mother saves life of unborn baby - doctors advised abortion

@winterose (39918)
Canada
March 21, 2008 12:03pm CST
Imagine a mother carrying her child only to find out that the child is gravely ill. Bela the unborn baby has turner syndrome, a disease that affects the heart and is fatal. The doctors advised abortion but the mother refused. Bela has had two operations since her birth two weeks ago and will have to have two more, but she is alive and well. http://www.lifenews.com/state3038.html what would you have done in her place? Go for the abortion on the advise of the doctors, or go from what seemed to be impossible and have the baby and also get the help she needed?
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@queenofarms (1665)
• United States
21 Mar 08
I would have done the same thing. I feel God gave me that baby for a reason. I don't believe in abortion. Thats murder! Doctors don't know everything.
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@Bd200789 (2994)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Yes, I agree. I would have had the baby.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
22 Mar 08
Now if that isn't a testament for pro life, I don't know what is, glad you are here and your daughter too!
• United States
21 Mar 08
I would never have an abortion. Life is in God's hands from the point of conception. He doesn't always tell us why things like Turner syndrome or other medical problems or disabilities happen, but He always knows what He's doing and it's not our place to decide if the child will live or die. The reason the doctor advised an abortion was basically so they wouldn't have to deal with the inconveniences and expenses of treating the child's condition. That doesn't in any way make it right to take the child's life, it's God's choice whether or not this child will live and our responsibility to care for the child to the best of our ability regardless of what others say.
@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
21 Mar 08
I may sound selfish but I would have the baby and do whatever possible to help him/her.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Just been born - A baby is a gift from God.
I would've done exactly what this lady has done. Doctors don't know everything nor are they always right. I don't believe in abortion no matter what the reason. Besides, God gave that woman a child for a reason. She may never know what the reason is but there's a reason behind everything and every birth.
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• United States
28 Mar 08
I would not abort it. Suprisingly enough, I recently had a 30 something year old patient that had Turner's Syndrome. Despite her short stature and a few medical problems, she had a full vital life. She herself worked as a Nurse in Long Term Care.
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• United States
28 Mar 08
Wow this is a difficult decision. I'm so thankful I don't have to make it. Honestly I think I would follow the doctors advice. It's not fair to let a child into this world if they have a slim chance of ever being able to enjoy life. If it were Down's Syndrome or another disorder that a person can live a full and happy life with I would never abort, but with a disease that fatal I would, for the sake of the child.
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@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
25 Mar 08
Miracles sure can happen can't they... That was a beautiful story that's for sure... God bless you and her family.. Not to mention I am very happy to hear they didn't give up on her unborn child.. It's always a mystery until things actually happen to one... Just a wonderful and amazing story that's for sure...
• United States
23 Mar 08
I don't have to imagine because i went through it with my niece. When she was pregnant with her second child a daughter, something went wrong with her pregnancy at 5 month and she had to deliver thru c-section. Before delivery the doctors told her that she had to make a decision as to giving the baby first aid or just letting her go after birth. I saw what she went through trying to make the decision of giving her child a chance at life or just letting her go because the doctors had already told her that there is a 98% chance that the baby will not survive on her own because her lungs are going to be to premature at that stage of her pregnancy. All I kept seing was agony on her face and there was nothing I could do to ease it because at the time they had not yet asked me for my opinion but when they finally did my answer was give the baby a chance at life because god is the only one that has the right to decide who should die or who should live. And also if she let her go there is always going to be the living with the what if. So the baby a beautiful angel from heaven was giving a chance and she fought hard to survive. she lived for 61/2 month then passed away peacefully. her parents were broken hearted but at least they had her for six and a half month witch is alot better then nothing at all. every one should be giving a chance at life no matter what the illness or the age. i am glad that bela was giving a chance, children no matter how tiny or sick are fighters they have the will to survive.
@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
21 Mar 08
i definitely would not have had the abortion and would have kept the child. I think this is an awesome story and that baby is getting the help she needs. God is so good and comes through for those that have faith in Him and trust in Him. That baby is nothing short of a miracle and that mother should be commended for the choice of life for her child. God bless those two and the people helping her.!!!
@Lovett (465)
• India
21 Mar 08
This is a very encouraging story about faith,,and if I would be in the mother's place, I would probably do the same thing, my friend.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
22 Mar 08
I would never abort a child. That does not mean that I would want a child who is mentally or physically disabled, and just because I say that I do not believe in abortion should not give the pro=abortionists the right to pray that God will give me a special needs child to show me up, and I am sure that many pro-abortionists are praying and hoping that us pro=lifers get some child who needs special help, but I do know that God is in control and he will only give a child to someone who has either the medical ability or knows someone who does or has enough money to care for that child. The doctors, lacked faith that God would provide, and did not consider the love the parents had for their baby.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
22 Mar 08
I kinda disagree with you, my friend adopted her son from guatamala, he had a severe hair lip and required thousands of dollars in operations, the mother was poor and gave him up, nobody wanted him in the orphanage, he was already 10 years old and thought not adoptable, can you imagine how that little boy felt, can you even begin to imagine his torment, he looked ugly he was shunned and laughed at, he lived for 10 years of his life knowing nobody loved him and even his own mother rejected him because of his deformity. my friend was looking for a baby but when she heard about him she just had to have him, he is 17 now, and still needing operations, he has had 5 already, he is almost normal looking now.
