Our Son Didn't Show Up!

@webeishere (36377)
United States
March 23, 2008 10:50pm CST
I went and saw "NO SHOW JONES" (George Jones) recently. Now my son is not a very responsible person at almost 28 years of age. He called Easter morning saying he'd be over to ride with us to our daughters for Easter dinner etc. Well the time came and went by when we were to head to her house. He did not call to explain a thing. He did not answer his phone the many times the wife or I called him. He has not answered his phone all day. It's really frustrating when your own child/adult, makes plans for a holiday together then doesn't show up, doesn't call, and doesn't answer repeated calls to him. So now I am going to call him "No Show Nate". So do you have any relatives that are also no shows along this line for holidays and or family get togethers? HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@lilybug (21182)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I don't have anyone in my family like that. My family just shows up late to everything. My son's father is the type to do the no show thing. He will tell you he will be somewhere at a certain time and then not show up and you here from him like 2 weeks later. It is really annoying. I have come to the conclusion that unless he actually shows up I will assume he is lying when he says he will be somewhere.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
24 Mar 08
My son seems to do this all too often. I can see if he does it to friends, which he does, but to do it to family members? Come on now. This is ridiculous in my eyes. He could have called and made up a lie anyhow about not coming. But to not even call nor answer his phone? I am to the point of not even bothering to invite him. He is welcome and all but why waste my time asking him? HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@lilybug (21182)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I think it is just flat out rude. I would stop inviting him too.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Thanks. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@Ldyjarhead (10161)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I haven't run into that particular thing and I'm sure glad. How rude! You still haven't heard from him?
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
25 Mar 08
Here it is almost 9 a.m. on Tuesday and still no word. But that's typical of him as well. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@Ldyjarhead (10161)
• United States
25 Mar 08
Goodness. Are you sure something didn't happen to him? Has anyone else heard from him at all?
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
24 Mar 08
I am sorry he has done this to you Grandpa Bob I am lucky as my Children would ring me if they can't make it the same as I would ring them to let them know It is terrible if you have made the arrangements then they do not show and will not contact you I hope you will give him a good telling to when you do get hold of him
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I coulod care less if he had not went. The fact we were driving and did not know what was going on. Maybe he just likes jerking my chain? HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
24 Mar 08
It certainly sounds like it
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@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
My goodness... that is so irresponsible of your son... if he cannot do it... it won't hurt to call or even text... or email beforehand... if i was in your situation... i will give him a piece of my mind... with constant nagging... so far... we have relative who are no shows... but that is quite understandable because they live far from our province...
@webeishere (36377)
• United States
24 Mar 08
The part that is bad is that we were driving him there. he was driving to our house then I was driving to our daughters. So it made us have to wait a little while in case he showed up. So that's the part that is frustrating making us wait etc. Now if he was driving himself and didn;t show no biggie. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Mooch, he has been given so many pieces of my mind I've none left. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@hey_baby (426)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
im so sorry to hear that. although i don't have any grandchildren yet ,i'm only 34 :) i can feel your disappointment. my boss' father always wants his 3 children & their kids to be with him & his wife during holidays and most of the weekends. i can see his reaction everytime my boss tell him he's got plans. so heartbreaking. i wish he can make it up to you some how.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
24 Mar 08
It would be nice if he let us know one way or another so we didn't have to sit around waiting. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANPA BOB !!~
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@roberten (3134)
• United States
24 Mar 08
