Woman Found Living in Horrid Conditions

@worldwise1 (14887)
United States
March 23, 2008 2:38pm CST
I came across this item in our local newspaper: A 63-year-old woman was found living in filthy and neglectful conditions when paramedics were called to her home because of reported epileptic seizures. Her living conditions were disgusting and the responders found conditions to be the same when they went next door to her daughter's house(who was listed as her primary care giver). This really burns me up because I feel that any time someone needs that level of care the situation should be regularly monirored. What are your views on this? I am providing a link to this story. http://www.daytondailynews.com/n/content/oh/story/news/local/2008/03/23/ddn032308neglectweb.html
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15 responses
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
23 Mar 08
Yes, that is disgusting and unfortunately some people who live like that, don't see the harm in it..
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I do hope the daughter is prosecuted, carmelanirel, for what amounts to criminal behavior.
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• United States
23 Mar 08
WOW! That bothers me as well. If the daughter was listed as her primary care giver then the daughter should have been evaluated to see if she was fit to play this role in her mothers life. I agree she should have been monitored! I think there should be programs in place to monitor and ensure that rules and regulations are being followed and that people who cannot take care of themselves are living in a good and healthy atmosphere.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Yes, enchantedleppard, the sad reality is that many of these "caretakers" are only in it for the money and could actually care less about the victim.
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@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
24 Mar 08
It's one thing to live in some dust, I mean that cannot always be avoided but my gosh, what a terrible story. The daughter should have been evaluated most definitely. Awful isn't even the word for it!!
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
24 Mar 08
You are right, of course, mbs. There is no excuse for living this way.
23 Mar 08
Oh my gosh...that is just plain disgusting! I sure couldn't live like that. I would think the daughter would be evaluated to see if she was really able to care for her mother. Renee
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
24 Mar 08
The reasons behind the daughter's neglect could be so many, rstuck, but I plan to follow up with this case to see how it comes out.
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
23 Mar 08
It sounds like a case where there must have been something mentally wrong with both women, but particularly the daughter to let her mother live in such filth..I mean that does NOT sound normal to me...It could be a case too, where the mother just didn't want outside help...my mother was exactly like that...she could have had a visiting nurse, but wouldn't hear of it...so I was her caregiver...but at least I didn't let my mother live in filth...nope, definitely something wrong with the daughter to live in such conditions
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I see this all the time on the local news, pyewacket, where the authorities enter a home that is horribly filthy and most of the time it is due to nothing but laziness. The usual scenario will be that someone calls the CSB because they are concerned about the children. That is when the filthy living conditions come to light. The children are removed from the homes for a period of time, but they usually end up right back in the same conditions.
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@mummymo (23707)
23 Mar 08
How awful! now my house may get untidy and a little dusty but I have 2 kids , mobility problems and a partner that works a lot of hours! I cannot imagine living in conditions that poor woman and her grandchildren were living in! As you say if the lady needed a caregiver and a lot of support she should have had regular checks made, what a horrible way for her to have to live and I do wonder if her daughter was healthy physically and/or mentally? It is so sad to hear of people living this way! xxx
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Unfortunately, mummymo, these things happen all the time, and the only solution I can think of is stricter rules and screening.
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
23 Mar 08
I agree with you it should be monitored and I think it is disgusting that it has not been and how can a Daughter do such a thing this is her Mum it is terrible and really the Daughter should have been checked out Daughter or not they should still check it out
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Many of the social service agencies are lax when it comes to enforcing rules, gabs. This situation is unacceptable.
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
24 Mar 08
I do not know what to say, there so many dirty people around, but I do know what you mean people with health problems should live in clean environments, you know what even montreal hospitals are dirty.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Many people have grown up in this type of filthy environment and have no desire to change, winterose. And, yes, there are dirty hospitals everywhere. Sad.
@jeanniemay (1803)
• Philippines
25 Mar 08
How irresponsible! It's really pitiful why some people can be so inhumane. Those are good opportunities to share your love and care. I mean, it's your mother who is on the condition. It could have been more wise to at least clean up some mess, make yourself more productive and appeal of your daughters' care. Coloring easter eggs and some stuff is not a good reason. It merely suggests more to the authorities that she don't deserve to become a mother and a daughter. Well, we don't know her history and we cannot judge her either but what we can do is to pray for her so she'll get aware of more possibilities to give her life some break, productive and responsible, and enjoy life of love as well.
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
If her daughter cared for the safety and wellness of her child and mother she should've cleaned the house..she is not young she is 34 and she should've done some chores around the house. she could've bought insect spray to get rid of the roaches. and why was there feces scattered around the house. How could she neglect the health of her own mother. I always want my house cleaned because the kids play on the floor..If you have kids you should think of their health. She deserves to be punished for her neglect.
• United States
24 Mar 08
I myself am an Emergency medical technician. I have bee into numerous apartments and homes in our area that have brought me to near sickness. I have even been in houses where breathing is an issue, not just because of the horrifying stinch, but there is something in the are that makes it extremely difficult to breath. I have been in apartments where you must wade through years of trash, cat and dog feces, human vomit, food, and countless other disgusting things. You can not imagine how alot of peole live. There was one house, where people just "did their business" on the floor and in there chairs, not because they could not get to the bathroom, but just becasue they were too lazy to go to the batroom. Roaches lined the wall in numbers so large I could not even count them. I live in a rural town, and I would hate to see what it is like in a city. The simple fact is: there are conditions like this all over the place, as sad as that is. The fact that the daughter probably could have helped these conditions is sourt of disturbing. I can't believe she would not help improve the living conditions of her own mother. I can not imagine living in conditions like the ones I mentioned and the one in the news article.
@anniepa (27239)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I've read and seen similar stories in my local area and I find it equally disgusting! After my mom, who is now 91, broke her hip and had to spend some time in a nursing home for rehabilitation the house was inspected thoroughly before she could come home. I'm her caregiver and I was given all the necessary instructions on what she would need. Now, our house isn't perfectly clean and neat, probably far from it by some standards, but it's not filth by any means. There may be some dust from time to time, there may be times when the vacuum cleaner should be run a bit more often but we sure don't live in the kind of conditions this poor woman is. It's ridiculous that our government services fail the people they're supposed to be protecting. I consider this just one more example of our priorities being very messed up! Annie
• United States
24 Mar 08
Unfortunately this is becoming a well known as child neglect... I took care of my grand mother for several years before she passed away last year, I never let her house become a mess, sometimes it was alittle dirty, but usually not for long.
@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
24 Mar 08
Maybe the daughter inherited that messy trait from her mom. I think it should be mandatory that caregivers be checked out before signing over someone to their care.
@KrauseHome (35514)
• United States
24 Mar 08
You know it never seems to amaze me anymore, and I wonder how can they continue to allow someone to be a Primary Care giver who is like this? I know from a past experience one person who when her daughter was growing up her place was so filthy you seen Cockroaches all over the place, and the place smelled. And I knew someone else who's garbage was piled up about 3 feet deep all over his house. And as far as I know, he had a $$ payee, and his mom was always coming around as well. This makes me wonder how people are supposed to Care and be someone's caregiver, and provider and allow such Filth as this, and not care? And how can they be awarded with something as this, and no one seem to notice? I hope for this womans sake someone else steps in to take charge of this situation before something else worse happens to her.