Walking down a poorly lighted street you suddenly feel some one is following you

@Hatley (164507)
Garden Grove, California
March 24, 2008 11:22pm CST
what would you do if you were walkingalone down a dimly lighted street because you had to be at a certain place that eveningand you suddenly felt that someonewas following you? Ihad not been in Tempe Arizona for very long anddid not know anyone but agreed to meet my husband at a certain cafe we both liked downtown. He was comingfrom work and I was to take a cab but I felt it was too exppensive so just decided to walk as it was only about six blocks. I cut through one section and then began to feel that someone was following me and I hurried to get to the more well lighted streets and I had about four blocks yet to go and the feeling was now really bad. I glanced over my shoulder and there was a man keeping to the shadows but he was definitely following me then I saw a police car that was parked across the street in a service station so I ran over there dodging traffic and told the police officer my problem. He was so kind that he insisted i get in his car and he drove me to that cafe and my husband almost fainted to see his quite pregnant wife getting out of a police car. I was so luckythat the police officer was willing to do that. My hubby scolded me for not having used a cab. The officer told us that he had radioed for another car and that they had picked up the man following me. The man was definitely psychotic.
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@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
25 Mar 08
Hi there... This definetly sounds like a book I read the other night called "11 Hours", luckily in your situation there was a cop on hand. Good to hear that you were safe, who knows what could've happened if that police car was not in your sights. Anyway next time I would definetly call the cab, especially being very pregnant and all, no matter how expensive it was. A persons safety and life is more expensive then money. Have a great day and be safe lady, I hope you can meets some neat friends soon...
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 08
Yes I was so young and so foolish andtook such a risk just to save six dollars but that was a long time back.
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@GhostCat (313)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I am very glad you said you came away safe that can be very scary. I was somewhat amazed to read that it had happened almost 50 years ago, but then this kind of thing can happen at any time and in any place. I am in my mid 50s and have spent a lot of my adult life walking alone at night, but I am not sure I would have done so if pregnant, especially if I were very far along. But during my time at University, I spent a lot of time with other women build up our self confidence. We wanted to be strong, independent women. We took classes in how to take care of ourselves, we took self defense classes and what I remember the preached most, it, be very aware of your surroundings, behave as though your are strong, walk with a purpose, (that is don't not show fear), and always be aware of stores or police stations you can run to. I try to keep these things in mind. I try not to do really stupid things, I try to be as safe as possible. I try to stick to busy, well light streets when walking alone. I try to walk with a group or at least one other person when possible. And now days, I carry a cell phone, something it took me a long time to warm to, but they are a nice safety feature. And I make sure my cell phone has a GPS unit in it, that the cell is always on, and that it is handy for me to grab in an emergency. When I must go out at night by myself, whether driving, walking or taking a cab I let a friend know where I am going, when I am leaving and when I expect to return, and I make sure that I call a friend when I return home. Just as I expect friends to do with me. We try to watch out for each other. That is what friends and family are for. It is just like when I drive someone home from dinner or a movie a night, I always wait to make sure they are safely in their home or apartment, have a ligt on and single to me prior to my leaving the area, and if they do not I will call the police to come and check them out. Because you can be too safe.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Mar 08
You are so right we should learn how to defend ourselves because that would be so empowering. also I learned after the fact to always be aware of your surroundings.
@GhostCat (313)
• United States
30 Mar 08
Probably the reason that I and the other young women that I was in college was in college with leaned a number of the things we did because of your experience and th experiences of other women like you. Your son must have been born around the same time I was or just a few years later. And when I was at University in the early 70s there were a lot of things that we did that were very empowering, such as classes in protecting ourselves. But it is important that we pass this information and lessons on to our children and grandchildren. I am still glad you got through your ordeal safely.
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@GhostCat (313)
• United States
31 Mar 08
I am with you, I think we all need refresher courses as we get older. We must be as active in our silver and golden years as we were in our youth and demand that we get the courses and the education, from the YWCA, the Police department, or our Churches, Temples, Mosques, etc. But until we get them we must be as clever as possible and keep ourselves as safe as possible. We must share ideas, and listen to our children. And remember to lock our doors and when we go out maybe we need to always go out with other people, and possibly we should go back to our just out of school days and have 3 or 4 room mates, although I really hate the thought of sharing my space with so many people, but dogs are always goods, even small dogs can help protect you. And I have heard tell that pets keep us younger as well. They force use to get out and about when we take the dog for a walk for example and do not alwy keep us from talking to other people. They give us some courage as well. I think maybe a dog would be a good idea.
