Is Your Man Immature?

@wolfie34 (26793)
United Kingdom
March 24, 2008 1:43pm CST
Have you ever had to tell your man or boyfriend or friend to Grow up? Do you ever get frustrated by your other half being immature and childish? Is this a right turn off, a right pain in the proverbials and does it frustrate you when your man is totally immature and childish? Or do you find it a turn on? Do you like your man being immature does it make you love him more? How do you deal with immature people? Do you ignore them, do you tell them off or find you are nagging them to grow up? How does your man react when you accuse him of being a child or being immature? Have you ever split up with someone because they were far too immature for their age?
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@nannacroc (4049)
24 Mar 08
Once a woman realises that men only mature to the age of 12, then it's easy to cope with them. Just treat them as you would treat any pre-teen. There's no point nagging because they can't help the way they are. Over 30 years of marriage has taught me to accept that he's mentally only 12.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
24 Mar 08
LOL, thanks for making me smile! 12 is good, it's when they hit the teenage years that's the worst!
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@weemam (13377)
24 Mar 08
No pal as you know my man is 69 , He has never been immature even when he was young , He is a perfect gentleman at all times as Mo will tell you too xx
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
24 Mar 08
And you are the perfect lady nan! xxx
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@weemam (13377)
24 Mar 08
You are a sweetheart xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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@jenni7202 (1598)
• United States
24 Mar 08
My boyfriend can be quite immature sometimes. It annoys me sometimes, but most of the time I just laugh at him. He's just a big goof ball, and I love him. He's always doing things to make me smile, and most of the time it's by doing something silly and childish. I don't mind it most of the time, but when I'm in a bad mood I usually get pretty antsy and tell him to grow up. I feel bad afterwards though, because I know he's only doing it so that I smile and forget about the reason I was so upset.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
24 Mar 08
I think it's good when they goof around, life can be soooo serious at times and when they goof around they can liven things up, it also breaks down the stress factor providing it's the right time of course!
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@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
24 Mar 08
no, fortunately for me, my hubby is quite good, but i do have a friend whose hubby is a big kid (he comes from family of 5 brothers and they are all very competitive) it would drive me absolutely nuts to be married to someone like that!!
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
24 Mar 08
You are lucky, some men are just children and sometimes harder work!
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@Bethany1202 (3432)
• United States
24 Mar 08
It's okay to joke around/fool around and be immature sometimes, but there are many times when it's inappropriate. My man is very mature. He is 24, a few years younger than I am, and has a great head on his shoulders. He works hard each day and we are saving to buy a house very soon. He has goals and is very kind to everyone. I'm very lucky! My ex-husband, on the other hand, was very lazy and immature. He never wanted to work and was very toxic to everyone around him: he started fights all the time and got worked up over nothing. Thank goodness my ex and my current man are complete opposites, what a refreshing change!
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@williamjisir (22903)
• China
24 Mar 08
Hello wolfie. I think that I am between mature and immature to my partner. I could be very mature and childish sometimes. I think that many people have these two sides, mature and immature...
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
25 Mar 08
Hello there. As of now, I'm still single..but when I was with my previous girlfriend, she told me that I was too matured to be in love..? Don't know what she meant by that, and I did ask her and she told me that I'm too caught up with work to be caring about her. I don't think so and I think she has been wrong until now she still has that kind of impression. My work schedule goes by 24/7 and she wants me to shower her with attention like a little girl and that I did when I had my day off or my shift got changed or something. But something that I learned after my relationship broke off, I think that she wanted to treat me the same too; with the same pampered way that she wanted me to treat her, and bro, I honestly think I couldn't handle that. I couldn't handle it if she had wanted me to act immature or childish because that's just not me. But I have friends and colleagues telling me that they have a split personality that makes me go LOL when I asked them why. They claimed to be really childish at home and that's what their wives wanted them to be. Is it true ladies? I have an uncanny feeling I'm not going to get hitched yet, but I do want to please...so how? What about you wolfie, your opinions on this as a man yourself...cheers-zed ;)
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
25 Mar 08
I have to admit I am very immature, I don't take things seriously and I will laugh and joke around it's my way of dealing with stuff, you know and I have been accused on numerous occasions of being immature but hey I just shrug it off, that's me, can't help the way I am, we have all different ways of handling stuff. I think we are all kids at heart!
