? lol
@ccdiane (151)
• Cheyenne, Wyoming
3 Oct 08
Dear MyLot friend,As I think back when my 2 Step-Sons were babies and toddlers, and our 2 Daughters, my oldest Step-Son, Jeffery, who was about 15 months old, did scream the most loudest and the longest. But his screams and our yougest daughter's screams came in a tie between both of them. So I would come to believe that depending on the child, whether a boy or a girl, their screams could be a tie like we had, between my oldest Step-Son and our youngest Daughter, Elizabeth. Well, I hope this helps you. Thank you
@p1kef1sh (45640)
3 Oct 08
Firstly welcome to myLot. Maybe both sexes have their moments. I know that our neighbour's sons can give any girl a good run for her money. LOL.
• India
2 Apr 08
well , who said boy crys more and loudly than girls ? i haven't seen any boy doing so and i dont hope so they do !
@p1kef1sh (45640)
2 Apr 08
Come and live in my house for a day or two. You will hear plenty of boys crying.
@Breath (1297)
• United States
1 Apr 08
I have a little boy and girl.I think they are about the same on the screaming and crying.They fight more then they play.With a boy or a girl I think a parent needs ear plugs for the screaming moments.:)
@p1kef1sh (45640)
2 Apr 08
In the UK mothers are given a free pack of baby stuff when they give birth. Perhaps I should contact them and suggest that thy include ear plugs!
@agfarm (930)
• United States
1 Apr 08
I probably don't have a right to respond to this considering my son is only 5 , but....I grew up with two Boys next door , they were much younger then me and their Behavior was exceptionally Bad. They were spoiled rotten. ( not that that's necessarily a Bad thing Mind you ) But ( here's my Ego again ) I knew that my Children would never behave that way , because it simply is not acceptable. My Parents did not tolerate for a Minute of Bad Behavior. And quite Honestly....the Discipline in their teachings....was more helpful then not , when Dealing with issues outside of the family environment. The phrase " Spare the Rod , Spoil the Child " still applies today.... although admittedly....I don't have the Heart to Spank , But I feel that If I have done my job correctly.....I should never have to resort to any physical level.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
1 Apr 08
My neighbour absolutely screams at her sons. It doesn't surprise me at all that they are screamers too. But they scream at every little thing From early morning to evenng sometimes. Fortunately they are great outdoors types and disappear into the country for days on end. We like that. Mean aren't I.
@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
1 Apr 08
I'm not sure cause i dont have any boys.. but i would think that is how ever the kids were raised that would cause them to act the way they act. After all.. we train them and teach them to behave the way they do. . I just dont know how my daughter ended up so slap happy lately! lol i've never hit her, but when she's having a tantrum she enjoys throwing her toys and hitting things. *shrug* i hope this is a phaze!
@p1kef1sh (45640)
1 Apr 08
You are absolutely right about children growing up the way that they do, but that it is us that raise them. I laughed at your comment about your daughter - at the risk of being accused of being a sexist: girls stay that way right through life! Ouch, was that my shin you just kicked. LOL.
@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I think it depends on many factors whether or not the child screams and cries. I am not sure gender is one of them though. How the kids are being raised, their own characters... I have two boys and two girls. I don't think my boys cried anymore than the girls. If anything, my boys were more even-tempered than the girls. Especially my youngest daughter who loves to have temper tantrums if she isn't getting her way.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
19 Mar 08
I am more aware of boys than girls here. My own daughter could throw a tantrum but was generally quite cheerful. But you have the ideal model. Two of each with the same patent. A number of people have said now that their girls were a little worse than their boys. The discussion gets more and more interesting.
• Philippines
19 Mar 08
ok, my response is going to be a little long so bear with me^^. The initial reason why boys have a bigger temper than girls does not majorly lie in the way they were brought up, but more on the hormones themselves. Although they are still little kids, men or boys have testosterone which makes them more aggressive and assertive when they want something. Girls on the other hand have oestrogen which has a calming motherly effect on a person. Since they are still kids, and naturally cry if they dont get what they want, the boys tend to be louder and more aggressive while the girl chooses to emotionally blackmail with tears or sulckyness. Another factor which is not-so minor after all, is the parent's attitude towards these tantrums especially the mother's attitude. I was the only child as well and I blackmailed or threw a tantrum at my mom because she was vulnerable to it. I knew even at a very young age that my dad will never tolerate such behavior. He never mentioned such, but it's the authority and the aura he cast upon me. What a mother can do, is to let the child cry until it literally outcried itself. Especially with boys, mothers tend to be overly caring, which does the boy no good. If the kid is a girl, different story. But the boy is supposed to have an independence at a certain age, and the earlier a mother stops running after her little boy, the earlier he will respect her and stop throwing tantrums. Helful readings are "Why Men don't Listen and Woman Can't Read Maps" by Allan and Barbara Pease, and "Why Men Love Biatches"(sorry, real word violated the mylot terms) . The latter seems strange but explains the reason why men have respect for certain women only. Hope this helped.^^
@p1kef1sh (45640)
19 Mar 08
Thank you for that response. I have heard of those books but I have never read them. There may well be something in what you say. Certainly the little boys that I know are not afraid to demand what they want whereas the girls tend to be more subtle. They can often be overlooked because the boys are so noisy and demonstrative. Good reply.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
19 Mar 08
my experience is a bit different than your observations. I find that the girls scream, whine and cry and have more vicious temper tantrums than the boys do! they also tend to let them go a lot longer before they give it up. more obstinate and more stubborn!
@p1kef1sh (45640)
19 Mar 08
Lasts a lifetime too. No don't hit me. I'm sorry. Whiny girls are without a doubt every bit as annoying as whiny boys. Perhaps I see more boys than girls, but I just get this impression that the boys go on, and on and on. When I finish this discussion I shall look back and see what the consensus is. Not very scientific but we have lots of mummies and daddies on this site and they'll all have an opinion I'm sure.