How do you feel when a person apologizes to you?
By Bala
@balasri (26537)
India
13 responses
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
18 Mar 08
When someone apologises to me, which is very rare, I feel worthy. It makes me feel like someone really cares enough about my feelings to come right out and tell me they are sorry. It makes me feel alot better as long as they do not abuse it.
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@poisonivez (504)
• Norway
18 Mar 08
it will maybe makes me feel better in some case. But if he/she committed a resentful and unforgiving mistake, then, it would not make me feel any better. It's not that easy to forgive, you know. Especially when the person who hurt you, is the person you love most.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
18 Mar 08
It makes me very uncomfortable and I end up saying something really dumb such as: "it's no problem." As I think about it, if it wasn't a problem there would be no reason to apologize so I contradict myself by making one silly statement. Instead of an apology I would just as soon forgot about whatever happened.
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@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
18 Mar 08
When I am hurt or upset and the person who has caused this pain has apologized to me, it makes me feel much better. I am easily a forgiving person when I see that the person is sorry for the pain he or she has caused, no matter how painful it was to me. I know there are times that it takes some people a lot of humility to apologize for a mistake they have committed. So when someone says I'm soryy, and I mean, a heartfelt "I'm sorry", I forgive, and I forget. I also know some people who say sorry, but don't really mean it. You can always tell if a person is really sorry for what they have done by the way they apologize to you. I am also happy for a person who knows how to recognize when he or she has committed a mistake. http://www.paulynramirez.com/are-you-really-sorry/
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@steffyhoney (706)
• United States
18 Mar 08
Usually when someone apologizes to me its because they were wrong and I was right. I tend to not take apologese well. Im usually really mad and when I know im right I know im right. It depends on what it is though as well. Like if someone apologizes to me for not going with me somewhere when they said they would or something like that thats different. But when they apologize for a big arguement I tend to not care. They didnt care when they were arguing with me why care after. For example, I have been in a battle with my cousin the last few months. She did some aweful things, I cant really say what it was but it was AWFUL! I will never forgive her for that and she tried to apologize for it and its just not worth what she did.
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I feel compassion if the person is apologizing sincerely. I would rather not have one if it is a phony one. I always have said that people make mistakes and am willing to forgive if they are saying sorry with a sincere attitude. I don't feel like a winner or proud, victorious. I know how much effort it can take to apologize and it is a humble thing for a person to do.
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
19 Mar 08
I would always feel generous and forgiving. Seldom that I stay angry or irritated with a person when that person apologizes and really mean it.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
19 Mar 08
Is important to offer our apology is we had done something wrong. It takes a very honorable person to admit to their mistakes. Of course it makes me feel happy to know that we can ask forgiveness and move on. We are far from perfection since only our lord jesus was perfect.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
19 Mar 08
Hello dear balasri. When someone says sorry to me, I feel happy that he has already realized his mistakes. I do not feel that I am a winner or such. It needs to have courage to say sorry when one has done something wrong to the other. I admire their courage and appreciate their apology to me. Thanks.
@klaudyou (501)
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18 Mar 08
If the one who's apologizing admits a mistake he made, then it's not a victory, but just a confirmation that he was wrong, and that you had the chance to show him how is right. Maybe in such situations we feel a little bit as winners, but the way people are apologizing won't let you feel much victorious.