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
24 Mar 08
Well my Loving Man certainly is not The Ex Husband needed to grow up though and learn responsibility to deal with Problems and also to socialize with People that where not 20 odd years younger then him and going out on the town with them My lovely Man now is wonderful he makes me laugh no matter how down I am we have fun He is certainly not immature xxxxx
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
25 Mar 08
You sure have a lucky man indeed and more so for having you xxx
• Philippines
25 Mar 08
Hi wolfie.. Yeah sometimes, my man tends to be immature. There were times that his immaturity got on my nerves that cant help not to tell him to "grow up." He just laughed at it and made some funny ways to make me smile and stop nagging at his immaturity. Sometimes I made a big fuss out of it until it became a big fight but I always ended up laughing. Though his immaturity irritates me, it also melted my heart and made me love him more. Actually on our first year, it was me who was so immature on so many things. He always told me that I have to act like a woman and not as a teen like. *winkz! Odd as it may seem, that kind of behavior he likes of me most. I guess both of us have days that we tend to be immature.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago because he was needy and immature....didn't work and expected everyone around him to pick up his slack. He got angry and ranted and raved when they did not. For me it was a huge turn-off. Now there is another kind of immature....playful,young at heart, funny....Now that I like.
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@mummymo (23707)
25 Mar 08
Ok Sweets you chose the wrong week for this discussion as I cannot and will not say anything against my other half for the next few days - he might take my laptop away if I do! lol xxx
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
24 Mar 08
SOmetimes he does act immature, but he tries pretty hard, so I can't really get mad at him, Sometimes he is funny, sometimes cute, sometimes he is just a pain... but as the old joke go...at one age does a man mature? No one knows, it has never happened. Of course I do know some women like that.
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
24 Mar 08
Expressing some immaturity now and then is hilarious! For those who are always in that state though, I have little or nothing to do with them. There's a time and a place for everything... for being serious and for being silly. The best kind of people are those that can do both, at the right times. (of course, I am one of those people lmao!). I used to get extremely annoyed by my ex husband when he'd act all silly and goofy. But I think that's because he never seemed to be serious when it was needed. I was the adult in the relationship, and he was like having another child. I guess you could say that ultimately, his immaturity is what made me leave him.
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• United States
8 May 08
I would say that my boyfriend is mature for his age. He is 20 and acts allot older,But I think it is because he was homeless for awaill and had to do allot of growing up. He still is a kid at heart though and that is what makes me like him even more.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
25 Mar 08
Oh sure my hubby has acted immature many of times.LOL And all I do is tell him to grow up! But of course he doesnt.LOL Oh well gotta love him.
@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
25 Mar 08
No, I have not split with someone because they were immature. My husband and I have come very close though because he refused to grow up. He goes through phases every now and again and I want to pull my hair out. He tends to work with young unmarried people who have no families or responsibilities and sometimes he gets that, "It's not fair that they can do whatever they want and I can't!" envy. He needs to be reminded that he is NOT the only one who would like a little freedom once in awhile. I too would like to go out; but we have a young child and we don't know anyone here that we trust leaving her with. He also knows, all he has to do is say the word and he can have all the freedom he wants because he will be alone! I have no problem with him having his own hobbies and doing his own thing sometimes. I am very supportive of his hobbies. But to treat his family like we are a hinderance to the life he thinks he should have? I am not going to deal with that, and he knows he could very well not have his family anymore. After 4 months of being here on his own last year and not being happy...he gets it now. He is like a different person. I thought maybe it was a passing phase and he would revert back to his old ways but it has been 9 months and things are still looking up.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
25 Mar 08
no I have never broken up with anyone because immaturity, I have always chosen my boyfriends based on maturity my partner now of eight years is very mature, but he is also 59 years old, and I am 53
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
25 Mar 08
Yes my man is immature sometimes. I love him anyway, lol. Sometimes it is downright charming. He loves video games and tends to have a "put it off til later" attitude but he's still a great guy and sometimes I enjoy his childishness.
@Jody20 (887)
• Netherlands
24 Mar 08
I told my ex boyfriend several to grow up but he didn't listen so i left him. I really frustrated me that he couldn't behave like a father to our daughter, and that he was acting totally immature and childish. After two years i couldn't stand it any more and left him.