Who are the bigger cheaters? MEN? or women??

United States
March 24, 2008 5:16pm CST
Okay. so i just read a discussion on men being the biggest cheaters. But never saw anything on women. really who are the beggest cheaters? men or women. my personal opinion. I would have to say women. while yes i am male and that does influence my opinion, some hear me out. i am a millitary child. i grew up all over the U.S. and lived in several places. (currently living right next to an army base) I dont know how many times i have seen someones father get shipped out to sea or over seas and seen the mother go out and mess around on the father. while it does happen to women that are in our millitary services as well. it is 9 times more likely that a woman will cheat. lets try not to play up the "he is over seas, we don't know what he's doing card" because i know. some men do cheat when they are over seas but give me a break. And lets not even touch the "he cheated on me first" card. because it is your own fault if you are still with a man that cheated on you in the first place. And what about the average joe that gets cheated on for working hard to provide for his loved one. speaking from personal experience here. I have been cheated on a couple of times because i worked a 9-5. I busted my @$$ for a woman so she wouldnt have too. and lok were it got me. I won't say all women cheat.(other wisei wouldnt have the great fiance i have now) But i will say women are the bigger cheaters.
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@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
5 Apr 08
Hey this is a very controversial topic, this would have been flooded with comments from ladies hehehe. Anyway I cannot say women are more cheaters than men, perhaps it depends also to the situation, to a certain place, and to their culture, so theres a lot of factors to be considered.
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@busta1baby (1230)
• United States
22 Apr 08
i say its an equal thing
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
10 Apr 08
Good day to you, bro. ;) I think that you will be flooded with lots of answers from different ladies, I'm pretty sure of that, LOL. But I take it this as a part tongue-in-cheek discussion plus a serious discussion. So, it's mix so the flow is not that all too serious yea. I sort of agree with you but then, I might be labeled a sexist. So, I have to play the fair guy here and say that the number might be equal, but who knows? What I do know and will confirm attribute to this discussion is that women nowadays are more daring into cheating their partners; be it their spouses, boyfriends etc. I think society nowadays play fair and there's a fine line that says, women are up to what men can. So, I think the world's fair, in this particular point. I've seen some of my lads crying their hearts out and getting their hearts broken for women, and at the same time I do have women friends pouring their hearts out because of men. So, it is vice-versa and I think that the correct answer might be, women are more inclined to cheating and hence cheat because of men. Erm, please don't bash me ladies, -smiles-. But I think the universal world sort of works that way. Men started everything first, and the women follow through. So, bro, let's take the rap here; we men tend to cheat more then the women follow. Therefore, let's all stop cheating shall we and create more peaceful relationships. I hope so. ;)
@alex143 (69)
• Philippines
10 Apr 08
for me,man are the bigger cheaters compare to women i think,,,even though im boy but i really prefer the girl because in my observation,girls are trying hard to be a educated person... take care always
• Norway
4 Apr 08
Generally, men are cheaters. They are born that way. But im not saying that women dont because I know a friend of mine who have cheated his man. For me, it depends upon the person if he/she can or will control himself/herself to the urge of being attracted to someone else other than his/her partner.. And if that person value their relationship and his/her partner, then he/she will not do things that will ruin what they have.
@mefadon3 (296)
• United States
4 Apr 08
Men are the biggest cheaters, women are more deceptive then men when it comes to cheating. The thing is that society has grown to accept the fact that men cheat more, and they frown upon women when they do it. Since it is more socially acceptable, men cheat more. Hence the phrase, Men will be men.
• United States
25 Mar 08
This is an interesting discussion. I think that men cheat more than women but not that much more. I know a lot of women who cheat too so I can understand where you're coming from. Although statistics show that men cheat more than women, I think in a few years the numbers will be even. It's so sad.
• Malaysia
25 Mar 08
In my opinion men are bigger cheaters, but women are smaller cheaters. Hm,, actually I think men usually cheat on big matters but not quit often but women usually cheat on small matters but quit often.
• United States
25 Mar 08
I think that men are the biggest CHEATERS because some men are very sneaky.I am not saying that women don't cheat because a lot of them do also.Some men think its alright to cheat and may have 2 or 3 females that he sleep with.While telling each one of them that they are the only one when it in fact he knows its a lie.Men can lie with a straight face.
• United States
26 Mar 08
Hey mikebowser, It's good to see another human-being that's not afraid to stand up and actually say what they think.......especially on gender/race issues as they're equally synonymous in many ways and just as politically incorrect to speak in tones of truth. ;-) I whole-heartedly agree with you having witnessed the very same things as you be-it in other places and circumstances, but mostly by the here & now conduct of women with me as I meet them or muich later as they move and jockey into a position of trust to 'make thier move' to get what they want. Females are MUCH WORSE than men for the simple fact of how they're wired. They, emotionally based, while males, visually and conquest/acheivement based, most commonly manifested in work/war. Too short of an answer I know, but it's what I've witnessed. Thanks for posting your question.
