Are you a needy spouse/ partner? Or a laid back one?

United States
March 26, 2008 10:40am CST
I ask this because I think that I am both. I can be very clingy towards my husband at times. Seriously there are days where I just want to be mushy and lovey dovey. Other days I'm like will you please go and hang out with your friends..LOL. My husband and I do spend most of our free time together. He goes out every once in awhile for a guys night of band practice and I will go out with the girls. But like I said most of the time we are together. I think if this were to change I would become more needy though. I love the time we spend together. We hang out with the kids and play or we just act like dorks! :) But if I didnt have that I would be an emotional mess. I havent ever asked him to be there constantly he just is and has been since the beginning of our relationship. If he says he wants a guy night he gets it, but only on the basis that he isnt doing anything disrespectful to me...And like I said its usually band practice..So what are you? Are you the needy type that has to be with your significant other at all times..or do you just let them come and go as they please and not worry about it? Just curious :)
3 responses
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
26 Mar 08
I have to say that I am both. My fiance is gone almost 8 months of the year so when he gets back we are very clingy lovey dovey towards eachother. The same with before he goes back. It's very hard at times but it is working for us right now as he would never be making the money he is now if he were to stay here. Not that money is the big factor here its just the life style that we live. We don't mind this at all right now. But I am sure once the kids start coming or if we decide to have kids down the road he would like to be home more often.
• United States
26 Mar 08
Im guessing military wife right :) I give you complete kudos that you are strong enough to do that. I couldnt..I would be an emotional mess! :)
• Canada
26 Mar 08
Nope not military wife at all. He works on the pipeline. They stay in camps where the girlfriends / wives aren't aloud to be in. So basically like a military wife. When they stay in hotels. And sometimes they do I can go out and visit. But most of the time they are in camps. It's very hard and shows alot for our relationship of how much trust we put into eachother. It sure has made us stronger. I knew when I started dating him that he was a pipeliner. And once a pipeliner always a pipeliner till you retire. I don't really mind at all. I get the best of both worlds. When he is away I stay with my parents in the city. So I get to see all my city friends, family etc. And when I am in the country I get to see him and his family. If I stayed out in the country when he was away I would honestly go nuts. It's in the middle of nowhere and you don't even get cell service. And there is no point getting a place in the city so my parents are more than happy when I come home to them. Plus they have a cook when they get home from work. And light duties providing my back can with hold it.
• United States
27 Mar 08
Yeah thats definitley close enough to military. Its awesome that you can do that. I dont think I would really be able to handle it..Especially with the fact that we have children. And it does say a lot about the strength of your relationship! Good for you! :)
@rmuxagirl (7570)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I don't think I am a needy spouse. I like to be around my boyfriend but I don't go crazy if I'm not. I'm not jealous if he has women friends or anything. We both have our own personalities and lives. Doing seperate things helps us keep that in mind, but we also love doing things together.
• United States
27 Mar 08
Your right about keeping your own personality and life. My husband and I do do our own thing, but mostly its when he is at work and Im at home..lol..I think sometimes he is needy :)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I'm not really clingy but more dependent on him. For a lot of things down to what we are going to eat for dinner. There are times I will surprise him but for the most part I am dependent on him. I guess because I didn't have him around for a year because of a deployment from the Army so I have become dependent on him. We spend a lot of time together especially since he works around 12 hours a day and sometimes saturdays too. He will go sometimes to the mens bible study once a week by himself and I will go by myself to the womens bible study. But that is our time away from each other.
• United States
26 Mar 08
Im sure deployments are hard. You are a strong woman to be able to handle it :) Thanks for your response :)