I am embarassed...My father cannot...

@ersmommy1 (12605)
United States
March 18, 2008 8:23pm CST
use a computer. He has never sent an email. He cannot even turn one on. Further he has no desire to learn. My father is 61. My mother has just turned 60 and knows alot, even works from home for a company in Philly, though she lives in Florida. Most of us in the family have enough savvy to handle a variety of issues when they arise. I know people 20+ years his senior who not only know how to do these things but are ale to teach me a thing or 2 as well. Why is it some people are not willing to learn? do you know someone like this?
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26 responses
• United States
19 Mar 08
Who are you embarass to,about your father,I can understand your Fathers unwillingness,he has his wife capable of computing,so she can go on the computer for him,so why learn to do, when you have somebody to do it for you.
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@Mickie30 (2636)
19 Mar 08
You are crazy why is it so embarrassing for you that your father is like that? My dad could have invented the internet he has invented loads of other technology things, but if he couldn't so what??? Why does it matter to me? Why does it matter if your father has no interest in it? Are you interested in climbing everest? Or even jumping out of an airoplane with no parachute? Why then should your father be interested in the internet? He probably has lots of other interests and that's whats interesting. It would be no good if we were all the same.
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
19 Mar 08
Hi ersmommy, I know lots of people like that, he probably has no interest in the computer, it's nothing to be embarassed about. Blessings.
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@ruby222 (4848)
19 Mar 08
My hubby at 60 was loathe to learn to use the Pc ..then he was asked to use it at work...he found it very hard at first..as he said he wasnt brought up to `all this technology`.... I know the basics and eventually he sat with me and slowly gathered enough basic knowledge to work the Pc. I think its more an issue of a possible `failure` ahead that frightens people ,rather than the experiment itself!!
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I do know a couple of people like that. I think they are just set in their ways.LOL And very stubborn. Or with some people they are just too lazy to learn. Or too afraid they cant do it.
@jwfarrimond (4475)
19 Mar 08
I'm the same age as your father and I'm quite the opposite, I've been using computers of one sort or another since the late 1980's and I've been online for about 10 years now. But I know many people my age and younger who not only don't know how to use a computer, but have no interest in doing so. But I don't know why you should be embarrassed by your father lack of interest, he evidently does not feel that he needs to learn how to use a computer. That's just the way he is, just accept it
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• Trinidad And Tobago
19 Mar 08
hey there.i hope your not letting this little issue get between u and your father's relationship in any way.i don't know if u know this but it might just be that your father is really one of the many who have such a good time back in there younger life or should i say the old days that they just want to sit and remember when life was that simple,and not complicate things.i don't think it's because your father is not capable of learning to use a computer it's just that he's afraid of the changes and complications of the world today.
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• United States
19 Mar 08
Some people are just more stubborn I guess. My dad's 60 and LOVES to build computers and play around with different softwares. At least two weekends a month, he shops for computer stuff, whether programs or hardware, but the weird thing is he doesn't use the computer that often. Sometimes he'll go online, but not for long. He's more into playing around with computers when they're apart and fix them. But he's not too into using the damn thing. If your parents are still together, your mom should try to ease him into going online and just look around. Teach him the basics, I bet he'll find something he's interested in.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
19 Mar 08
My grandma is the same, she will not entertain the idea of just learning the basics of a computer, I know if she would just give it a chance she would love it, especially as she lives on her own and quite away from the rest of the family. She would be able to chat to us all everyday plus she would get to meet people online in the same position as her. I think it is just the thought of it, I think she is scared, which is a real shame.
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@LRB1111 (356)
• United States
19 Mar 08
Yes I know what you are talking about. My mother 58 and is learning how to use a computer for the first time. Prior to this she didn't even know what to do with the mouse. I wanted to teach her but she was stubborn about it. She was given a laptop for her birthday to help nudge her along. But she mainly started learning to use it because her job decided to switch to online pay stubs so she has to get to go online to get her work info. But now she knows how to surf the web and play games on the computer etc. Amazing. lol I think the reason why some people are so reluctant to learn something new is because they either don't understand it or don't have a need for it at the time. I used to feel like mom was missing out on something but now that she knows how to use a computer, she still doesn't really use it THAT much. So maybe for some people, it's just not that exciting of a concept for them until they are inspired to use it for a specific reason like my mom had to.