My heart goes out to you and your family; a situation like this can be very difficult. My son did not show for Easter either, we called him about 10 a.m. and he did not answer. I know he knows we called because his phone stores incoming calls with time and dates. I did not let his absense spoil my day with the girls. We had a lovely breakfast and then my oldest returned to her home and my baby went to church. I am under the weather so I stayed home so as not to make others sick. It is 13 hours later and my son still hasn't returned our call. Whenever he happens by I will give him his easter bag and ask him how his holiday was. No scolding, no guilt trip; just a warm hello. He is not obliged to answer to me about his comings and goings, I respect his adulthood. I just try not to make plans with him because he is the one most likely not to show up. I love him dearly and applaud his independence. I want him to know that he always has a place in our family no matter where live leads him.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Thanks bunches. We are actually sort of used to his no show antics. But it does hurt etc as it is our flesh and blood. We must have called about 20 times from the time before we left all the way till about 9 tonight and no answer at all. That's odd. Unless he avoiding us so as not to have to explain his no show. I won't scold him but I won't go out of my to offer him a ride etc. He knows what we do each holiday etc so he is welcome.How old is your son? Was he invited and stated he'd be there as well? It did not spoil anyones day it just hurt deep down is all. It would have been nice to know why he didn't show up and not call etc. The part thats bad is he was riding with us so we had to wait a little past the time he was to be at our house. So it was annoying him not answering his phone etc. 15 minutes after our schedulded time to leave and no answer from him I left a message on his phone thanking him and stating we are leving without him. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@julievy (595)
• United States
25 Mar 08
That sounds like my sister Allison. She doesn't show up half the time either. It's gotten so that we just don't really plan on her coming, if she shows up fine, and if she doesn't then no one is surprised. My sons both showed up this year! Both had said that they wouldn't make it (due to the lovely spring weather) then they both changed their minds and came anyway. They wound up getting steak, baked potatos, salad and ice cream for their Easter dinner 'cause I never had a chance to get to the grocery store to buy anything more traditional. I'm sorry about your son Nate disappointing you like that Is he in the Twin Cities too? Perhaps we could introduce him to my sister, they're about the same age. Then they could be no-shows together.....
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
25 Mar 08
No...thank god all my girls are really into the family holidays. we all have had boyfriends like that tho and it is very frustrating. You end up being late just waiting for them so sure that they are just running a few minutes late. I had an ex husband that I always used to tell him that an event was at least an hour earlier than it was because being late was just about the only thing I could count on him for.
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@Deea48 (1168)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I have a sister who is always late, so we just started to tell her things started a hour ealier then they really did. It worked pretty good, even though she would still be late, just not as late lol. I have another sister, who's husband is like that, he will always say he is coming and then just as they are leaving he backs out. Leaving her to explain his absence, it is also a big disappointment to her kids as well. I think it is rude. Either, say you don't want to go or call. Just good manners.
@blackbriar (9126)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Despite the fact he's not very responsible, have you thought just maybe something happened to him? Accident at home or a car accident that might of prevented him from calling you? Sorry, Grandpa Bob, but when I read your discussion I was worse case senerio came to mind. I lost a good friend years ago to a car accident. He wasn't discovered till a week later cause noone could see his car from the road. Some walkers found him. Hope nothing bad happened to him. How was your Easter otherwise?
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
25 Mar 08
See heres the problem there, Recall the fable The Boy Who Cried Wolf? I am sick of making calls all over to see if something happened to him to be found put later he just didnt feel like calling us. Pisses us off big time. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
• United States
25 Mar 08
I know pissed off, Grandpa Bob. Heck, I would be too if my daughter was the same way (I pray she doesn't). I didn't say you had to make alot of calls. Just play the wait-and-see game to see if he calls or shows. If, after a few days, he doesn't call and noone has seen him is when you start to wonder.
@Hatley (163792)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 08
About a yearago I found a long lost cousin whom I had never met and we started an online correspondence that became reallydear to me. she was brightand intelligent and full of fun and she said she really enjoyed my emails. we have never met understand but her grandfather was my Uncle Will clark andasI am myself eighty one its a joy to meet my clark relativeseven if just by email. But after the first Of January this year her emails just plain quit.I have emailed her over and over and they did not come back so now I am truly frightened as she always emailed me at least every other day then wham no more emails.I dohave her snail mail address and am going to have to write her because I miss her and am so afraid something might have happened to her.
