Stolen

Philippines
March 22, 2008 8:13pm CST
I am having a very rocky relationship already, since my bf was or is a drug addict. Now I thought we overcame the worst until I checked my wallet this morning and found a big amount of money missing. I knew he took it and confrontet him and asked him why he took it. He just answered 'Because I wanted to hurt you.' It's so dissappointing being with a little kid.. Have you guys had experiences where your trust is abused?
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@praveenjena (1305)
• India
24 Mar 08
'Because I wanted to hurt you.' ......this is what he said... don't quite understand why he said so.... be he did a great mistake by doing so... he will never be able to find a better person than you. ya many a times trust is broken .... and you feel being abused.but that is the part of the life which we have to live with and never lose hope and no need to feel sad as that person was not worthy of you.
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@rhane7315 (5674)
• Philippines
30 Apr 08
well you can't change him unless he's willing to change for you and from the way you tell your story, he really don't love you. sorry for the harsh word, but that's what i see and feel. you will never be happy in this life if you would stay with him and he's not doing anything good for you
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@LAWise520 (276)
• United States
26 Mar 08
Like others have said...being an addict is forever. There are cases where people are able to completely break free from their addiction, but it is a LONGGG and painful process. I would really recommend getting out of that relationship...especially with a response like "because I wanted to hurt you." That's not a good sign...it doesn't seem that he is getting better.
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@barehugs (8992)
• Canada
24 Mar 08
This guy is not a good Husband. Hes an addict. Once an addict always an addict! If you want a good life leave this guy, and do it now. Next thing he will be stealing. Break and enter, or assault and robbery. Get away from him, he is not trustworthy and will never be. Leave him Now!
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• Philippines
24 Mar 08
I have had my trust broken so many times but I learned to forgive but sometimes we should give limitations on the trust we give to others. We shouldn't let them abuse us if they keep breaking our trust. Hope you decide on what is right for you and your kid and please do hide your money from him some place that he won't find it.
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@Hatley (157558)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Jun 08
No I have never personally been in that situation but have friends who were in the same place. An addict is an addict for life, recovered or not. If he thinks its fun to hurt you then I would think it would be time to kick him to the curb. He is not trying to recover and stealing money from your wallet is proof that the ]only thing he cares for is the next fix. if he really wanted to recover he would be honest with you. I think its time to find yourself a boyfriend who loves you and respects you instead of someone who looks on you as sourve for his next fix.
• United States
23 Mar 08
Sorry that has happened to you. I had a girlfriend that ran off with a guy I thought was my best friend, and 4k of my money, while I was working to get the money for us to leave the area that we were living in.
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@eden32 (3978)
• United States
23 Mar 08
If your partner is an addict, he's an addict for life. Even if he finds help and stops using, he will still be an addict- an addict in recovery but always an addict. I have several addicts in my immediate family. It's heartbreaking to be in any relationship with an addict who's actively using.You can never depend on or truly trust someone who's using. Have you ever considered going to a support group for the families of addicts? Best of luck with your relationship.
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
Thx for the response. He has been in rehab before and his family is already sick of him. I actually threw him out of the house. I ve put up with so much already. It really was worse where he'd take my celphone, camera and anything valuable he could get. I thought he was recovering and I'm not sure how much addiction had to do with his action of just taking my money, but I threw him out of our house which is like 20km away from his and he does not have a ride. My dad was rather forgiving and told me that he could give me the money back, but that was never the point.... well yeah..
• Australia
23 Mar 08
That's not entirely true eden... I know people who were users that have been clean for over 20 years. I certainly wouldn't call them addicts... they are ex-addicts. Unless of course you are referring to peoples addictive personalities (ie. if they were dependant on some chemical that they will always be dependant on chemicals, whether it be the same one or something else) Besides,we all have our addictions, whether they be legal or illegal.
@eden32 (3978)
• United States
23 Mar 08
I said that in response to her indecision about using 'was' or 'is' an addict. I too know many addicts with long-term sobriety, they're not ex-addicts, they are addicts in recovery. They may never use again, but they will never not be an addict. I disagree that we all have our addictions. We may have our poor choices, our mistakes, things we shouldn't do but do anyway, but we're not all addicts. An addict has an illness.
• United States
23 Mar 08
Yes, in my younger days. I don't put up with it though. There's plenty more guys out there to settle with a bad one. Do you really want that kind of a life style? I know you're not asking for advice but you're going to get it. LEAVE HIM NOW! I
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
haha that's ok. I already threw him out. I already showed him that I'm not putting up with his addict behavior.
@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
if your boyfriend is abusing your trust then why are you still in a relationship with him? you love him that much? that you can take all the bad things he is doing? i have experiences where my trust was abused. i was two-timed before. i have an ex-boyfriend who tried to court one of my friends when we were still together. and to think i trusted him so much! i thought what he felt for me was true. of course i had to initiate the break up to save my pride and dignity. i couldn't let him hurt me more.
@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
yeah. it was really mean of him to do that to me. but its history now. i have long forgiven the guy.
@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
4 Jul 08
I have not experienced that but for me, that will be the hardest partner...Where everything in the house is no safe!If you will be with her, just hide all your valuable things in a place where he will never locate it!
• Australia
14 Jun 08
Wow, that is realy thoughtless and selfish. I think that is a very rude thing to do and i would make shure you stand up for yourself. look after yourself and your belongings and money get out or get him out and move on someone like that is never going to start to respect you.
• Canada
23 Mar 08
first fo all - dump him and get a restraining order. You shouldn't have let it escalate this far to begin with. When you found out he was an addict it should have been the end right there because addicts are never good. They are only driven by one thing, their high.
@Courtom (288)
• Canada
23 Mar 08
you deserve someone that will treat you right. I do not know the details of your relationship, as to how long you have been dating, whether or not you think you love him? My BF isd 19 and jumps from being a mature hardworking, centered young adult, to a child. Priorities are rearranged. One day his priorities are me, and the next, its going out to the bars all weekend.
@Dest274 (100)
• United States
23 Mar 08
when dealing with someone thats a addict there trust can never be recovered even if there recovered its not something you can work out its your mind
• United States
23 Mar 08
I was dating a guy in Florida for about 8 months before I knew he was on more than trees. Then one day a friend of his came by one night and all was well. The following day he went to work. The friend came by the house. I was scared as he had no business there that morning. I was on the computer and the front door was open. So he walked right in. After talking to him for a few minutes he said how bad he felt that A would teat me so bad. I knew nothing of what was being done. Well he made me promise not to tell and he spilled the beans. How come I did not notice my name plate chain gone? Well I kept the secret along with the others. When he came home i asked my daughter to go get my chain and hers from the dresser. He left the house. When he came back all hell broke loose. He had to go and I was not taking nothing he said as an excuse. I did not want one from him. I bought that for myself for valentines day. The dog promised me a new one. I did not want it but he had to move out.