• United States
24 Mar 08
beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I thank god everyday for my children. perfect or not in my eyes they are beautiful no matter what. and god doesn't give disabled children, god does not hurt little children or anyone for that matter. i diagree with you suspenseful. And wether a mother is rich or poor if she has a baby with any physical defect and she is a true mother she will love and do everything for that child that is in her power to do and more.
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@sanell (2114)
• United States
22 Mar 08
that is such a hard thing to know what to do. Being that I had three miscarriages, I think I would opt to just take my chances and just try to have the baby. Although I thought that with turner syndrome the chances of even getting to live birth was difficult, but maybe that is a trisomy and not Turner. It is so hard, I do know this. When I finally got through the point with my first live birth pregnancy of having my baby, I was not wanting to take any sort of pre screening tests other than the level II and I did that with my younger daughter too. My doctor still took the tests with my younger doctor but I said....you can do the tests but I am not interested in the results unless it is bad news or something I would need to know, but I would prefer not to go through the agony. However, if we had a third and being I am now over the maternal age for having children (Whopping 36) I would have all tests done.....It is so hard to know what the right decision is.....sometimes you just never know what to do.
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
22 Mar 08
many woman have children after the age of 36, hon, though of course it is a personal choice. I only had one child and had him at 21 you are right about turners many children do not survive childbirth
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Mar 08
i would not abort that baby I would go ahead and have her and hope to get medical help she needed because who knows what new medical miracles come about each and every day.sheis a precious living being not just a thing.
@keyers (159)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Thats great I am glad the baby is donig well I am proud of the mother for standing up for what she felt was right and kept her baby.I wish both of them the best.
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• United States
22 Mar 08
I would of have done the same thing this mother did i could never go threw with abortions no matter how bad it turns out to be
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@tessah (6621)
• United States
22 Mar 08
thankfully i have two very healthy daughters, and refused and and all utero-invasive testings they tried to talk me into, (even changed doctors due to he pressure they used to force me into it) ie .. amniocentisis, etc. the proceedure itself can cause infections that would harm and even kill a normally healthy child, and unfortunately, ive seen it happen. infection sets in for some unexplained reason and the woman would wind up having a miscarriage. i saw no reason to test for things that couldnt be dealt with until birth, or to be used as a guide to abort or not, as i never would regardles, and possibly cause damage tomy child in the process. the tests themselves are unreliable, and docs are wrong so many times making parents worry and stress for no reason at all and unable to even really enjoy their pregnancy that doesnt last very long as it is. kudos to the mommy for defying the docs suggestions and having faith all would be well.. and cheers to the babys fighting spirit. a very nice story.. thanx for sharing =o)
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
I will not abortthe baby, I will take the chance, give her life she deserves and Pray Hard that God will spare her of the disease. Doctors are just humans. If God interferes and decides not to make my baby well, then it is bound to happen. I can never live my life knowing that somewhere, somehow my baby could have been born free of, At least if i continued with the pregnancy , i will have no what ifs and regrets - cause even if my baby is suffering from sickness i will be there to walk her through it.
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@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
I will definitely keep the baby. It doesn't matter if my baby is not perfect, he or she is still my baby. Modern medicine can do wonders these days so these is still a chance that my baby will survive and live a normal life. I can deny her that chance to life.
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@BigO32 (47)
• United States
21 Mar 08
I'm not a woman but I would have advised to keep the child. I have a brother with a mental illness and my family could have easily given up on him due to doctor recommendations. Some of the ones my family got was to institutionalize. Its not an abortion but its a road that can lead to abandonment. It was very trying and hard for many years but now, we are in our 30's. Hes great, self sufficient and my best friend. Things can look bad at the beginning and turn out to be a blessing. I learned how to deal with "different people" and got a new outlook on life at an early age. Like most say, its in Gods hands and if you dont believe in God then it was just destined for this to occur. Take the lessons and become a better person.
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• United States
21 Mar 08
I would have had the baby. Doctors are sometimes wrong and I couldnt imagin having an abortion and then they were wrong or something. I feel you have to at least try. If you try and she dont make it well it would be worth the effort to me. And if you try and she turns out to be the healthiest person ever then so be it. I would never judge my opinion on someone else, esp doctors. They have miss done things with me. I had a friend that got chicken pox at an older age and they didnt even know what it was. So I would have the baby get the help she needed and go from there and hope for the best.
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