Our Son Didn't Show Up!

I don't have anyone in my family like that. My family just shows up late to everything. My son's father is the type to do the no show thing. He will tell you he will be somewhere at a certain time and then not show up and you here from him like 2 weeks later. It is really annoying. I have come to the conclusion that unless he actually shows up I will assume he is lying when he says he will be somewhere.

I haven't run into that particular thing and I'm sure glad. How rude! You still haven't heard from him?

I am sorry he has done this to you Grandpa Bob I am lucky as my Children would ring me if they can't make it the same as I would ring them to let them know It is terrible if you have made the arrangements then they do not show and will not contact you I hope you will give him a good telling to when you do get hold of him

im so sorry to hear that. although i don't have any grandchildren yet ,i'm only 34 :) i can feel your disappointment. my boss' father always wants his 3 children & their kids to be with him & his wife during holidays and most of the weekends. i can see his reaction everytime my boss tell him he's got plans. so heartbreaking. i wish he can make it up to you some how.

My goodness... that is so irresponsible of your son... if he cannot do it... it won't hurt to call or even text... or email beforehand... if i was in your situation... i will give him a piece of my mind... with constant nagging... so far... we have relative who are no shows... but that is quite understandable because they live far from our province...

My heart goes out to you and your family; a situation like this can be very difficult. My son did not show for Easter either, we called him about 10 a.m. and he did not answer. I know he knows we called because his phone stores incoming calls with time and dates. I did not let his absense spoil my day with the girls. We had a lovely breakfast and then my oldest returned to her home and my baby went to church. I am under the weather so I stayed home so as not to make others sick. It is 13 hours later and my son still hasn't returned our call. Whenever he happens by I will give him his easter bag and ask him how his holiday was. No scolding, no guilt trip; just a warm hello. He is not obliged to answer to me about his comings and goings, I respect his adulthood. I just try not to make plans with him because he is the one most likely not to show up. I love him dearly and applaud his independence. I want him to know that he always has a place in our family no matter where live leads him.

My husband I normally do not make a big meal for Easter dinner. We have a simple meal together. Last year my son called a few days before Easter and asked if we were having a dinner and if so he would like to join us. I told him that I would prepare a nice meal and we set a time for dinner. On Easter Sunday I baked the ham along with potatoes and carrots. I made homemade rolls and a nice dessert. We waited, and waited. As he didn't have a phone, we couldn't call him. He never called. We laughed and had dinner. Of course we had leftovers for quite a while which made my hubby a little less than happy. About a week later my son called and I questioned him as to where he was on Easter. He stumbled on his words and tried to form a valid excuse, but failed.

Despite the fact he's not very responsible, have you thought just maybe something happened to him? Accident at home or a car accident that might of prevented him from calling you? Sorry, Grandpa Bob, but when I read your discussion I was worse case senerio came to mind. I lost a good friend years ago to a car accident. He wasn't discovered till a week later cause noone could see his car from the road. Some walkers found him. Hope nothing bad happened to him. How was your Easter otherwise?

That must be very frustrating, irritating and worrying AGB! I am lucky as this hasn't happened to me - at least not yet! Mind you my kids are only 14 and 6 and have to go with me! lol Luckily the rest of the family are not like this either! I hope you had a great Easter despite this and that your daughter enjoyed her pie! Hugs xxx

Nope.....but my sister in law is always...always late! You can count on it. I finally said to her one day that when a person is late that's a sign they need attention or want all the attention focused on them....for a while she was good but now she's back at it...for some reason we always wait for them but it gets very frustrating always holding everything for her!

No...thank god all my girls are really into the family holidays. we all have had boyfriends like that tho and it is very frustrating. You end up being late just waiting for them so sure that they are just running a few minutes late. I had an ex husband that I always used to tell him that an event was at least an hour earlier than it was because being late was just about the only thing I could count on him for.

I have a sister who is always late, so we just started to tell her things started a hour ealier then they really did. It worked pretty good, even though she would still be late, just not as late lol. I have another sister, who's husband is like that, he will always say he is coming and then just as they are leaving he backs out. Leaving her to explain his absence, it is also a big disappointment to her kids as well. I think it is rude. Either, say you don't want to go or call. Just good manners.

About a yearago I found a long lost cousin whom I had never met and we started an online correspondence that became reallydear to me. she was brightand intelligent and full of fun and she said she really enjoyed my emails. we have never met understand but her grandfather was my Uncle Will clark andasI am myself eighty one its a joy to meet my clark relativeseven if just by email. But after the first Of January this year her emails just plain quit.I have emailed her over and over and they did not come back so now I am truly frightened as she always emailed me at least every other day then wham no more emails.I dohave her snail mail address and am going to have to write her because I miss her and am so afraid something might have happened to her.

That sounds like my sister Allison. She doesn't show up half the time either. It's gotten so that we just don't really plan on her coming, if she shows up fine, and if she doesn't then no one is surprised. My sons both showed up this year! Both had said that they wouldn't make it (due to the lovely spring weather) then they both changed their minds and came anyway. They wound up getting steak, baked potatos, salad and ice cream for their Easter dinner 'cause I never had a chance to get to the grocery store to buy anything more traditional. I'm sorry about your son Nate disappointing you like that Is he in the Twin Cities too? Perhaps we could introduce him to my sister, they're about the same age. Then they could be no-shows together.....

Sorry that happened but I know it wasnt anything new to you. I hope you had a nice Easter and the food was good despite your son. I have a cousin who just like that. We dont even bother to invite him anymore. He too does alot of drinking!

I have read things about this son before on your discussions. He really is irresponsible. At age 28 , it is hard to say if & when he will ever change. All I can say is, treat him as he treats you. Honestly, some people just dont learn, unless the same things happen tro them. I dont have anyone in my family, or Dave's as bad as that. However,m my brother is notorious for being disorganised & not planning ahead when it comes to Christmas functions or similar. I find it frustrating.

Oh I have a younger sister who is like that. When my oldest sons were younger my sister would call and say she was coming over - the boys would place bets on whether she was going to show up or not. I think she didn't show more than she did - annoys me to no end.

Sad to say Grandpa Bob, I was the guilty one and the no show. We were supposed to spend the holy week with my relatives at my cousins mountain resort, but I just didn't feel like going and do some socializing. It seemed terrible of me that I feel this way when we do seldom get together in a year, but i just feel like spending time with the kids at home for a change. We were always going somewhere most of the holidays and for a change I wanted to just be at our home. My children wanted to come but I just amused them with my cooking and with lots of cartoons. I hope my cousin wouldn't think I'm becoming anti-social. LOL! Though I told them that I don't feel like going and just wanted to rest at home.

So did you finally get in touch with him and give him an earful! I know i would of. It doesn't take much to pick up a phone and call to cancel. I just hope nothing serious has happened to him!

Yes I've had and still have family members that are late. If I were you grandpa, I'd tell the person I'm leaving at such and such a time and if you're not here then you've missed your ride. I would not sit around waiting for the person because it's time to be an adult and act like one and that includes your son. My grandmother was always late because she liked to make the GRAND entrance! And my mother is pretty much the same way except she claims that she doesn't like to be late and hated when her mom did it for the GRAND entrance! I say like mother like daughter.