My daughter became a "woman"

@vicki2876 (5640)
Canada
March 25, 2008 9:46am CST
Last night my 12 year old daughter started her menstrual cycle. She was scared and actually cried. We had talked about it before many times but it was a shock when it actually happened. I am feeling a bit OLD now to have a daughter at this stage of life. How old were you when you started? If you have daughters, have you talked about it and how do you feel about them having it?
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@academic2 (7010)
• Uganda
25 Mar 08
My son will be 15 tomorrow, and alredy the guy has a deep voice and he could as well be considered a man! That is life vicki, we must soon have to leave the stage to them, but our parenting responsibilities are called for more now than before-if we relax, they will become adults without a focus in life!
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
25 Mar 08
This is so true. I find many parents taking a step back now but I don't I am considered the strick parent. But the response they have about however their parents feel about things they respond "they don't care" We should all care what they do. They also say I am the coolest. How about that.
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@raychill (6530)
• United States
25 Mar 08
My mom actually cried when I got mine. I was 10... or I may have *just* turned 11. I can't really remember. But I know I was pretty young and none of my friends had gotten theirs and it was still a few years before they got theirs. I didn't care. It was never a big deal to me. My mom cried when I started shaving too.
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• United States
25 Mar 08
Sounds like your mom didn't like seeing her little girl grow up! Lots of moms are like that! They want you to stay little.
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@raychill (6530)
• United States
25 Mar 08
pretty much. which is also why i've already told my mom if I ever get married she cannot plan the wedding and that she cannot be in the room if i ever have a baby. I'd rather enjoy that stuff than have her make me angry.
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
25 Mar 08
She sounds very emotional however very loving.
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@rpegan (598)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I started when I was nine. We'd already had a class about it at school, but my mother was also very open about the subject at home. I wasn't scared- just a little confused. It was unexpected since I was so young. I don't know if I could manage to tell a girl that she's going to be bleeding and in pain once a month for several years.
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
25 Mar 08
wow that is young. I knew a woman's whose daughter started at 8. It wasn't a big deal to them cause all the women in there family started around then. Our family were all 12 so we knew it was coming but still a shock.
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• Philippines
26 Mar 08
That's so young! But then again, I did have some classmates who started around 10 as well.
@di1159 (1580)
• United States
25 Mar 08
Hello! My daughter started her's recently as well. She is also 12. I started when I was 12 too so maybe it runs in the family? We had talked about it many times and she had some classes in school about it so she was pretty ready. Also many of her friends had it, so she was actually happy about it. And yes, I felt old too! We also now discuss our cycles and when she is due so that we can keep track and make sure she is regular, even though the doctor told me she could be irregular for the first year or so. Hope all goes well for you and her!
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
27 Mar 08
Thanks I think there is a link in the family too
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• United States
25 Mar 08
i was outside in shorts and i was 12 when i got mine my mom had a neighbor lady tell and show me what to do my daughter is only 5 so i have a little while yet
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
25 Mar 08
That was nice of her. It isn't something we forget eh? Before you know it she will be starting. Time flies!!!!
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@lilybug (21148)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I was 10 when I started. I remember I was at school at the time. Not a good place to start. My daughter is only 14 months old, so I have quite awhile before I have to deal with it here.
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
25 Mar 08
Oh that would have been hard at school. At least she was home. You were a bit young to start. You do have a way to go for her LOL However you blink and they grow up. :(
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@kimbers867 (2540)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I can remember the day in 4th grade when the teacher showed us the movie about how our bodies were changing. Then I went home and told my dad everything. He was so cool, he sat there and listen. I didn't get mine until I was 15. My oldest is 11 and we are just waiting. For the big day. We started with a book that American Girl puts out - it talks about how your body is changing, etc. I asked her to read it and then we would talk about it. It was very good bonding experience.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
27 Mar 08
I was 13 when I first had it. I don't have a daughter....but my sister (who is 7 years younger) was like my daughter. She started when she was 10...so I couldn't talk to her before that (because I didn't think she would get it that early). But we talked after. I have two boys...but they have other issues (which I am not even clear about at this point).
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
27 Mar 08
HEHE I also have two boys. We better start reading up eh? LOL
@SViswan (12071)
• India
29 Mar 08
I tried....couldn't find anything...and my husband's no help either....he says they'll learn on their own...lol I already have the older one asking me things that I can't answer because I don't know! If you do find something that's going to help us out, do let me know.
