Does your partner get mad when you apologize?
March 18, 2008 10:08pm CST
I'm not saying, everytime you apologize. I'm talking about when you constantly do so for things that you shouldn't have to apologize for. I tend to say sorry for things that I have no control of like, my boyfriend says he had a bad day, or the car broke down, or the dog chewed up his new shoes. I say sorry for things I didn't even do, and am merely just saying it because I'm sorry he had to go through that, not because I'm sorry for doing it, because I know I didn't do it. He gets very frusterated with me because of this. I was just wondering if anyone else tends to do this, and does your partner get irritated with it?
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19 Mar 08
I think you're boyfriend maybe misunderstand you when you do that. I have this impression that what you do is more of empathizing with him- putting yourself in his shoes, like you are trying to give him ease that you understand where he is coming from or you certainly know how frustrated he is. But when you constantly do apologize for the things that happened and you are not really at fault, it can really annoy him. Apology and sorry must be said appropriately- right timing is very important not to lose it's sincerity. You take care. =)
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19 Mar 08
Yes, I know. He's tried to explain this same thing to me, but I can't seem to get it into my head. I know I say it a lot, sometimes more times than others, but I try to cut back. I know I can be very frusterating, so it only bothers me more when I do it.
19 Mar 08
Well, not partners but, my classmates before, when they knew that I came from very bad situations, they would often say "sorry" as well even though they really had nothing to do with it. In my case, I always tell them not to mind about such things and don't go on an say "sorry" whenever something like that happens. Then, when they did stop, it kind'a felt odd. I was expecting them to say "sorry" but, they must've took my advice. I then realized that they were only sympathizing to my predicament and now that they have stopped doing so, it felt like they didn't have any concern at all. Well, perhaps you just have to say "sorry" once every time you hear you partner complain about a problem that he had just went through. Maybe he doesn't really realize your concern immediately since his mind is still frustrated about the matter that just recently occured to him.