@webeishere (36377)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Something could have happened to cause the emails to stop as she was good at writing. Hopefully things are okay with her and you'll be corresponding again really soon. Good luck. HAPPY POSTIGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@Hatley (163792)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Apr 08
thanks for best response finally heard from her and her compute was down and she just got it fixed
• United States
25 Mar 08
My husband I normally do not make a big meal for Easter dinner. We have a simple meal together. Last year my son called a few days before Easter and asked if we were having a dinner and if so he would like to join us. I told him that I would prepare a nice meal and we set a time for dinner. On Easter Sunday I baked the ham along with potatoes and carrots. I made homemade rolls and a nice dessert. We waited, and waited. As he didn't have a phone, we couldn't call him. He never called. We laughed and had dinner. Of course we had leftovers for quite a while which made my hubby a little less than happy. About a week later my son called and I questioned him as to where he was on Easter. He stumbled on his words and tried to form a valid excuse, but failed.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I am sure he isn't answering our calls or calling back as he knows this displeases us both to no ends. Oh well. We enjoyed Easter anyhow. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@mummymo (23709)
25 Mar 08
That must be very frustrating, irritating and worrying AGB! I am lucky as this hasn't happened to me - at least not yet! Mind you my kids are only 14 and 6 and have to go with me! lol Luckily the rest of the family are not like this either! I hope you had a great Easter despite this and that your daughter enjoyed her pie! Hugs xxx
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
25 Mar 08
Yeah it's all you said and then some. Oh well I say. He is not being offered a ride anymore that's a given. Easter was great otherwise. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM AGB!!~
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Nope.....but my sister in law is always...always late! You can count on it. I finally said to her one day that when a person is late that's a sign they need attention or want all the attention focused on them....for a while she was good but now she's back at it...for some reason we always wait for them but it gets very frustrating always holding everything for her!
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I could only wish he was always late and not an always no show. Oh well. Still no word back from him. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Grand entrance - is the last one to arrive and get showered with love and affection.
Yes I've had and still have family members that are late. If I were you grandpa, I'd tell the person I'm leaving at such and such a time and if you're not here then you've missed your ride. I would not sit around waiting for the person because it's time to be an adult and act like one and that includes your son. My grandmother was always late because she liked to make the GRAND entrance! And my mother is pretty much the same way except she claims that she doesn't like to be late and hated when her mom did it for the GRAND entrance! I say like mother like daughter.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I am not even going to offer him a ride at all anymore. He wants to come to these family holiday meals etc he knows where people live and he has a car. Im so pissed off at him it's unreal. Thanks. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
24 Mar 08
So did you finally get in touch with him and give him an earful! I know i would of. It doesn't take much to pick up a phone and call to cancel. I just hope nothing serious has happened to him!
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
25 Mar 08
Not yet. Here it is Tuesday morning and still no call or returned call from the mesaages we left for him. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Oh I have a younger sister who is like that. When my oldest sons were younger my sister would call and say she was coming over - the boys would place bets on whether she was going to show up or not. I think she didn't show more than she did - annoys me to no end.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
25 Mar 08
It is fine that he doesn't come, I could care less. But make plans then make us wait for him and he doesn't call to let us know a thing at all. Tuesday morning and he still hasn't called nor answered his phone and messages yet. Oh well. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Sorry that happened but I know it wasnt anything new to you. I hope you had a nice Easter and the food was good despite your son. I have a cousin who just like that. We dont even bother to invite him anymore. He too does alot of drinking!
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
25 Mar 08
You're right it's nothing new. We did have a great Easter. Now it's Tuesday and no call nor does he answer his phone yet. Oh well. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@cdparazo (5769)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
Sad to say Grandpa Bob, I was the guilty one and the no show. We were supposed to spend the holy week with my relatives at my cousins mountain resort, but I just didn't feel like going and do some socializing. It seemed terrible of me that I feel this way when we do seldom get together in a year, but i just feel like spending time with the kids at home for a change. We were always going somewhere most of the holidays and for a change I wanted to just be at our home. My children wanted to come but I just amused them with my cooking and with lots of cartoons. I hope my cousin wouldn't think I'm becoming anti-social. LOL! Though I told them that I don't feel like going and just wanted to rest at home.
@webeishere (36377)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Well at least they knew you weren't going to come. Our son did not let us know anything at all. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@jennybianca (12918)
• Australia
24 Mar 08
I have read things about this son before on your discussions. He really is irresponsible. At age 28 , it is hard to say if & when he will ever change. All I can say is, treat him as he treats you. Honestly, some people just dont learn, unless the same things happen tro them. I dont have anyone in my family, or Dave's as bad as that. However,m my brother is notorious for being disorganised & not planning ahead when it comes to Christmas functions or similar. I find it frustrating.
@webeishere (36377)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Yeah I have had discussions along the lines of his irresponsibility before I am sure. It is the point we had to wait for him to NOT show up. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~