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
25 Mar 08
yes you are bias with your answer... men and women are different in every aspect.. their principles in life... their opinion... their interest... how they grow and what are their interest... if you would say only men but their are also a lot of women who does...it says that there is always exemption in every rule... and love only rule... so cheating somehow is reasonable
@whiteheron (4222)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I am sorry that you were cheated on... sounds like you had it hard... I am hoping that things go well with you and your fiance. I would say that both sometimes cheat... I have seen though more men cheat than women. I usually suspect that a man is cheating when he is extremely jealous and accuses his wife of cheating on him. I have seen some woman come in and say that their husbands were cheating on them for years and all that time were hell to live with because they accused their mates of cheating. I notice that most men want to be forgiven when they cheat and think that their women should just take them back without any questions, without them having to drop the extramarital relationship and without being now more monitored by their wives. It is interesting to me how quickly often the men get angry and upset when they find that after they cheated for several years, their neglected wife cheated on them a few months and how unwilling they are often to forgive or to take their women back. It seems that some men are still back in the days of the King and I: "A woman is a flower. A man is a bee. A bee can go from flower to flower but a flower must never go from bee to bee." There is still a double standard about cheating and men get away with it more than women do.
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
27 Mar 08
I've been with my bf for almost 5 years and he's my first. Never got a problem about cheating. However,i would say equal. It's not like men or women are cheater from nature but it's from the circumstances. In a relationship, spending time with the wife or husband is important in ..bed... It's something natural and also the main key for a happy couple. As a millitary or a business woman or man who doesn't spend alot of time at home will have more chnaces to see his or her partner cheating. Unless the partner is patient enough to wait months until the other comes back.
• India
29 Mar 08
its both of them. both of them are cheating one another and themselves too...!
@ciades (1623)
• Philippines
25 Mar 08
I am a woman and im a victim of my past boyfreind thru cheating. But Im not totally believe that man is the more cheater to compare to a woman. For me, No difference. It's just the same. Man and Woman are both human who tempt and weak. Unlucky those who have a partner like this and Lucky who those not. One time me and my friend interrogating regarding " why man cheat? Mostly reasons are because woman tempt them and they just only a man who can't refuse with it. LOUSY ANSWER. My friend added, its a mistake of woman who tempted the man. I asked him why you think so? And she answered; Coz if the woman didn't tempted the man. Man could not and never happened that he can cheat to his partner. Still a LOUSY REASON. Yeah, We know that a man is a man. Very sensitive and aggressive. But, Those reasons for me are not accepted. I believe, To be faithful is hard to do but When you LOVE someone you can possibly avoid any temptation and conquer all. You can say "NO" or "STOP". or RUN and say BYE only to avoid it. It's probably a CHOICE. Same as to woman.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
25 Mar 08
Here's a "discussion" I responded to (and its not the one I think you are talking about). In case its deleted, there are a few links that should be looked at. In terms of divorce and cheating, its not always men walking out on their wife or families. There are times the wife took the family out from under him after decades of effort. How about other implications of women cheating? Barely anyone addresses it (and worse some actually AGREE with it). Anyways, consider paternity fraud. Not only is that low on society's scale, some people (mostly women) have no problem with it. Its just fine for some sucker, I meant "husband", to pay for a child that isn't his. In fact many state laws and local courts enforce this. But maybe I'm alone in seeing the problem here. 'Perhaps there is no problem and this is a-okay... -_-' (/sarcasm) http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2008/03/12/why-do-men-cheat_n_91210.html http://www.nypost.com/seven/03022008/news/regionalnews/miss_leading_100063.htm http://pajamasmedia.com/2007/10/ask_dr_helen_6.php http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Psychological-Reasons-Women-Cheat-More-than-Men&id=738666 I cannot say who cheats more as statistics can only show so much, and propaganda is a commonality in this aspect of society. While the arguments for which gender is the biggest cheater wages on, isn't lovely how one argument tries to downplay the other? Depending on where you are, the stories, the fiction, the news always displays a man cheating or leaving a woman. In those, you see some very disgusting accounts. However, on the net, on forums, on blogs... there are stories where women have left men... and way harsher than I could imagine. Rarely is any of this covered on mainstream media. The worst part is, there seems to be a growing cynicism, mistrust and disgust from women at men (and now slowly, a backlash occuring in vice versa). This can only amount to worse things as dating, relationship and marriage woes continue... and as the years go by.
• United States
25 Mar 08
as your posting says, that women are more, but it goes both ways. it's a matter of people. also, how do you define cheating?
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
24 Mar 08
It doesn't matter if you are male or female. They both cheat. Some are just better hiders than others mind you. You always hear about the man cheating. Blah blah blah I am so sick of this stereotype. Women are just as bad as men are. I have well seen too many families and lives be destroyed by the military, army, navy etc. I hate people saying "he/she is over seas and doing what they please" "he/she did it first" You are to blame for staying with a person that has already cheated on you. Get a grip on life and move on if you think that you are going to play that sympathy card with me. For those of you that have burned or scorned by a cheating. I'm sure we have all learned something not to be the one cheating. As we already know the feelings, emotions etc that we experienced in these circumstances. I can't generalize who is the biggest cheater. So I will say 50/50 on this one as you don't hear many women even admitting that they have cheated. I am sure there are alot more out there than we realize.
@sanzi1201 (644)
• China
25 Mar 08
Sometimes,it's hard to have a clear conclusion to say "who is the biggest cheater" Most of the person in the world are nice man,I think.
@wenyusa (30)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I think that the idea that men are the biggest cheaters comes from the fact the its usually men that are shown as the bad guy. Now Your probably thinking that because I am a man that I am biased but by far, you mostly see articles and hear about men cheating on the women. however, I have all too many times seen women cheating on men. I have even been cheated on by my girlfriend. On the radio, there was a whole topic about this and women and men alike both came on and admitted to the world that was listening that they cheated on their significant other. Oddly, as I thought it was probably mostly men at the time, More women admitted it then men so either they want the world to know they did it or there are more women who do it. But I don't know and either does anyone else because you can never know 100% sure.