A ray of sunshine in my life! Easter Sunday might not be so bad now!!
March 20, 2008 9:26am CST
There is very little in my life these days that gives me the will to go on and since my ex b/f is going to have triple bi pass surgery on Tuesday I thought I would ask him to join me and my family for dinner on Easter Sunday. He's barely spoken to me in the last 2 years and when he accepted I was floored to say the least. My kids know him and although they are not thrilled with him since he hurt me so bad by leaving me after 5 years they are happy that he will be here and I will be happy about it. They know I'm not "over" him even after 2 years and probably never will be. I've gone so far as to offer to help him recuperate when he gets out of the hospital after his surgery. I'm the "caretaker" type and if this is the only way for me to be with him well then so be it. I know I'll be happy. As for Sunday...I wasn't really looking as forward to it as I probably should have been since this is the first one without my Mom or Aunt and it would have been depressing for all of us but I think having someone there who I not only love but is not as close to all our loss will be good for all of us. Do you think I was wrong to invite him? Will it help us get through the day a little bit easier the way I'm hoping it will? What do you think?
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• Garden Grove, California
20 Mar 08
If your children are agreeable it might help you get through Easter more pleasantly by all means. I know how hard holidays can be when you have just lost a loved one recently. I lost my dear little Lisa Rose on Thanksgiving day and for several years it was just awful to go through that holiday. I wanted so much to see her bright little face and knew that could never be again. It has been many years now and that pain is no longer there but the first few years it really hurt so much. I do not think you were wrong to invite him .It is really kind of you and maybe he still has some feelings towards you.
• United States
20 Mar 08
I don't see a problem with you asking him to be there with you, as long as there isn't any major tension between him and some of your family members. I mean it wouldn't be a good Easter dinner if a fight broke out. Not to mention, the fight wouldn't be good for his health. I think it will help you get through the day, IF, you two are at ease with each other and on an even keel, which really doesn't sound like you are (correct me if I am wrong) b/c you said he has barely spoken to you in the last two years & you are still wanting to be with him. Did he accept coming to the dinner b/c you had been talking again for a time period?? Or did you just invite him out of the blue? Do you think that he accepted your invitation b/c there is a chance that the two of you may get back together? It is just really hard to make a decision and say if this will be a positive or negative day, without knowing all the details. But just from what I read, I do believe it will be a great day for you. I hope that everyone else in your family gets along with him and that there is peace in the house. I wish you the best and hope that it all works out in the end. Take care and God Bless You. Happy Easter, Chanel