What is your aim when debating???

@kwenge (2492)
Kenya
March 22, 2008 4:19am CST
When you argue/debate/discuss, do you actually expect to change the other person's mind? And if you don't manage to change the person's mind do you feel like a failure or you accept it and move on?
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@heart143 (1204)
• Philippines
25 Mar 08
When I argue or discuss something to a person, my aim is not to actually change his mind but to make some important point known to him. We all have different ideas and perspectives in mind so we reason differently. When I discuss my point I want him to understand my views on it and hopefully it might make shed clarifications on the issue. It's up to him if he's gonna take it or not, nor if he's gonna admit I'm correct and he is wrong. What matters to me is that I was able to share something that I know will be of use to him at one point in time.
@kwenge (2492)
• Kenya
25 Mar 08
Hey Heart, Thanks alot for your response and yes, I agree with you.Putting a point forward and letting the person know it is major factor in a debate or arguement and if the person does not agree with you, he would have heard your point and might even later on reconsider it. Thanks.
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@heart143 (1204)
• Philippines
25 Mar 08
Dear Kwenge, Thanks for the BR mark. I really appreciate it.
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• United States
8 Apr 08
I join debate discussion not really to convince people to take my side. It's more of showing the stregths of my argument, and being to learn in the process. It's really fun being soaked in heated arguments. You kind of are able to test yourself, your logic, the coherence and everythinu; you kindda lay it all down and see if you can stand your ground. Debating is more of a personal test of wit and resolve. I think the success of being able to debate is the debating process itself. At the end of argumentations, it's really a compliment for both sides to win each other by learning from one another and becoming friends in the process.
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@kwenge (2492)
• Kenya
9 Apr 08
Wow! Well put I must say. I also think the same way that debating is a learning process and you gain some courage out of the whole experience. Thanks a bunch for your response.
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@SViswan (12095)
• India
23 Mar 08
No, I don't expect to change anyone's mind. I usually like getting all viewpoints before taking a decision. There have been times when I have changed my opinion based on what points someone else has put across.
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@kwenge (2492)
• Kenya
25 Mar 08
Hey SViswan, Thanks alot for your response. I also like to get points from other and weigh the options before making a decission. It is good to hear what others have to say. Thanks alot.
@anniepa (26858)
• United States
29 Mar 08
I realize there are many people whose minds are never going to be changed no matter how effective an argument they're given. I learned a long time ago that sometimes you just have to agree to disagree and accept it and move on, as you said. The only time I feel I have "failed" is if a discussion turns into a personal fight and becomes abusive and disrespectful if I think I could have handled it differently to prevent it from taking that direction. Annie
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
i don't really like debating but when i am arguing with someone, it doesn't really have to be the person i am arguing with would change his mind. he just have to accept my points, and acknowledge the truth in it.
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• China
22 Jun 08
I debate to find some kind of priority over others , and I also like showing off my knowledge Sometimes intense quarrels will be arised during arguementation, I then just keep silent, for I debate for fun rather than ending up with fierce anger. But one problem here, I sometimes find myself lack of sense of humor which will lead to an icy atmosphere when arguing. Do you have some tips when arguing?
@kwenge (2492)
• Kenya
23 Jun 08
Showing off your knowledge! hehehe yea that comes to most of peoples mind. The only tip I can give you about arguing is.......be careful on who you are arguing with...Dont argue with a fool.....hehehe
• Canada
21 Jun 08
My aim in a debate is to make the other person THINK!!!! I also allow them to make me think. We may not come away any diferently than we went in, but atleast we were heard. If I can make just one person think, then I have done my job.