Gossiping

India
March 26, 2008 7:39am CST
what happens if u find ur friend is backstabbing at u? will u get angry,forgive him ,hit him etc..................
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15 responses
@mark076 (43)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
26 Mar 08
I would probably forgive him/her, but our relationship would then never be the same...
• India
26 Mar 08
I guess it should be better to sort out such a situation by talking
• Philippines
29 Mar 08
well you know i only have a few friends, literally i only have few friends most of them are highschool.. and some college classmate that become my friends, and unfortunately in our course we are only a few. and the said thing is we are backstabbing each other, and something we even do some crab mentality... well, i did always criticize them, and it turn out to be a backstab, since they misunderstood everything, but they are my friends, my few friends, that is why that doesn't affect me anymore, instead it makes our friendship grow old, although sometime it's hard to accept that they are once your enemy, but we set aside our pride and learn from that experience... in that way, every time their is trouble, or if someone needs help we voluntarily lend our hand to them even if we have misunderstanding... and after that, we confront and make up.
• Philippines
29 Mar 08
I will give him a dose of his own medicine.Of course I won't forgive him and do the most hurting things to him because he hurt me too.
@gina2008 (248)
27 Mar 08
One of "best friends" really upset me. I was going though a nasty divorce and he called her. The two were on the phone for over an hour and she didn't even tell me. I found out through HIM. I had to ask her before she told me. I think that is just WRONG. WRONG! It's not even like the two of them were friends to begin with. That was so backstabbing. She is married to top it off! I feel she should have told him she didn't want to get involved. That's what I feel a TRUE BEST FRIEND WOULD DO. I can't even talk to her today.
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
27 Mar 08
what comes around, goes around...i just ignore it and they usually get what they deserve because of karma...
@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
27 Mar 08
It depends a bit what it is all about. If it is a serious matter he would no longer be my friend. If it was a minor thing I'd talk to him about it before I decide. I really do not need a friend that stabs me in the back. But I am for second chances for the ones that ask for them.
• India
27 Mar 08
I guess I will be upset, very sad and hurt but won't hit back for sure. I have been in such a situation before and that is all I did. But yes, I will not forgive him for that action, may be never in a lifetime, irrespective of how things appear to be on the surface between him and me. We may appear to be friends on the surface but then I don't think I am capable of forgiving someone like that!
@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
26 Mar 08
I know what you feel about that.Happen whith me too.But I never forgive. Whoever do that is not a friend. Better to keep this person far from you forever.
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
initially, i will get hurt. then i'll just pray for forgiveness, that i'd be able to forgive him or her and that he or she will realize his or her wrongdoing. as Corrie Ten Boom wrote: "Avoid gossip and slander. We shall all be judged one day by the standards of Jesus, not man. We have to answer only to God for our actions. Remember, as you point one finger at another person, three fingers of your hand point back at you." the Bible also has something to say on gossip: "Why, then, criticize your brother's actions, why try to make him small? We shall all be judged one day, not by each other's standards or even our own, but by the standard of Christ." (Romans 14:10)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
if one of my friend backstabbed me, i will not be mad at my friend especially if the gossip he is scattering is not true. of course i will forgive him....
• India
26 Mar 08
It has happened 2 me b4. My best frend really broke my heart. I was so sad, angry, betrayed, and all the most hurt. I never sopke to her, nor forgave her, coz the hurt she caused was immense.
• India
26 Mar 08
I will forgive him. But, when someone is backstabbing it means he is not fit to be a good friend. So I will try to stay away from such person.
@k8lyn07 (72)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
its better to talk about it privately with him/her. Because hitting him/her back again can make things worst. and its better if he/she approaches first to fix it over. And the next time, adjust with it.
@popocan (222)
• Hong Kong
26 Mar 08
I don't have a friend like this. If it does happen, I guess I'll be very upset and I won't see him again for the rest of my life. Friends are meant to be truthful, supportive and caring that they'll never ever do such an evil thing to you.
@wnbwnbwnb (427)
• China
26 Mar 08
I will not hit him back,but I will never forgive him!NEVER! People like him doesn't worth mentioning!