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• Singapore
26 Mar 08
Firstly, stay calm and walk slowly as though nothing happens first. Wait till you suspect that he is up to no good then you carry out any action by looking around for something that can be used as a weapon. Lastly, just use it to hit the man till he runs off or you run off if you are not confident enough.
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@aenasao (129)
• China
26 Mar 08
that's the last way to take to use a weapon,please assume that she is a preganant woman,it will be very dangerous to battle with the psychotic man;if a man was followed by another man,your plan will be workable though it's not the best.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Mar 08
I think the best thing to do is to not put yourself in such a situation again as I could have lost my baby and maybe my life it was not worth saving six dollars
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
11 Apr 08
oohh, thats scared me...Glad and im thankful that your safe. If that will happened to me maybe i will walked faster and i will not bother to turned back at whatever who followed me..And look someone that i can turn to.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Apr 08
Thanks for the response that was a long timeago
• United States
28 Mar 08
You did the right thing. Thank God it worked out for you. I once years ago sensed someone was following me. I was right...he took me from behind dragged me to a secluded area and proceeded to rob and rape me. He was never caught.
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Mar 08
lolalolacherrycola Iam so sorry to hear what happened to you that is such a shame and they never caught the guy that figures. I will bet you are a whole lot more careful now.
• China
26 Mar 08
It's lucky you find the police. Your husband is right. It's dangerous for a woman with nobody walking down in poorly lighted street.and especially you are pregnant just be careful and go by taxi then. Send my wishes to the police
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Mar 08
Looking back over all these years I cannot believe how foolish that I was.
@aenasao (129)
• China
26 Mar 08
I never came across such things before,yet,i know safety and health is the most important thing in one's life,so,next time you go out,take a cab no matter how much it will cost you.if people meet such situation,i think the most important is keeping calm(though it's difficult) and then try to find a crowded place or maybe you can go into a supermarket,anyway,you should find a place with some other persons;if possible,call the police cause it will not only save you but also save other pedesrians potentially.
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Mar 08
definitely take a cab that is for sure.
• United States
26 Mar 08
Wow that was something. It sounded so real kind of like a suspense, when your wrote this. But yea I'm so glad that you were safe. See we need to be careful, what we do, where we go. Everybody in the streets are not always here to be our friend or just fellowship. People are out there to hurt. So I know that was God that protected you. See just imagine if you was not by that station, I think that your conditions would have been a little worst.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Mar 08
God was watching me that night and afterthat I always took a cab rather than place myself in such a situation
@chiyosan (30204)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
You got lucky there was a patrol car nearby. You shouldn't have done that! its a crazy world out there. im glad you are safe. :D
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Mar 08
I was truly lucky and my husand was so upset with mel
@maddysmommy (16235)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I don't know what I would have done if that happened to me. I know I wouldn't be walking if I was pregnant, and it was late at night. I just don't like being on my own at night.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Mar 08
looking back I cannot believe what an idiot I was.
@gemini_rose (16193)
25 Mar 08
It was very lucky that you saw that police officer, how very scary and you pregnant too, I have never been followed. But when I used to walk home alone after a night out, many moons ago, then I would hear sounds and imagine I was being followed. Many times I have belted home in my high heels nearly breaking my neck.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Mar 08
I am so glad you made it home safely specially wih high heels
@clowdine (1402)
• Philippines
25 Mar 08
You did the wise move. The age we have now is unsafe. It's good you saw a police car otherwise, you would have run for your safety but that won't be good for both you and your baby. It is another proof that God really protects the people who love him. Psalms 34:7
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 08
This was a long time ago but I was so naive I cannot believe what a chance I took just to save a few bucks.God had to have been looking out for me because I was so young.
• United States
25 Mar 08
I can't walk outside at night alone. I am too afraid to do this. I can be walking with someone and feel this way. I just run screaming like a loose fool.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 08
I was young and very pregnant and was so dumb about taking a cab. I just assumed I would be safe.
• United States
25 Mar 08
That is great,the officer giving you a ride.A lot won't anymore.I am glad you are safe....we can never be too careful.You did the right thing.
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Mar 08
that was oh my gosh it was forty nine years ago as my son will now be fifty in June. I was so scared and I was sso big and clumsy so when I saw that police car I knew what I had to do.