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@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
26 Mar 08
WOW it must feel weird. I can't even imagine that. My little girl is shy of 6... so she still has a few more years ahead of her but the thought of that just is so weird! It must have been surreal for you. When that day comes for her, I imagine myself pulling out her baby pictures not believing how much she has grown up! Gosh... but eventually I'll have to start talking about it with her too, okay there is still time, thank goodness!!
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
27 Mar 08
You know how I feel then LOL
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
28 Mar 08
So not ready for it.. and won't be even when its time lol
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I couldnt tell you when i started..probably around the same age as my daughter (she started at 12 too)....I didnt get the "talk" from my mother in fact I had to learn about it from health class at school ...My daughter started a few months ago but its still not a regular thing yet...I dont imagine it will be for another yr or so actually...How do I feel? LOL well I pity the men in my house for starters cause my daughter and I are both VERY cranky during "that time" ..I have a hard time with the fact that my kids are growing up BUT at the same time I love it becaue they are going from being amazing kids to being amazing teens and it'll continue on to them being amazing adults ya know....
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
27 Mar 08
LOL I told the men already to watch out. She was cranky just before it happened and the first day. While I am a super crank at that time. Everyone watch out us women are on a rampage.
@sacmom (14315)
• United States
26 Mar 08
Aw, I'm sorry she cried. I started when I was 13 years old. I wasn't scared as I knew this day would come, but I was bit embarrassed that I had another 'woman issue' (the other being boobs and bras LOL) and that I would have to ask my mom to buy pads for me. Or worse yet, go to the store and pick them up myself. Don't start on saying you're old! I'm a bit ahead of you so if you're old then I am too! LOL
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
27 Mar 08
LOL Okay not old. But my baby is growing up Wahhhhh!
@AmbiePam (49883)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I was ten years old when I 'started.' My mom had never talked to me about it personally because I had seen her talk to my older sister about it. I also don't think she expected me to have my period that young, since my older sister was 12 when she started. I wasn't scared, just annoyed. We were on vacation and I was having horrible cramps.
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
27 Mar 08
It would have been a real shock for us too if she started at ten. Thanks
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@kezabelle (2985)
26 Mar 08
I have two girls (my poor partner lol) although at only 2 and 4 they are not ready for that talk just yet, i do like that idea mentioned of a womens day when it does happen. All i know is I hope they can come and talk to me about it and im going to do my best to make sure that happens
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@sanzi1201 (644)
• China
26 Mar 08
A girl is more troubled than boy,I think.After she having the custom to do it ,it'll be OK.Don't worry!
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
26 Mar 08
hmm.. its a crucial point in life. all women goes through this. i had my first at 10 years. i did not even know about this, i was so scared.
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@speedy1279 (2667)
• United States
26 Mar 08
Starting the menstrual cycle in my family comes at a early age. My mom was 11 when she started and I was 10 when I started. It was very scary. I don't remember if my mom had talked to me about it before. But I do remember running out of the bathroom crying. Then my mom sat me down and explained everything to me. So if the cycle continues to run early in my family, then I supect my daughter will have about another 6 years before she starts. She will be 5 in December. I guess in a few more years I will need to start talking to her about it.
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@Courtom (288)
• Canada
26 Mar 08
I had mine when i was 12. It didn't help that my mother was laughing and making it a big deal. It was what pushed me to tears... that and my hormones and PMS, lol
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@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
25 Mar 08
i also get my first cycle when i am about 12 years old... i can still remember the date and year vividly actually... i am scared as well as i see so much blood... but since my mother already tells me before, so i already know about it and prepared... when it comes, i just call my mum and and she helps me with it... congratulations to your daughter anyway... she is an adult now...
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• Philippines
25 Mar 08
I don't really remember how old I was when I started I just remembered I was in High School. I never talked about it to my daughter but I did aware her of what will happen soon. She is 16 now. I think she got it around 13 or 14.
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• United States
28 Mar 08
I was 15 when I got mine. The girls today get it so much younger. Must be all the hormones in the cow's milk, LOL. My daughter is 7. I can't even imagine her starting her period in 5 years. I hope she's a late bloomer, LOL.
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
30 Mar 08
I was thinking or rather hoping she would be a late bloomer too. We are vegetarian and have a low dairy intake too so I thought it would maybe effect it.