What will you act when your spouse says negative words about you?

@youless (91076)
Guangzhou, China
March 27, 2008 11:15am CST
Lately I bought a dancing carpet at home to do some exercises at usual. My husband saw it and said I had a terrible dancing look. He teased that fortunately we had no daughter. He couldn't believe if our daughter danced like this Well, I think sometimes I have a high EQ in this aspect. I know my husband likes to tease me sometimes. He does it for fun. So I don't mind it at all. Sooner or later I can tease him when he needs my help. In order to give him a lesson, I ask him to have a try. And he didn't dance better than me. Actually he made all the dancing settings in a mess because he didn't know how to play it yet.
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• United States
29 Mar 08
I don't take to teasing well.If I were married and my husband said the same exact thing to me, he would be locked out of the house until he Really apologized.And I don't mean a bouquet of flowers and a " I 'm sorry" but I real apology.This is why you are happily married and I am not married at all. But then again any guy who wants to stay with me will know that I take teasing seriously, I mean if you say it, you must really mean it or why would you say it? So saying something mean spirited Must mean you don't like me.
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@youless (91076)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Mar 08
But sometimes we don't have to be so serious to it. Just take it easy and you will be happier
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• United States
30 Mar 08
No. I don't take teasing lightly.It is a form of insult to me.
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@dpk262006 (56105)
• Delhi, India
28 Mar 08
OH! It is not good that your spouse discouraged you through his negative remarks. He should not have. You see it is very easy to say negative words about anybody ....but it is difficult to appreciate someone. And you must tell your husband that little appreciation does wonder to one's confidence (in this case your) and performance. I would say, you please continue with your exercise and dancing carpet.....you purchased it after giving it a serious thought, so please do not feel guilty about it. Enjoy it.
@youless (91076)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Mar 08
I don't mind my husband's negative words to me as it needs some time for him to learn that pleasing a wife is better than making her mad
@dpk262006 (56105)
• Delhi, India
28 Mar 08
Hopefully, he would learn in due course of time. Best of Luck!
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@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
30 Mar 08
You dealt it very well, youless, he would be cautious the next time he teases you!LOL! I am glad that you people do it just for fun and don't take it too serious but in a way it should be taken between relationships. I liked the way how you turned an apparently negative looking thing into a positive fun thing, I really appreciate! We do tease each other, youless, quite a lot, but like you, all in fun. But, our teasing is not about negative words for the other. I don't know if I have understood it right or saying it right but we do tease without saying any negative words or at least we don't mean anything negative. We both know each other and we enjoy it a lot together. None of us has 'ever' taken it as an offense because I know that she is one of the sincerest and loving person to me and she too knows very well how I feel about her.
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@youless (91076)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Mar 08
It seems that he likes teasing me with negative words
• Philippines
29 Mar 08
Hi.. Im not married yet but in my relationship with my boyfriend, I dont mind him telling me negative things. Though he said those things in a funny way or teasing me. Its like giving me an opportunity of becoming perfect, though I know no one is perfect. Its good that your partner see your flaws and what matters is he accepts and loves you despite of everything, right? =)
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@youless (91076)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Mar 08
Thanks for your response.
@GardenGerty (98106)
• United States
29 Mar 08
If both of you can laugh at what he is saying, then it is okay. Something is a joke only if all the people involved find it funny. You of course know him well enough to know that he is teasing, and you can tease him back.
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@youless (91076)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Mar 08
Perhaps a joking can solve any problems
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
29 Mar 08
Whenever my husband says anything negative about me I always tell him thats very nice. And how would he like it if I said something not so nice to him.LOL
@youless (91076)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Mar 08
You are very kind
@williamjisir (22904)
• China
29 Mar 08
Hello dear youless. Nice to read your new discussion again. Well, if my partner says something negative about me, it would depend on how serious it is. If it is just for fun, I would not mind about it at all. But suppose she is really serious about it, I would like to talk to her about that issue. . .
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@youless (91076)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Mar 08
Have a communication in peace is a positive attitude
• Nigeria
28 Mar 08
You can teach Him how to dance if u know better than Him
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@youless (91076)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Mar 08
I am not very good at dance, to be frank.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
28 Mar 08
]i think just take them in positive way. i know it is easier to say than done. you can also invite him to dos o. and then you can tease him.. it will be paying by same coin.
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@youless (91076)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Mar 08
I think he is much more afraid to dance when I am nearby
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
28 Mar 08
i think all spouses act negative sometimes,,but when my sposes says something negative about me my son will against it.he will tell his father the positive way..haha its good to have a son...
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@youless (91076)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Mar 08
Oh, I am lucky to have a son, too. When my husband picks on him, then he will go to report it to me
@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
27 Mar 08
I prefer a husband with a guts, funny humors with opposing arguments, they explain themselves better. I'm glad you had such enjoyable husband, don't waste him :)
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@youless (91076)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Mar 08
He will be so glad to hear that
@busta1baby (1238)
• United States
22 Apr 08
ill say it back if i have to or ill tell him he is being a a**
@youless (91076)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Apr 08
Why not try some positive ways?