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
19 Mar 08
oh.. my mom is only 55 and she does not know anything about the internet, does not want to learn how to use too... she said her eyes get really blurred if she stays or looks in one place so she is not interested at all.
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• India
19 Mar 08
Same situation at my place...but hte difference is my mom doesnt know to operate it..rather than dad...i guess these ppl have some kinda "TECHNOPHOBIA"....basically they r scared to operate the things..fearin that it wud get crash down if they use it....
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@Lindalinda (4116)
• Canada
19 Mar 08
Yes, I know people like that. I am 69 years old and a lot of people my age get annoyed with me when I talk about the internet or using a computer. I think some people are very set in their ways and not willing to learn anything new. As for not being able to turn on a computer, it is pretend helplessness. Some of my male relatives pretend they cannot turn on the washing machine or the microwave even though they are very alert and do other complicated tasks. If your dad is not interested, let it be, you will not be able to change him.
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• India
19 Mar 08
My parents are 63 and 54 yrs . they are illiterate when it comes to using computers. its because they are not dependant on the new stuff. they have hardly any use with the computer. the net connection is rarely used by them. they knew how to use emails and stuff like video chat when my father was abroad. but now its all deleted from memory. now i have to do the job for them when it comes to using the computer even if its for typing a simple document. well atleast they can turn on the computer:-) you need not be embarassed about your father. many older people prefer to live without technology as they were in the yesteryears. moreover memory problems can creep in as one gets older. so trying to master new skills after a good half of your life is not easy.
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@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
19 Mar 08
I bet your father never choose to be a computer illiterate .. coz in their era.. Internet is not a big hit before so if that happens try to give him a little tutorial about computers..
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@vicky30 (4779)
• India
19 Mar 08
I don't think they are not willing to learn.they don't do it because they do not want to use new technology.In my native place we bought a new cellphone.I told my grandmom to operate it,but she said she would not touch the phone.
@sacmom (14338)
• United States
19 Mar 08
Do I? Do I ever! LOL My mom, who will be 67, has no desire to learn how to use a computer. What's funny though is she has done this in the past with other things, such as remote controls and microwaves. Years ago my grandmother had given me her TV several months before she passed away and it had a remote control, though my grandma had forgotten to bring it with her when she had the TV brought over. My mom told her not to worry about it. We never had one before, so she felt there was no need to have one. But my grandma had it sent over and once my mom got used to it she loved it! Same goes for the microwave when it first came out. My mom absolutely hated them. Why? Because she tried to use the one at work and didn't know what she was doing. But once she got the hang of it she loved them! LOL I just know that if she learned her way around a computer, even just a little bit, she would be hooked, especially since she felt the exact same way about the other two items I mentioned before she learned how to use them.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
19 Mar 08
Yep, my Dad is the same, and he's 65 (I think)! But he's from the 'old' school and likes to think nothing has changed over the years. The only thing he knows with the video player is how to start, stop and rewind, and that's as far as he goes with it. He doesn't like reading, and I think that has a lot to do with why he has no interest in learning new things!
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@subha12 (18462)
• India
19 Mar 08
It is same with my dad. i think older people find it difficult to use computer. or they are reluctant to try out new things. I think its due to the fact that they think they can damage the computer by using it.
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@lilybug (21182)
• United States
19 Mar 08
My parents are 59 and 58. Both have working knowledge of a computer. They are nowhere near experts or anything though. My grandfather who is in his mid-80's got a computer a few years ago for doing email only. He did not want to learn anything else just keep in touch with his kids and grandkids. He recently decided that he no longer wanted the computer around and got rid of it. I guess some older people figure they lived their lives up to now without a computer they can live the rest of their lives without one.
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