30 Mar 08
well, you cannot really say that the people who stick with you when you are feeling down can be your true friends. sometimes they just come to comfort you and show encouragements where in fact they up to something in return. well it's not base on experience but as what i observe in the people around me. they also think that i tolerate their doings, yes i do tolerate them, when they do that to other people. but when they are trying to do that to me i refuse to tell them, and just deny. and instead of talking to them, i hide my emotions for a while, while hanging out with them and when i can sense that they are concern and that the time i somehow share my bad experience and/ or problems. in that way they cannot compromise me when need me for something that that is not good.. but of course i will help them if they really are in trouble. but i myself hate it when i'm not true to them, well i do realize everything i did although sometimes i am insensitive that but when i realize it, i do make up with them. and that i think is a good way to find true friends...
27 Mar 08
Time will tell if your so-called friends will stay with you or leave you. Of course the best time to know a friend's true color is when you are down and they are still there to lift you up. I think, Monica in "Marimar" is a bit excellent example because she was always beside her wicked friend even if she already knew she was the evil one. However, there was also the fear factor in that case so I won't really recommend her one hundred percent. What I was trying to point out is that sometimes we make mistakes and people turn their back on us because they think we are not trustworthy. But a true friend will still be there to help us pick up the remaining pieces and put them back together. In my case, I don't have a friend who really knows everything about me. I still keep some secret for myself and the only true friend I can trust is Jesus. He's the only One who I can tell everything without being shy and I don't have to worry that He will tell them to others.
27 Mar 08
I don't think that there's an easy way to know whether a person will stick with you even during bad times. There's no huge, glittery pointing sign telling others whether the said "friend" will stick with you come what may but there is one thing I base my faith it. If a person becomes your friend not because he/she has need of something which only you can give, and if he/she understands you though your opinions on matters may differ then there's an 80% chance that that person with sick with you through the end.